Are these dirty habits or AIBU?

[PenguinBear]

Some of DP's habits I find quite frankly repulsive and it's caused major rows between us.

Some of things he does which I find disgusting:
-Never washes his hands if he's done a wee
-when he empties his bowels, he'll only rinse his wiping hand with water

-this morning I caught him drinking out of the milk bottle when it's no where near empty (and he has a brown tongue atm so it means no-one else can use it now and it was a 6 Pinter)
-doesn't wash himself everyday

I could go on but these are the main issues that are driving me mad. He thinks IABU and gets very defensive when I confront him.

SB is using your sleeve not worse though? Surely then you're walking around with whatever little nasties on your clothes for the rest of the day rather than use your hands which you're going to wash anyway.

I went bowling once with a group and we were warned not to eat from the dishes of peanuts on the counter. Just sayin'

They should put the sinks outside the bathrooms so that

a) you don't have to touch anything after washing and

b) everyone can see who isn't washing their hands and do catsbum mouth at them

Clashcity, I seem to spend my life cleaning piss drops up in my house.

Apparently my husband and my eldest son do the willy shake, it's only my younger son that uses a bit of toilet roll to 'dry up drops'. According to eldest, youngest is "weird" for doing that

I hate boys

a handful of some randomers pissy penis hand

No thanks!

I fractured my arm and couldnt use it let alone move it for a week. Going to the loo was a one handed affair so its only time I can say I have only washed one hand. But at least I have a medical excuse.

My dad is the same, especially now he is older he doesn't wash his hands. Infact he doesn't even flush after a pee. Its gross I had a massive go at him cos I don't care what he does in his own home but don't do it when you come to my house.

Sorry OP but this had made me a little green around the gills.

Sorry posted too early.

I wouldn't be with a man who didn't have the respect to have a decent level of personal hygiene.

Certainly wouldn't shake hands with him never mind humping!

Ffs, I would be really angry at DH if he did that.
It's not hard to wash your hands. Ick.

YABU - but only because your post made me Google "brown tongue"

YANBU. Having just googled 'brown tongue', I am appalled that anyone could think that having that condition and drinking from a shared milk carton is okay!! As for the hand washing- utterly revolting.

I would not be able to kiss him or have sex with him. I am not kidding.

Ach it's what men do. Don't forget we also do the scratch and sniff test on our nether regions too.

It's what disgusting men do. yes Golfer. i seem to have got myself a nice one.

But how do you know about his hand washing habits in the toilet? I don't think this is anything I have ever discussed with my DH of 27 years I just assume he is hygienic sine he seems to be in every other way!

I think that drinking milk out of the bottle is a really disgusting thing to do whatever the colour of his tongue.

My dh always washes his hands. He doesn't 'scratch and sniff' either, what the hell is that all about, what are you is he sniffing for?

i think Golfer has overshared a bit too much there.....

You can hear the toilet flush though 5foot5 and hear the taps running and see that the towel has been used, etc.

His one wet hand may not be the result of a rinse under the tap....

Elbows are useful for opening doors.

I hear DH flush the loo, then the taps go on. Plus the liquid soap is being used up. the DSs wash their hands too.

nobody swigs from bottles in this house. Tis the rules....

WTF, is a 'scratch and sniff'? I think I may need a lie down after this one..

OP, your dh is disrespecting you, your children and your milk! What value add does he bring to your relationship? Also, how do impress the need for hygiene and no milk snuffling on your children when their dad does not follow basic rules?

Penguin I remember your posts on the other thread.

I really hope you can start planning an exit strategy and things look up for you soon.

Nah, all men do it just some do it surreptitiously

They don't Golfer, but why do you do it?

Yes, all those things are minging.

Not only does he appear to have little respect for himself but he appears to have absolutely none for you.

If he's always done these things it's your fault for picking him, if he's only quite recently started doing them he's stopped caring what you think about anything.

How revolting. I am not surprised you don't sleep with him.