Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

Yes, Falconi, as I said, I would have called the police the instant I realised I did not know where my child was. Before speaking to anyone at the school next door, I'd have been dialling 999.

I wouldn't rely on the LA to report this to the police if I'm honest either it could quite possibly just prompt an internal investigation and slapped wrists. But it certainly is neglect and should be reported to the police by OP to ensure effective joint working and investigation happens.

Wholly inappropriate.and yes daft

As far as I know, when a case of neglect or child abuse is reported to LA or Ofsted, the Police and SS automatically get involved.

No.local authority are compelled to act on report about nursery and consider initiate safeguarding
The la and ofsted have greater scope and sanction than police in this instance

Your poor child hope she forgets this very quickly, heads should roll for this no excuses.

Scottish mummy it is a criminal matter!

Yes scottishmummy I understood it already. I get it. I WOULD do it anyway. Daft or not.
If they did not let me record it, I would not attending any meeting.

They do falcon. However I wouldn't rely on that in this case I would very much be proactive in ensuring that happens by contacting them myself and requesting charges be pressed.

Social service and local authority are same organisation
The LA leads safeguarding and yes liaise with police
Police assess whether or not its civil or criminal,that determines whether remain involved

The caretaker unlocked the nursery.

I would be inclined to take a legal representative with me to any meeting to be honest.

I am afraid practise only changes and improves when authorities are faced with legal action.

They may not have contacted you on their own legal advice.

Who knows?

You and your solicitor can pair up with miss marple with tape recorder in her pocket

Even so, why drag it into this thread.

I am not saying that OP isn't genuine, I am just very surprised at her coolness.
I would have called police straight away once faced with locked doors, not school next door, not caretaker.
But that is just me.

A civil matter in a safeguarding case would be care proceedings as far as I'm aware. I don't understand what the civil matter in this case would be other than seeking compensation, I'm not sure why you are referring to it as a civil matter Scottish mummy?

Wretched plastic Poirots on here are as bad as the trolls.

I don't know if you are looking for a fight scottishmummy but I am no up for it.
Hope you find a more positive way to feel better with yourself than picking on people on a anonymous forum.

Good night hun xxx

That is just you falconi. Because once I'd dealt with the utter confusion that the nursery was locked, and that I didn't have the managers phone number, my next thought would be to rush over to the school and see if they could help.

You have a very whimsy grasp of whats appropriate in this sitution,I've pointed this out
Youre not being picked upon on in least.you don't like i challenged your daft suggestion

Falconi
Hun and xxx in the same post...............low blow, very low blow.

I mean call scotishmummy a cunt by all means but to hun AND xxx that is just wrong.

my next thought would be to rush over to the school and see if they could help

Mine too. I'd have assumed they had been moved to there due to a power cut or something similar or that the school would know of any unusual events that had occurred.

I actually feel physically sick having read this.
Dd was in nursery today. I ended up in hospital. Dh went to collect dd but his phone ran out of battery and there was a crash. This resulted in dd being picked up late - after the nursery should have closed.
Dd is usually picked up at 4ish so this was 2 hours later than normal.
When nursery couldn't get hold of myself or dh they contacted my dsis (emergency contact). She knew I was in hospital and that dh should have been there by then. She set off but dh did arrive before her.
At NO point was there any question of our 2yo being left on her own. In fact, apart from being a bit hungry for her tea, dd hadn't even noticed whilst the nursery staff were frantically trying to get hold of us.
I hope, like happened near here recently, this nursery is shut down tomorrow whilst under investigation. A local nursery had serious safeguarding issues and its licence was suspended until a thorough investigation took place. The complaint was upheld and the nursery permanently shut. This should happen here. It doesn't matter if it was one person's fuck up or a whole host of problems. This could have had very serious implications that don't bare thinking about.
I think your dd will be fine. Not sure how you will get this out of your head though, OP.