To not find having cream squirted in my face funny?

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Visiting my Grandmother today for tea and cakes. A few other members of the family were there too.

My cousin who is 8 asked his dad if he would squirt cream in his mouth - which he did. My uncle then turned to me and said do you want some too Watermelon?

I said no and he still proceeded to shove it in my face so I turned my head away and then he decided to actually squirt it on my face and even some went in my hair. So it wasn't even a small little blob.

My uncle found it hilarious until he saw my face and he did apologise but I still felt I should have just laughed along.

My uncle is early 40s and I'm 24 - I wouldn't do that to another adult. Aibu and need to her a sense of humour?

YANBU. He sounds like a school bully who never grew up.

OP YANBU at all.

I hate, hate, hate this type of behaviour too. I'm with the poster who said she bet he would not have done this to a 24 year old male :)

I used to have an uncle like with when I was a child. It is not remotely funny.

I think this is a perfect AIBU to the poster who thought otherwise.

Your Uncle is a twat who needed to have his nose tweaked hard, then asked if he found that amusing.

Twat.!

What an uncle nobhead! I hate this behaviour, completely out of order. I would find it very hard not to be planning revenge.

that excuse "he is used to playing with 8 year olds" is beyond feeble.

Caitlin - what I meant was that he probably has a childish sense of humour and he behaved in a childish way. I agree that he was out of order but I think that comments about assault and bullying behaviour are probably reading too much in to it.

He did something stupid and quite possibly was embarrassed when he realised that he had been a jerk.

Then again maybe he is a bullying twat but I don't think one could possibly know that from this one incident as told on this thread

And I bet he uses the term "politically correct" whenever someone tries to call him on his various cuntery. Am I right?

WTAF? Cut contact completely? Press charges? Because he squirted cream at her? And apologised afterwards when he realised she didnt see the funny side? Yes he was a total knob in this instance but Christ some of the complete anialhations (no idea how to spell that) of the uncles character on the basis of one incident are ridiculous!

Mumsnet never fails to astonish me sometimes!

Its humiliation. My old high school friend enjoyed jokes like this. Once when inviting me to smell her new sun lotion she squirted a huge amount in my face. I was livid, but of course she played the 'its all in fun' card. Actually her jokes descended into more viscous attacks until once I was very nearly hurt, in a life changing way....i still shudder at how close I came that day!

But the thing is spraying cream on someone in order to embarrass them is actually assault. What bit of the law makes you think otherwise?

Most minor assaults like this go unreported, sure. But calling it what it is puts things into perspective.

You're right, none of us was there and we all know that sometimes innocent jokes go wrong.

But there's enough in the OP's toneand in our own observations of similar patterns/peopleto indicate that this guy is, to use the technical legal term, a cunt.

Of course the OP will do what she thinks best.

what a twat.

Damn it Sue, what happened?

That would have pissed me right off. YANBU!

You said no and he still did it, he's an arse and deliberately belittled you. Why should you put up with anything, joke or not, that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I would have kicked him in the cock to see how funny he found that not helpful

Sounds like a bit of a twat

But I've got to love MN for the complete over reaction and dissection of this man's personality!

I'm with Worra Liberty

Goodness, thank god for worraliberty once again for reassuring me that I don't live in a parallel universe and that mumsnet is a bit bonkers sometimes!

I was at my friends wedding abroad last year and we were by the pool. My friends perfectly lovely dh made a complete misjudgement and decided it would be funny to push his 7 year old nephew (who can swim) in the pool. The nephew did not see the funny side and got really upset. Friend's dh felt really bad and embarrassed as he had done it in front of everyone and apologised to his nephew. We all jokingly berated him, but I didn't realise I was supposed to be calling the fucking police on him

Where's the overreaction?

Day after day women get told off for "overreacting" to all sorts of humiliations, big and small. We're too sensitive, they're just "jokes," they're just "compliments," what have you.

Throwing food on someone in order to embarrass them is assault. Go look up the damned law.

It is okay for her to be upset about this. And for other people to say they'd be upset. That's not overreacting.

You've done pissed me off now.

I would love to see the desk officer's reaction to the op reporting this assault at the police station.

I think Peter Kay would describe him as Uncle Knobhead and reckons every family has one.

My family is truly blessed with 2 uncle knobheads and a BIL who is shaping up to be one for my DC. They do a lot of that PA stuff. It's really quite tiresome

It is an overreaction.
And frankly, it's insulting to anyone who has actually been assaulted (in either a serious or more "minor" way) to suggest that squirting cream at someone at their grandmas tea table is an act of assault.
Yes, women's concerns (bra pinging, pulling skirts up, bum pinching, sexual innuendo, being verbally bullied in public....) are often wrongly overlooked.
But From my reading of the op this doesn't fit in that category.
If there's more to it then I apologise, but it's not there in the op.

Absolutely no one has recommended that she report it as an assault.

However, realising that it is technically assault puts it in perspective, doesn't it?

So you'd be okay with someone throwing food on you for laffs? Even if it made you feel humiliated enough that hours later you were still feeling upset?

We are talking euphemisms here are we not ??

Oh yes, tiresume, annoying, boring, deserving of a similar reposte or a telling off.

So basically this man doesn't understand what no means and is happy to demonstrate his lack of understanding in front of his son and it's just a silly joke that misfired?

Yoneedaminute your husband's friend is a prat and possibly a bully. There is nothing funny about what he did.

Well, I did wonder julia which is why I I'd "if there's more to it...."

No. I wouldn't be ok with it.it was a stupid thing to do but I wouldn't be getting irate about it. I would have forgotten about it by now tbh.
it was a bit of squirty cream. He appears to have " misfired"