i told SIL that she was in the worng

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Namechanged because I know people on this in real-life.

SIL (DHs sister) is going on holiday her and her DH and their DCs who are in secondary school.
She is going on holiday this week during school time. It has been booked for months. We have discussed it before and everyone warned her that they probably wouldn't authorise the absence.She just shrugged us off saying they would and she won't have to pay the fine.
I saw her today and she was very pleased with herself. The absence had been authorised because she told them that her mother had cancer and they had to see her.
She even told her DCs to act extra sad and maybe mention it to their teachers.

I said that was an awful thing to lie about and encouraging her DCs to do it was even worse.
She sighed and looked at me like I was an idiot ,and said I don't understand. I think she was unreasonable.

Good for your MIL, how absolutely horrible

Can't believe this is real.

I thought that SIL would be lying to OP as she was embarrassed about unauthorised absence iyswim & just talking shite.

So she told her mum.

I mean seriously, what did she think her mum would do with that info?

She'll probably cut ties with her mum now & blame her for it.

Wonder what her husband thinks of it all.

YANBU. Can't believe she'd put her mum in that position!

Sorry but she is a disgustingly, vile human being to do that to her mother and her children... Never mind the school who WILL have staff there who WILL give a damn and be concerned for children who are really off on holiday and not actually with their granny with cancer...

Dreadful! Poor MIL. I'd slightly love to be a fly on the wall when she goes to talk to the school though...

Good on you and your MIL

By ex used to do this to me to get time off work. According to him I'd had miscarriages, cancer, fallen down the stairs... no wonder his mates looked at me with pity.

Well given that I was told today that leave for the kids would be unauthorised, I will be very pissed off if she gets away with it.

It wont be authorised even though my father has been rushed into hospital in London, that mum cant get back with him as he needs to be driven and they went on the train (enroute to Paris) and I have no local childcare if I need to fetch them so would have to take the kids to stay too far away from school for them to attend. Or take them with me. Either way, no, not authorised!

If the kids mates find out they wil grass them sure as eggs etc. Often happens.

The fine is "only" 60£. What's the deal?

But the whole thing makes no sense anyway. Why would she need absence from school if MIL lives within shopping-in-town distance of the school?

Why wouldn't she have lied about another relative not connected with the school or area?

Anyway I am glad MIL is having none of it, and I would still stay as far out of it as possible. You can still enjoy the moral high ground without taking on role of prize bitch, which I is what you will look like if you do anything pro active on behalf of MIL against her own daughter.

She's a bitch and she is stupid.
Good on your MIL for not putting up with it.

She has left the children in a very ackward position too. :(

Told MIL then just got in the car and left? What a bizarre story.

God, your poor MIL. She is very obviously the bigger and better person here. Good for her for sorting it out.

I'm really shocked, your poor MIL. Good for the dc that MIL isn't being party to the lie, someone has to demonstrate the repercussions of telling nasty vicious lies as their mum doesn't seem to have learnt the lesson. And over a flipping holiday...

I'm so sorry for your Mil. Is your sil normally so cruel and stupid?

Bizarre story, is your SIL normally like this?

Your poor MIL. But good for her for telling the school. Can you either go with her or do something nice like take her out for lunch afterwards.

I once used my a "hospital appointment" that my mum was attending as an excuse to get the afternoon off for a job interview. I didn't give any information as to what was wrong with my mum but still used her in my lie. A few weeks later, my MD bumped into my mum and asked her if everything was ok now. My mum was humiliated and furious with me and I have regretted it ever since. Making up lies to cover your back is one thing but don't involve someone else and expect them to be ok with it.

Good on your MIL for doing the right thing and telling the school. I hope your SIL now gets hit with a fine at the very least.

It was an appalling lie, and taking the piss on all levels. She has now put herself in the position whereby if she needs the sympathy and understanding on the school again because something real has happened then she is unlikely to be believed.

I have very rarely needed leave of absence for my children, but I needed it this week so that they can attend their grandmother's funeral (death last week from cancer) tomorrow. No problem and it was authorised without question, but your SIL has just prejudiced any such understanding in the future for herself and her children.

What an arse, and she deserves all she gets from now on.

What a horrible lie she sounds awful:(

Good on MIL for not just blindly going along with it.

Well done MIL. Hope it goes well today.

What's the likelihood that SIL demands/guilt trips MIL into paying the fine for her... she will see it as MIL's fault I bet

Such a stupid thing to do.

Someone I work with has let her DD have a couple of days off school visiting family in another European country. She intends to tell the school she is ill, but the girl has told friends she is going away.

The mother doesn't seem to realise that when the form tutor calls the register, someone is likely to mention that her DD is away - even without realising the "official" reason.

As your MIL is known at the school, SIL has put her in a very difficult position, and I don't blame her for wanting to set the record straight.

Absolutely disgusting behaviour from SIL. I hope MIL does go t othe school an tell the truth.