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Original poster

To tell my "boyfriend" to fuck off home?

83 replies

ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 12:55

He's been here over a week. I don't like it. I need my space.

He shits 4 times a day (yes!) leaves the toilet seat up, uses my milk and tea bags, "Borrows" my fags, lounges across my sofa stays up all night watching music channels and sleeps in til now! Eats all my food and farts all the time. Hmm

I wouldn't mind but he doesn't work so never replaces anything! His fucking iPad is constantly on charge and he leaves all the lights and TVs on too!

I want him to leave but I don't know how to say it. I'm such a bitch on here I no but not like that in real life!

(P.s he's the father of my child too)

I don't know if this is light hearted or not Confused

So Am I BU to ask him politely to fuck off please?

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GemmaPomPom · 06/04/2014 12:57

Show him your post. He might not realise how objectionable his behaviour is.

cannykeepaway · 06/04/2014 12:57

Mmmmmm tell him to fuck off and send him over to me!

Seriously, I get that he is the DF of your DC, but what is his attraction otherwise?

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 12:59

Nothing really Hmm

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HarderThanYouThink · 06/04/2014 12:59

Erm tell him you need some space? I don't really know if there is a polite way of telling somebody to piss off tbh

ilovesooty · 06/04/2014 13:00

Why do you have to be polite? Tell him to fuck off - permanently.

I take it he must have some redeeming features - or did have at one time?

rabbitlady · 06/04/2014 13:00

then tell him to leave.

GemmaPomPom · 06/04/2014 13:01

Why do you want him, cannykeepaway?

Goblinchild · 06/04/2014 13:01

Has he always been like this? Confused
I wouldn't put up with any of that from my adult children without protest, and changing the situation. So yes, tell him to go, but make sure he knows exactly why.

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:01

He thinks I'm having a go if I ask him to put the toilet seat down! I'm going to have to fake a friend coming over!

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FutTheShuckUp · 06/04/2014 13:02

Do either of you work?

cannykeepaway · 06/04/2014 13:02

I was being (not very) funny Gemma Grin

dreamingbohemian · 06/04/2014 13:02

Ummm..... why are you even with him?

He's the father of your child, but you don't live together and it doesn't even sound like you like him very much. Why bother?

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:03

He's ok sometimes but very good at playing the woe is me card everyone feel sorry for me!

I made him clean up after himself before he went to bed last night he looked at me like I said the baby isn't his! He sulks too.

Why am I with him?!

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Cobain · 06/04/2014 13:03

I do not allow anyone to treat me like that, he maybe DC father but he still needs to be a role model as so do you.

HowContraryMary · 06/04/2014 13:05

He has no redeeming features, doesn't work, treats the house like a pig sty, doesn't pay his way - are you one of those women who can't be without a bloke?

Tell the cocklodger to bugger off back to his own flat. Or wherever he lives.

FunkyBoldRibena · 06/04/2014 13:05

'These are the rules of the house.
[list the rules]
You are welcome to leave if you don't like any of them.'

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:06

I'm on maternity and doing a Law degree at the moment. He lost his job last year when I was pregnant. I left him and only been back together about a month!

I'm starting to remember why I left I the first place. Sometimes I like him just in small doses. I think that's more to do with me though I'm used to my space I don't like being around people to much I'm a lone wolf if you like Grin

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MamaPain · 06/04/2014 13:07

I don't understand, surely if you don't bullock him, and instead invent a fake friend he won't recognise you find this behaviour unacceptable and will continue to do so. He'd sort of be right in carrying on, selfish and rude but right, as he isn't aware you have a problem with it.

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:08

I will try that Ribena!

No really not one of those women lol I'd rather be by myself!

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:10

I've said stuff before he's get emosh and thinks I'm just having a go.

I'm such a fool. I will kick his butt but I'm rather annoyed at the moment and don't want to argue in front of the baby.

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2014 13:10

Sounds like a cocklodger, using your resources instead shelling out for himself, i guess he buys nothing for baby either.

Goblinchild · 06/04/2014 13:12

Does he have his own place, or does he live with his parents?
You do seem to have low standards in what you want, can you think of half a dozen reasons that make him a great partner?
Or even three?

Goblinchild · 06/04/2014 13:13

So, you have two children.

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ItsBritneyBitch · 06/04/2014 13:13

That's exactly how I feel Tali! No he dosent he gets his mum to buy milk and nappies! He thinks I don't know but he leaves the receipts in the bags and it has her credit card as payment!

Cocklodger! Lover that haha

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DameEdnaBeverage · 06/04/2014 13:14

As you left him and only been back together month just say that you made a mistake in getting back together. It doesn't appear that he's changed at all since you last broke up.

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