Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

The scrapping here is unbelievable. Its like watching a car crash!
Are you all feeling okay?

Would it be inappropriate to laugh at

Absolutely Brian I would imagine I would seek help from the nearest place and then call the police.

falconi sorry yes apologise.

This is utterly horrendous. My stomach was in my throat reading your opening post.

I don't think I could ever send my child back there.

I can only echo every "report to OFSTED, LEA and police" comment that's been made.

Give your DP a hug. Appreciate that your DD's ok and let yourself feel relieved. Then get angry and get on with protecting your baby and every other person's DD and DS that it could have been.

There is no excuse acceptable.

This is truly horrifying. I am sure you are probably still feeling shocked. Lots of people here supporting you.

I would be interested to hear the outcome of this and hope you will update us. Do you plan to go to the press?

I understand you all saying you would go to the next school first, I just can't see myself doing that! Unless I had no phone with me, and needed to borrow one.
No problemo body.

Absolutely shocking.

Throw the book at them.

And write a nice letter praising the HT.

Shocking!

I had an issue with dd's Afterschool club twice. I ended up moving her.

falconi yes see your point but in times of panic I think it's human nature to go find other humans if you see what I mean. So running in panic to the school to tell another adult about it/seek advice/support.

Please could you update us op at some point as would be interested in the outcome.

I am surprised to not see MNHQ on this thread. Loads of ruckus 'n' stuff going on here

Absolutely shocking. Glad your DD is safe and sound. I think it's s police matter, and as a parent I would want to know if this had happened at my dc nursery.

Me too AnyFucker. Decidedly notable by their absence.

They must have had loads of reports.

I will of course desist from posting ever again.
What, and deprive everyone of your wit and sparkling personality?

Please?

There are deleted posts, they must have seen the thread, so I'd at least expect a "troll hunting is norty, ps stop throwing buns" message. Weird.

Agreed, anyfucker. It's not just this thread she's shit-stirring on, either.

Op have read this thread in full and I cannot believe how horrid sone people have been!

Fwiw I know of a nursery local to me where a similar issue occurred. A friendly mine told me after I started asking for recommendations for dd.

I hope the police were able to offer some advice andbit agree with other posters about complaining through every available channel and also commending the head who assisted.

Glad your dd seems to be coping but so expect that she may suffer some separation anxiety over the next few days.

Please update on how you get on tomorrow with the nursery!

Why must they have had loads of reports? I haven't seen all that much fighting on this thread. Not compared to some.

Guess I must have missed something.

It's not the fighting, its the amateur sleuthing and nasty insinuations, Mintyy.

I would have expected a "keep within guidelines, no troll hunting" or a "the op checks out our end" or the thread to be locked or summat by now

Looking is asleep now after a badly needed to calm her nerves. I am her DP, if you wan't you can check my posting history, though I mainly lurk.

   To let you know what is going on so far, have had calls from headmistress of next doer school saying she is shocked and will be letting the eduction authorities know about what happened. Shortly followed by call from someone on the council education team (from a lay-by on her way home) to say how shocked she is and that we will be getting a official call in the morning from her manager. 101 said that as DSD is ok then it isn't a immediate criminal matter, but gave us number of SS emergency line and said we should call. SS said as she ok not a emergency, but gave managers line to call tomorrow as if the council don't report it we should. Have also made note of OFSTED number from earlier on in this post, will be calling them, probably after nursery meeting.

   To reassure those worried DSD is fine, she got to stay up late to watch rio, have yogurt and apple tea in the garden, and as many stories and songs at bedtime as she wanted. I am handling all the calling and running as <strong>looking</strong> suffers from anxiety, I am sure those who have read her previous thread can work out why. Please don't bring it up here again, rightly or wrongly, she needs to focus on DSD and what is best for her (hence asking mumsnet advice as she always worries she is just making a fuss over nothing) not defending herself or being reminded of a different terrible time in her life.

You think I have wit AND a sparkling personality

No need to beg, a please is not needed brd BFF's are we for ever and ever and ever..........