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Nursery went home and left dd!

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lookingfortheanswer · 28/04/2014 18:36

Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

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AnyFucker · 28/04/2014 23:50

Mintyy, I would imagine a substantial mix of reports by 1) people doubting the op and 2) people reporting troll hunting

MarshaBrady · 28/04/2014 23:51

Your poor dd and all of you. How terrifying.

CannotSay · 28/04/2014 23:51

Thanks for updating us arar

Hope you get the answers you deserve tomorrow, and that op sleeps well

Good luck to both of you

MostWicked · 28/04/2014 23:53

What a staggering failure of care.
I hope your DD is OK in the morning. It must have been so scary for her and you.

I am sure that it will be properly investigated and the people responsible held to account.

mimishimmi · 28/04/2014 23:53

That's awful. If you were late collecting they should at least have tried to call you and if they couldn't get hold of you, call the emergency numbers and then the police themselves. The only way I can see this happening is if they didn't check that everyone was signed out (rare)....OR.... you oresigned the book in the morning because you had a hunch you might be late. If that's the case, they are not liable and you would definitely be at fault.

mimishimmi · 28/04/2014 23:54

Presigned sorry...

AtArPo · 28/04/2014 23:55

Thank you Cannot (also helped me notice I had made a mistake on my name change back to my original all fixed now) we have written down quite a list of questions. Will try to update tomorrow if DP not up to it.

manicinsomniac · 28/04/2014 23:58

Shock unbelievable! What an awful thing to happen.

I can't imagine that the nursery can really stay open after this can it??
Even if Ofsted doesn't close it all the parents will take their children away when they hear what happened.

I think getting inside the nursery would be reasonably high up on my 'what the fuck do I do?!' list (although maybe not as high as calling police). But my worry would be that the adult who was looking after my daughter had had an accident or a heart attack or something not that a 2 year old had been left!! Shocking lack of care.

Falconi · 29/04/2014 00:00

Genuine questions.

1- Is the nursery staff aware of what happened?
2 - At what time is the meeting? Do they know there will be a meeting?

I know my opinion doesn't matter and is probably not good advice as I have never had an issue with child protection but just trying to put myself in this scenario I would:

1 - Take the day off tomorrow.
2- Write a letter to he nursery (someone drafted above) and deliver by hand to a member of the staff at the nursery, and ask for management to open and read asap.
3- Spend the rest of the time contacting the authorities and taking their advice regarding everything, include meeting.

I am just unsure if I would be able to hand a meeting with them tbh, at least not so soon.

OurMiracle1106 · 29/04/2014 00:04

Maybe she went to the nearby school as she assumed if there had been an emergency maybe her child and the staff supposed to be looking after her would have taken shelter there? Or the school might have noticed a big fire engine or something present?

Devora · 29/04/2014 00:05

You poor things.

I worked somewhere with a workplace nursery. One day they took the kids out for a walk - and left a toddler outside, in a very busy (and rough) part of London.

Ofsted swooped in and closed it down. The parents were given a week to find alternative childcare. they must have found stuff that made their hair stand on end.

WandaDoff · 29/04/2014 00:07

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BeyondTheVirtualActivist · 29/04/2014 00:11

You might want to get this whole thing deleted

Cause you know, op namechanged to talk about her dds dad last week. And now you've kindly updated us, but your posting name is linked to her usual name...

FunnyFoot · 29/04/2014 00:14

Ooo er that is well.......unfortunate isn't it.
Best delete thread OP.

thebodydoestricks · 29/04/2014 00:17

Best wishes to you all and hope it gets sorted.

FunnyFoot · 29/04/2014 00:19

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brdgrl · 29/04/2014 00:20

Jesus, funnyfoot. Do you even understand why beyond has suggested that it be deleted or are you making another stupid assumption? Do stop fucking about now, it's really not funny or clever, it is very unkind.

FlyntCoal · 29/04/2014 00:24

It's odd that the thing several posters can't believe is that a nursery would close early if there were no children. I've worked at several nurseries and the one I was at for longest, over 4 years, paid minimum wage and kept costs to the absolute minimum. We were paid by the quarter hour, and only when children were on premises. All cleaning was done by us, the second the final child was picked up we had to sign out. As soon as numbers went below each ratio thresh-hold we were sent home. It's all about cost cutting.

However- this would never have happened. Even in a place so tight with wages, safeguarding was a major thing. We had codes for doors, named adults only picking up, careful signing out by both adult and staff- we had to sign to show exactly which staff member had done the handover.

I'm horrified on your behalf OP. I personally would go to the police, this is something that the nursery has to know is being taken seriously. I think my reactions would have been the same, as a nanny to four children had I turned up to find the school or nursery shut my first instinct would be to find someone else, another adult to help- in this case to get into the setting. If I couldn't find someone I'd have called 999.

FunnyFoot · 29/04/2014 00:24

brd I know you luffs me.
You must do because out of the 3 posts which alluded to the OP possibly not being real and mine being the last saying delete. It's mine you choose to pick on Grin

slithytove · 29/04/2014 00:27

Isn't AtArPo OP's partners name? Therefore none of her posts are findable through it?

BeyondTheVirtualActivist · 29/04/2014 00:28

Funny, I'm saying its true, not that its proven to be a lie. I was searching as i didnt believe it, but it certainly appears to be real. The dp has posted about his/her partner leaving her abusive husband, and linked it to a particular poster. Said poster is long term, so far back that her earlier posts are while she is still with twathusband.

I've reported my post to hq, as op is in bed.

FunnyFoot · 29/04/2014 00:29

No idea. I wasn't the one who looked, searched or said they were.

BeyondTheVirtualActivist · 29/04/2014 00:31

If i tell you what atarpo said that eluded to a poster, you'll all go and find out who it is!

slithytove · 29/04/2014 00:34

Yeah I x posted, that was directed to beyond. I'm relatively new to mn, so recognising posters and nc goes over my head,

FunnyFoot · 29/04/2014 00:46

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