husband forgot my birthday and I just can't get over it

[pigwidgeon991]

Completely forgot my birthday and had to be reminded that morning. Absolutely no effort whatsoever to make it up to me in any way. Came home and said I was going to go out at lunch and buy you a new mop (sad) but I didn't have time. Cried about it last night and he was very very sorry but I just can't get my head round why he hasn't tried to make it up to me. I can think of ten thousand things he could have done. He could even have just sent me an email in the day saying I'm so sorry for forgetting I love you, you are marvellous let's go out for dinner together sometime soon or something.

I know he isn't going to try and make it up to me so I need to just try and forget about it but I feel just so so sad and can't shake it. I am desperate for him to just make a little effort to make me feel cared about. Feel like such a blob of a person just bearing children, cooking meals, going to work etc. Want to be made to feel a bit special, attractive, girly etc for once. While he is wonderful he never ever makes me feel special of attractive or does anything nice for me. He is a great DH though and I'm sure very helpful with life stuff compared to some husbands (still obviously isn't 50/50 though).

Normally I wouldn't expect much at all on my birthday, don't think it is a huge deal. Just wanted a cup of tea, card and a little something to open. Now I feel like every hour that goes by that he still hasn't made it up to me I want something more to make up for it.

So tell me, AIBU? As in is this just marriage and really in the scheme of things not so bad when your DH is a lovely person?

YANBU! Whilst I could possibly get over him forgetting (although not really understand why), it would be the CGAF attitude afterward and the rotten present he mentioned aftward but didn't even bother getting that would be a dealbreaker for me. I couldn't forgive those at all.

A mop?! Sorry, but that is worse than no gift at all.

Probably it's quite late for me to post it here but this happened yesterday. I totally lost it. My DH forgot my birthday even I reminded him two days before and a hint in the afternoon, a quite mad hint I would say, yes afternoon as he woke up in the afternoon. Didn't say anything at all. Then he received a call from his friends to meet up at the pub and he just left like that without saying anything. When he left I just continue playing with my DD till he gets home around 8 pm and he having his beer and then went out to the balcony for smoke then straight for sleep, without any birthday wishes, at least! I said to him, you still didn't say it! I totally lost it and burst into tears. We started quarreling and he said, I work my ass off for three of us and you just thinking about I didn't wish your f*cking birthday. Blabla blabla. I was so patience before but after I gave birth to my DD daughter I always easily lost the plot (and I don't know why). I then started to compare the way he remembers his ex partner birthday, family of his ex birthday as he told me quite few times. He said past is past and he has new life now blabla blabla. I must say he doesn't talk much, but when we argue or quarreling over something and mostly over silly things (I always started because he hardly understands my feelings) he talks so much, probably he's trying to win the argument. I don't wish for fancy birthday party or gift, I just want a simple birthday wish, happy birthday darling, I love you. That's it. Is it hard?