To be really fucked off?!

[JaackSparroww]

NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

usual, I always imagine you as a flame-haired young siren.

That seemed to be your implied meaning anyfucker especially as you followed it up with some delightful mocking of the op's typing style.

You weren't the only one saying something like that, someone else (can't remember who) did question why she was here, and another poster said 'this is an adult site, we look at things like adults'.

How patronising.

Found it, Springbreaker said : 'Not sure why you are on mumsnet, as you have no kids, are only a teenager and hopefully are not trying to conceive either.' This was what I was referring to.

I don't think that full post about we look at thing a as adults was patronising at all. It was a reasonable post. It's easy to make things sound worse when you only pick what you like from a post

Tbh I can't see an issue in telling someone to stop acting like a twat when they are. It's not bullying. AIBU is known not to be for the sensitive.

At OPS age I had my own child to look after and I don't think 19 is a fob off for being able to act ridiculous she's an adult.

As I said earlier, I consider telling people yabu is fine, explaining why is fine, it was all the 'lol' 'yolo' 'I'm too fick' stuff that was out of line.

There was also a fair bit of name calling too, saying she was 15, doing her exams, making it up as she goes along, unhinged, immature etc. No need for it imo.

Agree with anyfucker on this one.

I am experiencing, to some extent, being bullied at work. Its been a long time since I have been bullied (ah school memories) but when I see it on MN it actually really upsets me.

I did copy and paste a few of the phrases that I saw as being..somewhat unkind. anyfucker/usual suspect I am sure you cant even be arsed but read them. you might see why people have been concerned.

It suprises me that if I (and others) call on it, we get called "goady fuckers"

time after time after time I see new posters, who might not know the lie of the land here, get piled into and its not very pleasant reading

And I'd also say she wasn't being ridiculous. She overreacted massively, and she sees that now.
Reporting him at work: ridiculous.
Bursting into floods of tears or screaming at him: ridiculous

She only took offence at something he said. Everyone has different tolerance levels, and she accepted she was BU after hearing others opinions.

The poster is not a new poster.

'If the OP wants to be treated like an adult, maybe she should act like one.'

Please demonstrate where the OP hasn't acted like an adult? Surely not taking offence at something, because I've seen 30/40/50 year olds on here overreact to things said to them, it's hardly age defined.

She was saying she wasn't going to speak to him ever again, that is ridiculous. And childish. You don't have to agree.

I think, this is the oddest MN thread I've ever seen. Boners.

Roar @ boners!!!

Oh how embarrassing BONKERS not boners

:o

Sycophant

…you know who you are...

It is such a playground, cliquey attitude…utterly pathetic and extremely unedifying. I expect the poster you are sucking up to is sick of being sucked up to… nauseating!

FantasticButtocks

quite......

I am defending my own posts, not speaking for anyone else. That is all any of us can do. When I have a problem with an individual, I take it up with them and try to refrain from making sweeping statements about groups of others that are neither fair nor true.

who is sucking up to whom ?

Yep, bonkers it is

OP never explained why she had to namechange in order to feel "safe". Instead she lolled and batted away the questions. Whether people believe it or not, trying to dig down a little deeper is not "bullying". just because a question is difficult to answer does not make it a hostile one. It starts to look that way though if posters refuse to answer it with hostility of their own, or hangers on come on to twist the meaning of it.

I am pretty sure there are some MN users who hang around threads like this just to be able to jump in at an opportune moment with "Ahaaa ! See! Bullies!" Pitiful.