To be upset by what MIL has bough for us?

[MummySparkle]

We are expecting DC2 in 2 months. Today OH informed me that my MIL has bought us a new Moses basket for DC2 and would like to come and set it all up for us whilst I'm in hospital in labour.

We've talked about lots of possible things to get for the new baby, and a Moses basket has never been one of them. We have a perfectly good one from last time, one that I spent a considerable amount of time and effort making extra bedding for from some old bedsheets. I haven't seen this one yet, but chances are it will be a different size and require us to buy more bedding so that we can have a couple of sets.

And the idea of her being in my bedroom in my house fiddling with my stuff whilst I am in labour is horrifying! There are so many things out of my control in labour as it is, why on earth would I want her here 'sorting things out' for the baby. Which. I doubt I'd have to redo anyway because she thinks completely differently to me so the way she would 'sort out' things would be totally illogical to me.

OH is annoyed at me for being put out by this. But surely it's like me saying 'oh, by the way, I bought you a new coffee table because I didn't like your old one. I put it together whilst you were out and got rid of your old one, isn't that lovely of me?' To MIL?

AIBU here? Or is this a thing that 'all normal people would be grateful for' as OH says?

Thanks :)

Glad it's all sorted without any disharmony, good to know MIL had got the wrong end of the stick - all makes more sense!

Oh that's great, OP. Thought it sounded like a misunderstanding once you said you'd mentioned needing a new moses basket stand. Glad it's all sorted out!

There is nothing wrong with saying that you don't want to see anyone in labour.

I was at home right up to the last minute and all I kept thinking was if someone knocked the door I might punch them in the face.

MummySparkle
glad you sorted it and well done!

and sorry for projecting my feelings and experience onto your circumstances - I sincerely apologise for being nasty about your MIL.

all the best with the rest of your pg and good luck with birth and all!

I almost did punch someone in the face someone from the hospital lab when he barged in just before I started pushing. We had got to the hosp just in time and the normal admission procedures had to be waived. Nobody told the poor spotty faced lab tech that though . I think he may have got the shock of his life at what he witnessed...

Glad it's all sorted out mummy and you're both happy with it....sounds a good result.

Also, apologies, when I read your post about not wanting to see your mil, I didn't realise you meant while you were in labour....I take back what I said, and agree with you absobloodylutely!!!!

It could actually be handy to have one in the living room as well, that way baby can sleep downstairs if needed. You could ask her to bring it to yours early, so she's not setting it up whilst you're in labour.

Try to receive it with grace. You can still use your own Moses basket.

Oh good I'm so glad it's sorted. Happy baby days