Are these dirty habits or AIBU?

[PenguinBear]

Some of DP's habits I find quite frankly repulsive and it's caused major rows between us.

Some of things he does which I find disgusting:
-Never washes his hands if he's done a wee
-when he empties his bowels, he'll only rinse his wiping hand with water

-this morning I caught him drinking out of the milk bottle when it's no where near empty (and he has a brown tongue atm so it means no-one else can use it now and it was a 6 Pinter)
-doesn't wash himself everyday

I could go on but these are the main issues that are driving me mad. He thinks IABU and gets very defensive when I confront him.

Wouldn't go near him if I were you.

Probably got a bucket of cottage cheese stuck behind his foreskin.

Personal hygiene is all IMHO.

On what planet is not washing, even after the toilet, and drinking out if bottles with brown tongue merely a different point of view?

It's disgusting in 99.9% of people's opinions.

I'm so sorry OP. LTB.

Probably got a bucket of cottage cheese stuck behind his foreskin.

vomit.

Sorry to anyone who asked questions, I've just read this whole thread and forgotten now what people asked

The idea to LTB is appealing but we have a beautiful house and the thought of selling it for that bastard is not an entertaining thought.
Tbh I can't see him changing now. :( I have tried to confront him but he shouts me down so there's really no point now.

Plus to top it all off dd1 rung him (we've been to see an elderly relative 90miles away as been out for 8 hours) to say we'd be home at 9.30 and jokingly asked if he'd done anything all day.
His response 'no why should I? It's not my job' bastard.

I may be wrong, but I thought that in the event of a divorce, the 'parent with care' (pwc) could exercise the rights of the children to live in their home while they are still dependent.

It's something you would need to talk to a solicitor about though, I think. It sounds like you need to, he's not just unpleasant to you but to your DCs as well.

Sorry, used American terminology there. Have a friend in the US going through a tough divorce right now, clearly I've mentally crossed the channel.

Might still be an idea to talk to a solicitor though, find out where you stand?

So a house is worth living with a miserable minger like this?

some women like smelly men hope he finds one soon btw my husband has gone through this when he is a bit depressed i institute a no shag rule without washing/teeth brushing and buy your OWN MILK

talk to a solicitor asap

Really you need to Ltb. Your daughters will not respect you if you stay with someone who disrespected you like this.

You'd be happier in a less nice house without the minger. He 'shouts you down'? Not nice, not nice as all, whether he smells of roses or not.

I think you need to have a long hard think about whether you want this to carry on being your life.
I think you deserve better.

Just imagine being able to drink milk that doesn't have spitback from a minger like this.

Not having to worry about faecal matter everywhere.

Or who is such a lazy bastard.

Another house might be less nice, but it would be clean.

And he wouldn't be in it.

Sorry partial, no - try comparing health and longevity in countries with 'no running water'. There's a reason we're taught to wash our hands and benefit from having fresh, running water.

You're right, OP, that's disgusting and shows a lack of respect for you and the rest of the family. You don't share a bed, have no intimate contact with your DH and your last post implied that he thinks all domestic work is yours to do.

You are staying married because you have a nice house.

That's your choice, but I think the price of the nice house is incredibly high. YABU to expect him to change because he has told you he will not.

You either leave him or you live with it. Up to you.