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to lol at 'football related sadness'

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 05/05/2014 22:34

Man on my facebook reckons he needs a day off work because of emotional stress, I said he should have one if he needs it and asked the reason why.

He said the footy results.

he is being deadly serious and saying he's suffering from 'football related sadness' and that he feels so alone and upset, he is crying.

Now I fully understand mental illness having suffered/suffering from it myself... but really?

Maybe a sign of something underlying you may say but I've known him for a good few years and football really does seem to get him down when his team loses!

Anyone else glad they don't have a partner who is obsessed with the football?!

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Rokerwriter · 06/05/2014 16:56

Hello Miaow and KenDodd you might guess from my name I'm with you all the way

BitOutOfPractice · 06/05/2014 16:59

Gold mine too Angry

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 06/05/2014 18:07

Oo, it took a long time to get to the whinging about them being overpaid!

If you think its bad enough to be upset over football though, I guess I shouldnt mention the wrestlemania result this year Wink

Floisme · 06/05/2014 18:29

Yes of course, they are obscenely overpaid.
Yes, there are many far more important things in life.
Yes, the game is given far too much prominence by the media (as are soaps and reality shows, in my opinion but hey, live and let live).
Yes, some supporters are arseholes.

But you know what, when I settle down to watch a game, I have absolutely no idea what is going to happen for the next 90 minutes. And I find that exciting. I also enjoy books, films, theatre and fashion but nothing gets my heart racing in quite the same way.

It is also a chance to spend some time with my son.

If you don't get any of that then fine - it's not compulsory! But why spend so much time talking about something you're not even interested in?

frogslegs35 · 06/05/2014 18:32

YABU.
I love football and FRS is real. As a sunderland fan I've had to deal with too much of it over the years :(

Sunderland fans, at least you have an interest in the last weekend. It's awful being mid table and nothing to be bothered about. (I'm not a Red!)

Shock Are you fecking shitting me?? :) Myself and my fellow Sunderland supporters would give anything to be in that position and I think I speak for all of us -we DON'T WANT an interest in the last weekend. It frays your nerves, sickens your stomach, generally stresses you out and has the potential to cause many tears.
Goldmandra · 06/05/2014 18:48

But why spend so much time talking about something you're not even interested in?

Most people who aren't in the slightest bit interested in the results of the games are still very interested in the negative behaviours linked to the game and their negative impact on wider society.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 06/05/2014 18:52

rokerwriter another Mackem hurray !! We are discovering lots on these football threads. Did you all see this picture from Jody Craddocks testimonial ? The halcyon days....

BitOutOfPractice · 06/05/2014 18:53

frogs as a Wolves fan I'll take some of your Premiership "agony" and swap it with two consecutive relagtions if you like Wink

Although this season has been rather splendid. I hope you stay up as I like Mr Poyet and I'm still hoping West Brom go down

BitOutOfPractice · 06/05/2014 18:54

Oh Ken I am rather a fan of Mr Craddock also. I think we gave him a good send off at the Molineux! Grin

Floisme · 06/05/2014 19:05

Most people who aren't in the slightest bit interested in the results of the games are still very interested in the negative behaviours linked to the game and their negative impact on wider society.

I understand that and I'm interested in it too. However that is not, for the most part, what this thread is about.

People talk about how badly behaved football supporters are (and sometimes it is justified). Yet I would never dream of joining in a thread about what how stupid people who enjoy tv soaps or reality shows are. I would consider that to be very bad manners and even a bit loutish.

ClarksonsPerm · 06/05/2014 19:12

It's pathetic. DH gets the blues when his team lose, or England lose. I just tell him to snap out of it. So many more important things in the world than a bloody GAME Hmm

Goldmandra · 06/05/2014 19:17

Yet I would never dream of joining in a thread about what how stupid people who enjoy tv soaps or reality shows are.

The thread isn't about how stupid football fans are, apart from the one ridiculous post which has been acknowledged as such. It's people talking about the significant minority who use the game as an excuse for ridiculous self indulgence.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 06/05/2014 19:20

When I was a teenager the super beloved star player of my local (not very good) team transferred to the evil (slightly better) local enemy. I realised then that while the fans worship their team, the players have little to no loyalty to it - it is just who offers them the most money to wear their shirt.

It all seemed a bit silly and pointless after that.

International matches are more interesting as you do have a genuine connection to the players. But they are still complete strangers who I have never met and am unlikely to ever meet and, other than being able to kick a ball really well, many of them have no admirable qualities whatsoever.

I do get very upset occassionally over the news - especially if a child has been hurt / killed- and Schindlers List affected me for days but other than that I try to save my emotions for things that truly affect me.

Ooooh - I tell a lie - I did once get a bit teary over someone getting through on the X factor. We were ttcing at the time and I actually turned to dh and said "hmmm - I feel all emotional - think I might do a pregnancy test tomorrow". Sure enough - knocked up!

TheFairyCaravan · 06/05/2014 19:24

My kids (19&17) are Man U fans. The only FRS they have had was at the end of the 2011/12 season when it went to the wire and Man City took the title and at the end of last season when Sir Alex retired. Even this season, for all it has been shit, they've just moved on.

Today DS1 has said a million times that he has the same amount of Premier League medals as Steven Gerrard, and replayed Suarez crying, over and over again because he has a genuine dislike for them!

Floisme · 06/05/2014 19:34

.. an excuse for ridiculous self indulgence.

But what, in your opinion, constitutes 'ridiculous self indulgence'? If you're talking about taking a day off sick, or violent or loutish behaviour, then of course I absolutely agree with you. But if you mean feeling upset or elated after a game, then who are you to call that ridiculous? What is so wrong with being passionate about something?

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 06/05/2014 19:36

After this thread I'm more concerned about people who have to put up with their partner's behaving like spoiled children if their team loses :(

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 06/05/2014 19:36

oh and I did write to the person I wrote about in my OP, and he suggested I shut up and get back to the kitchen Hmm

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aderynlas · 06/05/2014 19:37

Good luck to the Mackems and the Canaries on sunday. We were down after our thrashing at Sunderland but even as we made the long drive home we were thinking of aways next season. Doesnt matter what division we are in really because " i'll be there, i'll be there. Bluebirds.

Goldmandra · 06/05/2014 19:38

By ridiculous self indulgence I mean the people who think the disappointment of a lost game justifies a day off work, being unpleasant to their families, vandalism, fighting, etc.

How could feeling upset or elated after a game be ridiculous self indulgence?

BitOutOfPractice · 06/05/2014 19:41

To be fair thefairycaravan two ManU fans of that age haven't had to put up with much in the way of FRS have they? Grin

Floisme · 06/05/2014 19:44

I don't know, Goldmantra but there have been a number of posts on here sneering at supporters crying after at games - something I have done many a time Grin

I do agree with your first comment - unpleasant behaviour of any kind is indefensible.

TheFairyCaravan · 06/05/2014 19:46

Not really, BitoutofPractice.

JeanSeberg · 06/05/2014 19:48

To be fair thefairycaravan two ManU fans of that age haven't had to put up with much in the way of FRS have they?

Plenty more coming their way hopefully.

Rokerwriter · 06/05/2014 20:18

Thanks KenDodd I heard about the Jody Craddock game but hadn't seen that photograph. Brings back happy memories. Although at the risk of giving away my age, Gary Rowell was more my era Grin

DrCoconut · 06/05/2014 20:38

Sorry but it's ridiculous how obsessed people are with sports, especially football. If I were a boss I would have my employees on a disciplinary if I found out that they had lied about an absence and it was sport related. My DH had to take compulsory leave when the stupid World Cup was on as the factory closed for part of it. Total waste of holiday and meant we then couldn't do what we had wanted to do as he had no leave left. I was fuming, we both were. I am forever grateful that he isn't a sports fan. When is stupid season due to be inflicted on us again?

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