Are these dirty habits or AIBU?

[PenguinBear]

Some of DP's habits I find quite frankly repulsive and it's caused major rows between us.

Some of things he does which I find disgusting:
-Never washes his hands if he's done a wee
-when he empties his bowels, he'll only rinse his wiping hand with water

-this morning I caught him drinking out of the milk bottle when it's no where near empty (and he has a brown tongue atm so it means no-one else can use it now and it was a 6 Pinter)
-doesn't wash himself everyday

I could go on but these are the main issues that are driving me mad. He thinks IABU and gets very defensive when I confront him.

I don't find I need to shower everyday. DP does, I think men sweat a lot more.

I also never use soap.... I have a skin condition and it makes it dry and tight.

Brown tongue sounds sexy though..... Oh no, repulsive, that's the word.

This is not about hygiene or health hazards, this is about complete and utter contempt for your feelings about it.

You've got bigger issues than hand washing IMO, PenguinBear, sorry.
What does staying with him give you?

Fairenough, I just hate what that bathroom says about the male of the species

Urine is not sterile.

And even if you don't get urine on his hands he still touches his penis to wee.

Balls get hot and sweaty and smelly of course you should wash your hands after going to the lol regardless of whether wee gets on your hand.

I thought it was...is it an old wives tale then?

It's sterile til it leaves the body

That bathroom says it all doesn't it

Some men you just wouldn't want around you OP and I think your dp is one of them. Disgusting personal habits and lack of respect for you. Why do you put up with it?

Ugh, just had a google.

Now going to firmly instruct DH on the importance of hand washing and resolving never to go near his penis again

How can you actually only just wash one hand . Isn't it easier to wash both?

Disclaimer: I am not implying that people with one hand do not wash their hands properly. Just that it's actually easier to wash both due to the rubbing element

Healthy urine IS sterile, skin/penis less so

What a dirty bastard.

This has been educational.

Maybe you should show him this thread?

Agree with others this is about more than poor hygiene.

Sorry it must be awful for you OP but this thread has made me roar !

Just told DH he needs to wash his hands after a wee.

Apparently he doesn't touch his penis??!

Oh, I've had "Look, mummy, no hands!" (from DS), closely followed by the need to clean the bathroom
I am not sure that the hands-free technique is to be recommended...

I am afraid he will need to demonstrate that to you Clash, and you will need to report back as to how.

To be honest the only reason I wash my hands after going to the toilet is because I don't trust anyone else to not piss or shit on their hands.

I certainly don't get wee or poo on my hands when I go to the loo so that part doesn't bother me but the thought of touching the flush, the lock, door handle and the taps makes me

Disgusting of him. I don't know why you're still with him. You don't seem to have much of a relationship if you have no sexual intimacy (can't blame you when he's so horrid) and so on. What's the point??

Dh always washes his hands. Always. In fact he is probably the other way round in that he uses gallons of hand wash and I can't keep up with supply and demand for it in our house! He always says he finds it disgusting how many men don't wash their hands when they come out of the toilet. It totally puts me of touching things in public or shaking hands with people. Who wants a handful of some randomers pissy penis hand??

Yuck.

the thought of touching the flush, the lock, door handle and the taps makes me

How do you get out of the bathroom without touching the door handle?

Well I do use the handle obviously but I try and touch it as little as possible.

I certainly don't get wee or poo on my hands when I go to the loo

Isn't it amazing how many people are convinced that they don't get piss and shit on their hands when they use the toilet yet, somehow, it gets on door handles, food, etc, touched by people who haven't washed their hands?

Why not consider that possibility of tiny amounts that you can't see or feel being on there?

I'm not saying that I don't wash my own hands btw. I do.

In a public loo I pull my sleeve over my hand to open the door to get out. I hate touching bannister rails/shopping trolleys and lift buttons. I love a revolving or automatic door me.

Oh god, it gets worse.

Apparently he just sort of waggles his willie to dry it off (no doubt spraying bits of urine everywhere in the process) rather than shaking it.

I'm going to spend my Sunday afternoon teaching my 45 year old DH how to wee properly, aren't i?