To be really fucked off?!

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NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

There is some real nasty bitchiness on here.

Amen to that Fantastic

Probably not the point, (and you've probably hidden this by now), but I would highly recommend starting your driving lessons asap. The older you are the harder it gets and as you have some money now and aren't weighed down with responsibilities, now would be perfect.

Seriously, get a lesson booked and take it from there.

I agree Fantastic.

They are goading her and winding her up.

Nasty fuckers.

Let's hope no one speaks to your children like this eh

19 she maybe but the ageist clap trap coming out of her mouth is appalling

of course the world ends over 50

She's not the only one being ageist though is she

op is just being her age (19) isn't she.

i wasn't being nasty just don't like prejudice

I think it's perfectly possible to love someone and be made unhappy by them at the same time. See it all the time on Relationships.

OP, I am concerned that you seem to be taking an awful lot on your shoulders, and not really getting enough out of it. You are short of money. Going without driving lessons. At 19 you should be having the time of your life, not making the sort of sacrifices that old farts like me are used to.

I hope you enjoy the holiday, but please do think a little about the inequalities that got you there.

Wow. Talk about an overreaction.....

I sometimes wonder why I bother trying to be constructive or analytical on MN.

YABU and it's shocking to think you're only 2 years younger than me. Grim

This is AIBU. So if you say to the OP "YABU" and clarify why, suddenly you're a "bully" and a "nasty fucker". Pot, kettle, to put it bluntly.

UnderIce

if people just posted "yabu" it would be OK!! However people have posted some rather nasty comments. and darkheart has just added another little cherry onto the cake, see her comment below

and what FantasticButtocks said.

There are some people on here who seem to need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves.

It's an age-old problem, there will always be people like that, and I hope OP that you don't take any of them seriously.

I doubt the pps who did as you said are the ones being referred to like that underice I would hazard a guess it was the ones actually being nasty fuckers telling her to get off mumsnet etc that earned that insult.

It sounds as if you've chatted to the phone guy before, OP, from all that you say. And he seems to feel quite sorry for the way your boyfriend treats you.

You're out working, while he talks about joining the army but isn't in the process of following through an application, he doesn't have a job and is happy to use your money, so that you don't have enough to pay for driving lessons, despite living at home with your parents. You are on an apprenticeship, but your BF has never worked formally.

Can you see how someone looking in from the outside might view your situation?

If he isn't working, how has your bf paid his share of the holiday?
What is he going to do for spending money while he's there?
If he doesn't have a job and lives at home with his parents, what does he do all day? Does he do all the cleaning and cooking, volunteer for a local charity or does he just play on his Xbox?

Oh - and I'm calling him your BF, because from all that you have said, you are not in a partnership with this lad, but a rather one-sided relationship. Partners share a life and commitments and work jointly towards their dreams. It sounds as if you do all the giving.

Good luck with your apprenticeship - I wish you every success in your future career.

Yeah, that's a fair point. I think the OP presented as really immature but telling her to "get off Mumsnet" is a bit OTT.

I asked the question "are you Mumsnet is the right place for you" in response to this from OP...
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" Its annoyed me even more because i can't see why it's "flirting". The delivery boy flirts, but why would a 60 year old man flirt?

and that was me, actually being sarcastic, i think thats why I put a grin there, it's kinda hard to detect sarcasm.
this is the 2nd post of mine i've made a fool of myself on smile smile lovelyyyyyyyy"
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It was nothing to do with her age (although she has demonstrated some rather ageist attitudes herself (blokes over 60 can't flirt, us older people on here don't understand what she is getting at etc), nor that she doesn't have children (I am very friendly with several posters who do not have dc). It was to do with the fact that she acknowledges herself that she keeps posting idiotic stuff and getting pulled up on it. If she actually listened she might learn something about her situation, that actually started with what Phone Guy said and was taken up here. Instead we were subjected to "lols" and "haha's" and I thought a different website might be more suited to someone at that level of emotional awareness and maturity.

However, Op appears to have realised that she has been daft in this particular OP. Over the next couple of years, she will realise that what everyone is saying here was correct about her boyfriend being a waste of space, but she is nowhere near that realisation yet. That isn't an age thing, it's a blinded by love thing which happens to people of all ages.

are you sure

"Are you sure Mumsnet is for you" is not the same as "Get off Mumsnet"

Stop putting meanings where there isn't one, that is goady shit.