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Nursery went home and left dd!

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lookingfortheanswer · 28/04/2014 18:36

Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

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Canthisonebeused · 28/04/2014 23:03

Gosh drama that was my first thought what if something like you just posted happened or god forbid worse and this child was left for an indefinite amount of time. Did this seriously happen today? Are you all ok?

brdgrl · 28/04/2014 23:03

funnyfoot, are you playing Scooby Doo on this thread now too? Not happy enough with your stellar detective work this evening?
Troll hunting isn't on, you know that, right?

fisherpricephone · 28/04/2014 23:05

Yes, it's absolutely a matter for the police. I have several family members who are involved with child protection, all have interactions with the police at different times.

CannotSay · 28/04/2014 23:05

Feel like we need one of OliviaMnhq's "ahem ahem"'s

Getting back to supporting op.....

FunnyFoot · 28/04/2014 23:05

Nope I only play Scooby doo with Frogi and she is not here. Unless she is wearing the mask again but I doubt it Grin

Falconi · 28/04/2014 23:05

Last one scottishmummy

I don't care if you or anybody else think my suggestion is daft.

As I said daft or not.........

If you were not picking, you would have said it once and that would be enough.

I am disengaging now.

Falconi · 28/04/2014 23:07

*my next thought would be to rush over to the school and see if they could help

Mine too. I'd have assumed they had been moved to there due to a power cut or something similar or that the school would know of any unusual events that had occurred*

In this case, a note would have to be on the door. If the nursery was any good tbh.
The school has nothing to do with the nursery, I wouldn't assume the child would be there.

But apparently the caretaker is the same Confused

brdgrl · 28/04/2014 23:07

I would also have come home and posted on here, because like the OP, I would have wanted to hear people's suggestions about where to call and what to do next.
And I'd have put DD in front of the telly too, so that she didn't see how freaked out and falling apart I was feeling. Which could be important to helping this awful incident not be a scarring, traumatic experience for the girl.

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GreenIsTheWord · 28/04/2014 23:08

Fucking hell. I would go ballistic. That is really awful.

I once arrived at nursery to be told 'Ds2? (aged 2 at the time). He's already left. Your friend picked him up, the tall gentleman with fair hair?'

I had no friend who would pick ds2 up and instantly panicked. I was on the phone to the police in their reception area, nearly hysterical, when ten minutes later the girl casually walked in with ds and said 'Sorry! My mistake, it was X who left earlier, not your ds!'

I completely ripped her to shreds (I made her cry), then I ripped the manager to shreds, then I phoned and reported them to Ofstead.

edamsavestheday · 28/04/2014 23:09

good grief, you poor thing. Horrifying. Hope you manage to sleep tonight.

thebodydoestricks · 28/04/2014 23:09

No to be honest I too would have assumed that there had been a power cut/water off or leak etc and font to the school.

Not in a million years would I have thought my dd was locked in alone and been forgotten.

scottish whatever you think of compensation claims for negligence and obviously it's not the first priority that's the welfare of the dd and Ofsted the op may well have a claim against the nurseries insurers or the LA.

Just with mentioning.

brdgrl · 28/04/2014 23:10

It is child endangerment, which is a police matter.

BrianTheMole · 28/04/2014 23:12

Well the school were able to help weren't they. So a good call by the op. The pre school at my dc's school is separate from the main school too, but its on the same grounds, and, the caretaker is the same person there too.

Mintyy · 28/04/2014 23:13

Wouldn't you have thought the nursery would have sent a text informing you where they all were if there had been a power cut or leak or whatever?

Mintyy · 28/04/2014 23:14

I'm not troll hunting, btw, I am trying to imagine myself in that scenario.

amals1 · 28/04/2014 23:14

How awful, that is beyond believe. How can any member of staff sleep well tonight knowing they failed so badly in their duty of care over your child. I would hold every single one of them accountable.

thebodydoestricks · 28/04/2014 23:14

You are right about secret taping of course. That's not allowed.

Falconi · 28/04/2014 23:14

I would call the police and school next door at the same time.

BrianTheMole · 28/04/2014 23:15

In retrospect, yes, you would expect a text.

dramajustfollowsme · 28/04/2014 23:15

It did indeed happen today. I got let out but only by begging and pleading with the doctor, I am now on bed rest for the foreseeable future until I give birthConfused.
As far as I was concerned though, dh was getting dd, getting her something to eat and then coming back up to the hospital with her. His iPhone holds a charge for about 20 minutes slight exaggeration and ran out whilst on route. Then there was a bad accident and he got stuck. He was only 10 minutes after the official closing time but unusually late for us.
Our nursery also closes after the last child leaves, I think. Not entirely sure as dd has never, ever been last before.
A big box of chocolates will be going to nursery for the staff when dd is next in.
That is why my blood ran cold when I read this. If something had happened to the parents and they were late, it STILL wouldn't have been ok to just leave a child inside. I agree fines act as a deterrent for parents who just push their luck but in our case, there was a genuine emergency and the staff did their best to look after dd, just as a nursery should.

Falconi · 28/04/2014 23:16

You are right about secret taping of course. That's not allowed

I never mentioned the word secret

Just saying.

Damnautocorrect · 28/04/2014 23:16

How did your dp get on with the police?
This is just bloody disgusting.

BrianTheMole · 28/04/2014 23:17

I would imagine I would rush to the school hyperventilating and praying, but not expecting dd to be there. If the school hadn't helped then I imagine calling the police would dawn on me at that stage.

BarbarianMum · 28/04/2014 23:20

Please call OFSTED first thing in the morning. This is a massive failure in child protection.

Actually I am amazed you found her so soon - it would never have occurred to me that they might overlook a child completely.

Also it is definitely a police matter if you choose to make it one. You are not allowed to shut s 2 year old in a building and walk off, even done accidentally it could be classed as child endangerment.

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