Baby pics on FB

[Erroltheowl]

AIBU a friend mentioned to me the other day about how great it will be to put cute baby pics on fb once i have had a baby,but i turned around and said i wont be because it is wrong on so many levels IMHO and i (think) i would be too busy caring for baby doing the laundry for baby sterilising bottles etc to even sit down and finish an entire hot drink and watch 30 mins of tv if i did have spare time it would mean something needed doing and i wasnt doing it, plus i don't know what my facebook friends do in there spare time or what goes through their minds (if it was that easy to detect a pedo they wouldn't exist) even though my entire FB is privatised and i don't allow followers of people to find me in search engines someone could still hack my account for the heck of it and see pics of my PFB AIBU i'd rather keep my children off facebook and the internet until it their own choice whether or not they want to become a part of that at 16.

Why are you worrying about this before you are even pregnant?

I think we should get a campaign going so we can identify paedos when they are out in public.We should make them wear something distinctive
Swimming trunks- I'll call it 'Speedos for Pedo's '
I'll contact 38 degrees at once

You do sound a bit extreme OP. You aren't even pregnant yet, you suspect your friends of being paedos (how pleased they must be) and you think having a baby means never sitting down ever. Heard of the term sleep when your baby sleeps? Remember that. And yes you will get time for the odd cup of tea.

Seriously, relax, you do sound like a right drama llama.

and i dont truly know if any of my friends are pedophiles or not is what i meant by that reference they could get upto anything behind closed doors

So does that mean you won't be visiting any friends with your baby then?

Oops, thought the OP was pregnant! Well replaced wife with GP because you may be able to get help with any anxiety issues you may have.

well if i put pic on the internet then pedophiles could see them and steal them
Seriously? Why would they be interested in your baby? There are hundreds of pictures of babies online. Get a grip.

There are many reasons I might choose not to put baby pics on the internet. None of them involve fear that my fb friends might fap over the pics.

(They're all to do with the child not being able to give informed consent, potential embarrassment to them when they're older, and control over the images once they're uploaded. But cute baby pics will probably win.)

What will the OP do if she ever has to send her DC on a plane alone? Her DC might sit within eye line of a MAN and all men are actual peados. FACT.

"the internet which seems like a cold harsh place for pictures of sweet babies to be posted"

Erm, you do know that it's only photographs you're speaking of being put on the "cold harsh" internet and not the babies themselves, don't you?

If this was any other website I'd be asking you how high the water is under there but this is MN and I'm not allowed to.

Hooby, i think you are barking up the wrong tree. From other posts i think the op is genuine but rather misguided and hysterical

I never used to understand people putting baby photos on Facebook. They left me completely cold.

Then I had a daughter.

And despite living off nearly zero sleep, sterilising bottles, there is something so joyous about sharing her peachy headed beauty with my friends and family. I cant help myself.

And I love seeing the photos of friends and family's babies.

You may change when you have your own.

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When Prubaby is born, I will not give a shiny shit whether there are photos of him/her on social media. And frankly I inwardly yawn and judge when people are bothered about photos of their own DC being shared in this way.

p.s. Big snigger at the "turn around" snarkery. That's one of my favourite expressions to get snippy about.

YABU for not using more than one full stop.

You need to relax and stop being so paranoid

I think Op will be too busy to post photos to FB as she will surely be practicing her punctuation

"Hooby, i think you are barking up the wrong tree. From other posts i think the op is genuine but rather misguided and hysterical"

My oh my. In that case I take it all back. My apologies OP, you're not a little wet of person. You're just strange.

I have a much-loved colleague who uses 'turned around' every single time he is describing someone saying something.

We have been known to start rotating on the spot and saying 'like this, you mean?'

He is very good-humoured about it.

Incidentally, my PIL were recently hacked. Every single computer and similar device in their home - anything which can connect to the Internet. Everything was locked and/or stolen, including pictures.

These are pictures which were not online, just stored on the hard drive. They are online now though.

My point being that: if someone wants to get something, they will get it. It doesn't have to be on facebook.

Your choice to not post photos is justified. Your reasoning, not so much.

And since you aren't yet pregnant (how do people know btw since OP hasn't been back?), I think you are overthinking these issues slightly, and I'm wondering if perhaps it's a cover for deeper worries you have?

If a new mum allows herself the time, there will be time for tea and mn. Again, the best advice I can give is: enjoy your baby, the time flies. Use whatever help you are given, don't be a martyr. And drop those standards if you have to!

I think il will put up the odd one of my child (have family that live out of town) but I won't be doing the whole "20 pics of baby in a hilarious outfit" trend. I don't want family putting tons of pictures up either. Not because of Internet lurkers, no- because it's fucking annoying!! A few days ago someone posted a picture of their toddlers first dump... Why?! Why people feel the need to detail every little on social media is beyond me.

I'm sort of in agreement with op.

I don't hand out photographs of my children to strangers in the street so I'm not going to do it online either. I can save people's pictures online within a tap of my finger and there is just something unnerving about the possibility of strangers accessing mine so easily.

I have issues with privacy on Facebook in general though which contributes a lot to my choice of not adding photos. I sent my brother a private message asking about his kids after I moved home. Facebook had not only given my location but displayed my house on google maps and he was looking at my front door via street view. Note I do not allow apps to access my location on my phone.

I now just don't use Facebook at all

I think she is a little OTT on the peado front though.

She does not need to put photos up or approve of it. What she does is up to her

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