To not find having cream squirted in my face funny?

[DrinkingWatermelon]

Visiting my Grandmother today for tea and cakes. A few other members of the family were there too.

My cousin who is 8 asked his dad if he would squirt cream in his mouth - which he did. My uncle then turned to me and said do you want some too Watermelon?

I said no and he still proceeded to shove it in my face so I turned my head away and then he decided to actually squirt it on my face and even some went in my hair. So it wasn't even a small little blob.

My uncle found it hilarious until he saw my face and he did apologise but I still felt I should have just laughed along.

My uncle is early 40s and I'm 24 - I wouldn't do that to another adult. Aibu and need to her a sense of humour?

leaner = clearer

I think you've picked up on a good point Amanda - it's a fine line, and one that's difficult to tread. One minute it's misguided whipped cream, the next it's a full blown food fight with specially made trifles and everything.

They do say that revenge is a dish best served cold however so Jelly perhaps?

Jelly is perfect for a food fight, but not for a revenge attack as it has jovial overtones.

Fair point Amanda, however have you considered the wider cleaning up issues with your stewed apples?

I'm proposing a 'jelly down the trousers' approach which combines revenge with humiliation and has little chance of damaging the furnishings.

The perfect trifecta!

Ok Rebel I confess I'd still worry re: comedy value of jelly and the innuendo element of a trouser placement, but I think it could work. And it would be embarrassing.

Not raspberry though.
Maybe lime, or a savoury jelly

Op, next time go armed with a buffet.

I am a bit about the forcing of cream into ops mouth I must confess. But I might be projecting.

Context is everything, and for me there simply isn't enough detail within the OP to justify the level of vitriol that the thread has generated. Too many of the posters have taken a brief OP and created a scenario out of all proportion to the facts

Soapboxes are slippery things and I've fallen off enough of them in the past to hesitate when I see crowds getting on them.

I'm standing firm on the Jelly approach though - strawberry/raspberry definitely being out as they're party favourites, lime the preferred option as, lets be honest, nobody really likes it.

Rebelwithoutapplause agree.

And yes, I'll run with you on the jelly- trouser thing.
I'm concerned grandma might call "overreaction" but op was upset so it's worth a punt.

Cover his car with eggs and golden syrup and see how funny he finds it. Take lots of pictures and paste them on You Tube so we can all have a laugh.

Nope theenchantedrose the nephew was in his swimming trunks and sat by the side of the pool.

A good example actually of making assumptions based on very little actual information.

Cover his car with eggs and golden syrup and see how funny he finds it.

Yes, because that is really the same as squirting a bit of cream in someone's face

Op i never stated you said you were going to the police! My comment was aimed at someone who was static you COULD theoretically...
All I am saying is yes you Could , but I think it is very OTT and all this exaggeration of 'assault' and 'abuse' all the time is going too far (in media/ RL) i speak as a woman who actually was assaulted , I speak as a feminist, I speak as a very well educated liberal socialist. Please refrain from making something into something it isn't as it actually is quite demeaning to women who are going trough actual abuse. This ott, hysterical reaction does nothing for womens rights and simply perpetuates the idea that us women are ott and hysterical! Calm the fuck down and react in a sensible manner PP's ... He was an idiot but is not an abuser ffs! He is not someone who should be vilified for assault! Jesus Christ ... It is actually almost comical.

YANBU

Slap him with a wet fish.

I've always wanted to slap someone with a wet fish but my conscience gets in the way.

Someone like this would give me the perfect guilt-free opportunity ;)

OP I am not aiming this at you! It is at pp who have reacted in a manner i find quite disturbing and worrying. You be as angry as you like, but others shouldn't be encouraging you to over react - that helps no one. Sorry if you think me rude, I am merely stating what a lot of people probably think but wont say due to the fear of a MN backlash, whereas I lost the need to care about others opinions of my veiws when i grew up.

I'm curious to know what the other people who were there thought of it.

Was anyone else given the offer of having cream squirted in their mouth?

I find that a really odd thing to do.

Can understand a child-but to ask an adult??

He apologised as soon as he realised you weren't amused. Have you never made a misjudgement?

It would not be funny if he did this to a child either, if they were unwilling.

Classic example of bullying and humiliating aggression dressed up as "a joke". And another reason it would upset me is that I think that for him, maybe not fully consciously, there is a parallel with something sexual. "I will poke this into her mouth and squirt something in even though she says no, hee hee." I also bet he wouldn't do it to a man. I would be fucking furious.

"He apologised as soon as he realised you weren't amused. Have you never made a misjudgement?"

Perhaps he should just have not done it when OP was no?

How is squirting cream on someone a "misjudgement"?

Is it a thing that adults do (apart from consenting ones!!)?

Some of you need to lighten up a bit

How is squirting cream on someone a "misjudgement"?

Quite easily. He thought it was funny and thought the OP would find it funny. When he realised she didn't, he apologised. He doesn't appear to have said "oh get over it I was only messing about", he realised his mistake and apologised.

The OP is entitled to feel annoyed but should accept it was a misjudgement and have accept his apology with good grace.

But the OP had already said no, so why did he do it at all?

Not everyone finds the same thing funny & surely the best thing is "if in doubt, don't"?

If he thinks it's funny, why didn't he squirt cream on his own face?

I don't know, ask him

"I don't know, ask him"

Well I can't as I don't know him!!

But that's the thing isn't it about this sort of situation.

THe assuption that someone else will find something funny because you & your 8yr old do?

I detest food fights, people messing about with it and those awful couples who shove wedding cake into each other's faces on the big day.
I also detest dickish male bullies.

You should have kicked him in the cock and said it was a reflex action and then done a really lame apology. After reading that article in the Guardian about every day sexism, I'm feeling much more inclined to advocate direct action in dealing with these types.

Oh dear, have I killed the thread by being too strident again?