To not let him back in the house!

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My husband has gone away for a week, he has taken his bank card and his tablet (our way of transferring money) and has left the kids and I with NOT A PENNY to buy food or nappies or anything.

Who does something like that?

The earliest I am going to be able to speak to him is at 7pm tonight and that is only if he answers his messages (which he conveniently hasn't all morning)

I am SO angry with him!

My theory: some men totally compartmentalise home and work and are incapable of thinking of family commitments when dealing with work.

I have struggled over the years with the fact that DH (who I don't think really enjoys holidays too much anyway) regularly manages to announce he has a work commitment during the time we are meant to be away and he'll have to join us later or leave early. What he forgets is that I'm in the same line of business and know that, for the type of work commitments he's talking about, he would have been consulted in advance before anything was finalised. Therefore when they've consulted him, I'm sure he's only looked at his work diary (where he hasn't written down his holiday, ffs), has not switched his mind on to think something like "Hmm, that's August, better check when that holiday is", and has blithely told the other person that that date is absolutely fine. Grrr.

Annoying isn't it Icimoi

DH will drop everything to fulfil a work commitment, it doesn't matter he has to miss it. He missed the 23 week scan of our second child so when I found out she had died, he was 61 miles away.

When I phoned him to tell him he said 'Do you think I should come back then?'

Drives me mad but I think perhaps it has to be that way, I will attend all the christingle services and sports days (despite also working) and he can concentrate on becoming the main breadwinner and be really dedicated to his work.

I think your original rant was a bit OTT, as for everything else if it works for you, that's fine. Only you know if the situation is abusive and you're adamant it's not. By your own posts it doesn't sound like it is to me either.

I do think you should switch bank though. I'm also with natwest. Just a customer number and pin/password to get in. If it's someone you've paid before there's no need for a card reader. Also I have the app on my phone making it very easy to use. That way should there be an oversight again you can just log on and do it yourself.

Natwest are getting a good rep on here! Will definitely look at them for the future.

Okay, leaving the zombie food aside, you could sort out a long térm menú and start building up the ingredientes. So, this week buy a can/packet of soup and stash it in the kitchen. Next week an extra loaf of bread for the freezer, then an extra packet of ham, packet of pasta, can of tomatoes etc until you could do a few dinners you would look forward to instead of cobbling something together, but don't use it until you need To.

Hope you have some work soon.

Good idea adora, we have a chest freezer so we are looking forward to having the money to fill it with bulk buys!