To refuse to supply more nappies for DS until the nursery supply me with a breakdown of how the last lot were used?

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DS goes to nursery 3 days a week. (Tuesday, Thursday, Friday). Last Tuesday I took in two packets of 35 nappies so 70 in total. I assumed these would last at least a few weeks.

This evening they asked me for more nappies. I queried it and they insisted DS had used the lot. This means that in 4 days at nursery he'd used an average of 17.5 nappies a day. They tell me they keep a written record of all changes including the time and whether they were wet or soiled. AIBU to insist they provide it to me and to refuse to bring any nappies or pay their charge for 50p a nappy for each one they provide until they have shown me the original written evidence of all 70 nappies being used on DS?

I've suspected before that they may be using DS's nappies on other children but this is ridiculous surely!!

YANBU. Definitely ask for the change log. They're being very cheeky to use most of your nappies on other kids, they're too expensive to lose that many.

They charge 50p a nappy???? Wow!
I used to get mine from the pampers shop direct and they were 5p a nappy regardless of type or size.

Definitely ask to discuss it with the manager - I'd be interested to see their written records as well though! If they fake it so that they have used all the nappies on your son then it is going to look ridiculous & if they haven't in fact used all the nappies then they'll have to hold their hands up & admit they've gone to others or been "mislaid".

I change my toddler 3-4 times per day, possibly more if he has the runs, but in a worst case scenario over 3 days that's only max. 15 a week!

I provide 3 nappies to my childminder on the days that my son goes to her & she always has spares of his leftover which she uses if I forget to put them in one day.

I might change my name. I nearly had a heart attack when I saw all the posts telling "Oscar" to do one. Wondered how on earth I had managed to offend so many people

You oscars are all the same! Maybe we could call you wildey?

17.5 nappies in a day??! OP, I would definitely not be taking any more nappies in until the nursery have explained how they've used that many!

I do want OP to come back and tell us the outcome

Yes, the nursery have either made a mistake and mixed the OP's nappies up with someone else's, or they've used OP's nappies on another child and forgotten to make a note of that.

If OP's child really was needing 17 nappy changes a day, he'd have been ill enough for the OP or the nursery to have noticed.

OP - I also have to provide nappies for DS1 at nursery. DS1 usually has 3 - 4 nappy changes per day (these are noted in the diary nursery send home with him). I know that at least occasionally nursery get mixed up and use the wrong nappies on him - he's come home once or twice wearing a different type of nappy to the ones we'd sent in.

So, I put 6 nappies per day in his nursery bag. Allows for the expected 3 - 4 nappy changes plus 2 spare. If you don't get a suitable reply from your nursery about the ridiculous number of nappies used, you might want to consider doing something similar. It may be a bit more of a PITA, but at least they'll not be able to use 17 - 24 days worth of nappies in 4 days.

I would request the diary, just send in what he needs for that day I.e 6 and name them with a marker.

Oscar the op asked for advice on nappies, try to stick to the topic please!

no more nappies. pack a daily bag with enough in for him and follow it up with the manager.

I saw the thread title and came here ready to say pick your battles, is it really that important if you're a few nappies down, think about the bigger relationship with the people who care for your child etc etc.

But 17 a day? I think just politely point out that there must have been a mistake, as if he was really using that many then obviously they would have let you know about his overactive bladder!

OP, give us an update please (anxiously waiting)

Is it usual now to leave the nursery whole packs of nappies ? When mine went to nursery we used to just supply a bag with a few nappies and a couple of changes of clothes just in case of accidents . Surely if everyone is providing whole packs it's really easy to get things mixed up and where would they store them all ? That said they wouldn't be getting anymore .

Just come back up to update you all. Not had time to read the many posts that seem to have followed mine.

I phoned the nursery and asked to speak with the manager earlier today. I outlined the situation and she agreed that it was highly unlikely DS was using 17 nappies a day and promised to investigate. Indeed she seemed to find the idea as funny as some of you do

Outcome DS's nappies have suddenly turned up. There is another boy with the same name who only goes one day a week. Someone accidentally put DS's nappies in his basket and logged them as his nappies and the last few of his previous pack were used up then more were asked for. The member of staff who made the mistake does not usually work on the days DS is in but was in today and realised what had happened. Last Monday she was in covering someone elses leave.

They're very apologetic.

Very glad to find DS does not have dysentery without me even noticing.

Off to cook dinner and will read all the posts later.

Glad it was sorted out. Maybe just take a few in at a time to save any issues in the future

Exactly what I said prob happened :)

Oscar, I'm a SAHM and have been since my third child was born. Until then, my two older children went to nursery part time. They had a brilliant time and were very well cared for, and four years later still talk about their time there. I'd send the little one if I could afford to,a couple of mornings a week.

fantastic! a very reasonable explanation.

good they have stored it.

Glad manager found it funny too - it is hilarious

Glad to see it was a complete genuine and understandable oversight and has been sorted!

Phew..

Glad it was a genuine mistake. Also glad your DS does not have the worlds' worst case of the shits.

But still....70 nappies between the days your boy is there and the one day the other boy is there?

Isn't that still too many nappies?

oh dear Oscar so sorry I don't come up to your high standard of parenting. Given my dreadful parenting its probably fortunate I send him to nursery where he is well cared for and properly fed and even has friends and toys to play with. I'm sure that when he's older he'll thank me for releasing him 3 days a week from my substandard parenting he may also appreciate that he had a roof over his head, food in his tummy and clothes on his back