To be really fucked off?!

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NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

fairycaravan no there isn't a set date, but I've said that further up

Yet again, you've avoided the question of when he is going in the Army! He doesn't have a date does he?

erm excuse me, why on earth would OP answer questions that have been posed in such an unfriendly manner! I certainly would not in her shoes, and what? open herself to yet more vitroil?

cheers Thurlow

Ah I see, it will do him good to get work sooner rather than later, and help you out with expenses.

Here, have a least you ranted to us and not the phone guy

Soloman - Trust me I have heard of many men in their 40's (men children) that still play X boxes etc. Thank God I'm not married to one.

Plus you do not need to at 'similar life stages' to be able to give or ask advice on here.

He sounds like a lazy so-and-so. What is he doing today? Actively looking for a job - or catching up on his sleep because he's been on the Xbox all night?

Don't leave MN, you can use it just as much as anyone else. It's good to have the wisdom of a load of old birds

Why doesn't he chase it up now? Why wait until after the holiday?

What did you want sympathy for?

YABU. He probably thought because you were moaning so much about your dp to a complete stranger that since you sounded so unhappy, you should bin him and move on. How did he know so much about your personal circumstances, did you tell him?

If he broke his leg he can not apply until a year after the date of the injury. From the application date to getting a provisonal start date can take longer than a year, providing he passes the interview and selection.

DS1 put his application in last November, he could not do it earlier because he broke a knuckle in October 2012. He had his interview in March, his selection in April (he passed his interview with top marks). The day after Easter Monday he got his provisional date of July 7th. He passed at Grade B. He goes to the gym every day, does pulls ups, sits ups and press ups and lifts weights at home and runs 5-8 miles at least 4 times a week. He wasn't the fittest there.

OP, I'm only a couple of years older than you and get on with MN quite well - I don't think it has anything to do with age it was your attitude and story changing which would annoy most people no matter how old you are - Anyways you've understood you were being unreasonable and that's what AIBU is for alot of the time, to make us realise sometimes we are being a bit silly - good luck with the rest.

fromparis before you get the hump with me, look back through the thread and see how many times I and other posters have asked the OP when her DP is going in the Army. It has been avoided time and time again, and I was right, he doesn't have a date and his application hasn't been started unless a year has passed since he broke his leg!

Do you mean you spend all your wages in 10 days taking your unemployed boyfriend out? I'm the same age as you but I have a 3 month old baby. I would love to be able to live with my parents and have nearly £500 a month disposable income. Driving lessons cost about £20 an hour you know - you can learn for £80 a month. That will leave you with almost £400 left over!

Is there an age limit for playing Xbox and computer games now?

I feel like I need a guide to life now...

I am too old.

Heh, ditto corus, my 60-something dad still plays them. As do 30-something me and DP. Both of us have even stayed up late to finish a game

There's a really funny joke my Dara O'Briain about sitting at a dinner party admitting that you play computer is looked upon about as well as admitting that you spend your spare time masturbating

Thurlow of course there's no age limit, I'm 68 and play World of Warcraft every day. Stops me going ga ga but my friends are convinced anyone I talk to in game is a potential axe murderer

OP - if I had been you I would have ripped the plug off of the X-box and then told your boyfriend to get off his backside and find work until he joins the forces.

Re the telephone guy - I don't think what he said was unreasonable. Perhaps next time he asks you reply 'I'm fine thanks'. End of conversation.

Yes, if it's a year after he broke his leg until he can apply, he needs to find a job OP. He should be contributing to your social life, surely?

I don't think the phone guy's remark would have stung so much if you didn't feel there was some truth in it, op.

Otherwise you'd have just laughed it off. Imo.

Corus - I'm sure there is. But my point is that he shouldn't play at all when she's present. It's not very polite. She may as well not be there.

Although he is a still a teen..

Yes she is over=-reacting but my god, so are you lot. Why so mean to the OP?

Oh I still stand by that Corus. Fully grown men playing X boxes AWFUL!!!