Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

Funny, it all seems real, OP is a regular poster who has NC for this and the earlier thread.

AtArPo I suggest you either get your old posts deleted, or this thread deleted as beyond suggested.

Preferably the former as would be good to know how this turns out.

Then I stand corrected.

Which I am happy to do.

But why NC for such a harrowing thread then keep the same name to post today's thread?

Wouldn't you NC for last weeks thread to keep your normal identity secret if that is what you wish then post today's thread under your normal NN?

Am I missing something?
Is AtArPo the OP or the OP's DP posting on her behalf?

You are right about secret taping of course. That's not allowed

No she's not, as a person not acting on behalf of a company you are perfectly legally entitled to covertly record anyone.

The issues arise when you play the recording. It is p
Compleatly legal to secretly record as long as it is for your own use,it would be an offence to play the recording to anybody else but not to make or have the recording.

Transcribing it and using that is admissible in court and legal to show to third parties.

AtArPo is the Ops partner, which seems to check out with past posts.

As for the NC, I don't know. Forgot?

I feel like a super sleuth complete nosy bitch having searched past posts for the first time.

late to thread

I've seen quite a few updates on threads from partners/sisters/mums over the years it's not that odd.

Fucking hell, Funnyfoot, what part of "don't troll-hunt on a thread" do you not get? It's like discussing someone, behind their back, in front of them! report, then hide the thread if need be.

OP, hope you are ok. Fwiw, I'm not aware of a signing in/out policy for DS2s nursery. I have never had to in all the (4) years mine have been. Will bring it up with them tomorrow just to be sure.

another late comer, a shocking story at first reading...

What an awful thing to happen, OP. I am horrified for your DD and hope that appropriate steps are taken against the nursery.

A few things have popped up out of this thread:
Coconutty - I would imagine that the OP was calling out her DD's name as she searched the nursery - I know I would have been, not blindly looking in the dark! Child would have heard her mum and shouted back.

I would also have gone to the school first, as my first thought would be that the DD had been taken there - once the school were involved, calling the police would have become secondary to unnecessary, as steps were being taken by the school. The women in the situation where the baby was left sleeping in the nursery obviously called the police immediately because the grandmother was told that her DD had taken the baby - once she realised this was not the case, they must have feared abduction! Different scenario.

And finally - the need to tell people, anyone, about a traumatic occurrence is rooted in our biology - one of the hormones released in stressful situations is oxytocin (surprised?) and this is also a social communication hormone, that can make people want to share their experience. When I witnessed a girl being hit by a car, after I'd done all the necessary and been seen by the police, I got home, collapsed in shock and immediately felt the need to phone people to tell them. I could NOT understand why (I do now) but it helped. Posting on MN is the current equivalent of phoning around your friends/family and helps to reduce the stress reaction.

OP - I hope that you sleep ok and your DD has no ill effects from this - but the nursery needs to have the book thrown at them by all relevant authorities.

Funny
Here is a link to MN policy on trolls.

You do not have to say what you believe on the threads, you are asked not to voice your opinions on the boards, being "upfront" is exactly what MN ask you not to be. MN asks that you report the thread to them and that you do not speculate on the boards.

The guidelines are in place for everyone. I have no idea why you feel that you are a special case who is exempt.

Nope not special.
Totally prepared for deletion. In fact I think I have stated that I was in fact prepared for it.

Thank you Mrs I would have never known about those guidelines had you not linked them.
I will now spend ages reading them and flogging myself for not adhering to them.

Luffs ya

funny

can you get your DH to post.
best if he studies guidelines first, but maybe he could recommend that OP contacts Ofsted.

that has not been mentioned enough IMO

May have to NC cos FunnyBigFoot is a bit of a give away

SmellyFoot?

FunkyFoot..........obviously.

I have had 2 post taken in to the dark.
From all the troll hunting posts on this thread they chose mine

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GIN

Even if this is not genuine, this thread is giving MN a bad name.

It may put people off posting problems in fear of being accused of lying.

I did have a look out of curiosity at op history and to be honest it disgusting people picking apart someone who has had it hard over the years.

We should all know in a day or two if this thread is valid, as the DM will pick it up and run with it. If we don't see it in the DM soon, then we can be pretty sure it's because this is not true.

The op could be genuine,could be a troll. Neither would surprise me tbh, but Funny you have just made a twat of yourself here. It does not make you look clever troll hunting like this. Just makes you look desperate for attention.

Yes you are not the only one but you certainly are the most irritating.

FWIW (probably not very much) I believe this thread. Even so, whether it's real or not it certainly made me think about the signing in and out of children at dd's nursery and if it's any good.
So FunnyFoot, some good may have come out of it after all? I do think you have been particularly vindictive on this thread. Fine if you don't believe it but your mockery is childish and almost a bit like a bully's. Should this story come to the media's attention I hope you hang your head in shame and apologise to the OP.

Any tape would be inadmissible and its a provocative act
This needs clear calm what happened not 007 tactics

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