To refuse to supply more nappies for DS until the nursery supply me with a breakdown of how the last lot were used?

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DS goes to nursery 3 days a week. (Tuesday, Thursday, Friday). Last Tuesday I took in two packets of 35 nappies so 70 in total. I assumed these would last at least a few weeks.

This evening they asked me for more nappies. I queried it and they insisted DS had used the lot. This means that in 4 days at nursery he'd used an average of 17.5 nappies a day. They tell me they keep a written record of all changes including the time and whether they were wet or soiled. AIBU to insist they provide it to me and to refuse to bring any nappies or pay their charge for 50p a nappy for each one they provide until they have shown me the original written evidence of all 70 nappies being used on DS?

I've suspected before that they may be using DS's nappies on other children but this is ridiculous surely!!

Firstly yes that is clearly ridiculous and they need pulling up on it. My 23 month DD is in nursery two mornings a week and is changed twice in that time (unless there's a poo in between!). I send in a pack of nappies about every 6 weeks I think!

And secondly woah Oscar I must be a terrible mother in your eyes because I'm a SAHM and yet I still send my poor DD off to be looked after by trained professionals and to play with a bunch of kids her own age for 8 hours a week. And I have the audacity to enjoy myself in those 8 hours. I'd work if I could too but don't have a work permit in the country I live in.

I think oscar lives under a bridge. I hope she does as I would hope nobody could really be that obnoxious.

How old are you oscar?

I for one am not mortgaged up to my neck. My mortgage is approx 150pcm less than our rent was at a very run down house. Yet I still cannot take the hit of not working. DD wasn't planned as such so we didn't have savings to fall back on and I wanted to enjoy her while I was young and have a life afterwards. I didn't want to build up a career and then drop it in my forties

We clearly could never be as perfect a mother as you! What child needs to be taught that women can achieve what they want nowadays? What child needs to eat? What child should be shown a work ethic and that working hard gets you a pretty good life?

Open your mind! There's a whole world out there for you to see!

Condolences fandango! You're better off without him

Oscar will probably use that against you as she is probably highly against babies out of wedlock and her house is lit by candles. No crazy notions if modern electricity in her house!

There's no way they could of used 17 nappies a day...

I would talk to the manager to be honest!

You need to
He records of nappy changes to take to your gp as there is clearly something wrong if your DC is needing the toilet 17 times a day as this is excessive.

My 16 month old son's nursery give us a written report on how many nappy changes he has a day (along with other details of his day). He's there from 7:30 til 5 and usually goes through 4 nappies a day. You definitely need to complain.

Oh dear
Almost 20% of adult households privately rent. Should those 20% of us ('generation rent' apparently) never have children either? I haven't over stretched myself with a mortgage but perhaps my landlady has because she wants an awful lot of money to live in her house. If I'd waited until I had enough money to afford rent for 5 years while I stayed at home I would literally never have children. Meh.

17 nappies a day is a new record, I think. Idiots.

I work in a nursery and we have pigeonholes for each child's nappies and wipes. Everything is clearly marked when they come in and the nursery has packs of 'spare' nappies if a parent has forgotten to bring some in (which happens every day). It works perfectly.

From Oscar's use of the word diaper etc I am guessing he/she/it is American so understands fuck all about the UK housing market (rent often costing more than mortgage repayments etc) & living costs. Rather ignorant views anyway (& I was a SAHM - even then kids did some nursery sessions).

Let us know what the nursery say OP - obviously they're using the nappies on other kids.

i would be upset. i would be considering alternatives.

I think you're over reacting a bit OP, it's obviously a mistake and probably a couple I things have happened:

• they forgot to say they needed nappies and were using another child's so they had to be "paid back"
• they didn't realise you brought in two packs so have actually only used about half a pack

They have made a mistake when stating they used all 70 but I'm guessing you spoke to a member of room staff at pick up time? Just talk to them it's no big deal and they are almost certainly not stealing from you.

Oscar

They could be funny about doing a breakdown of how many nappies they've used.I know they shouldn't be!But sadly lots of nurseries are!

Do you know how many you use on your LO roughly every day?If you do then I'd be tempted to send in that amount plus just a few extra to make sure so they don't use your child's nappies on anyone else and you don't end up having to pay 50p per nappy of the nursery's they might use.

Could one of the nursery staff members be pilfering to take home for her own?

I think Oscar needs to realise that we are not living in the 1930s anymore

It's obviously not right and yes, as everyone says, speak to them. The nappy changes should be in a daily diary that you see anyway, not in secret files somewhere!

Oscar go and shave your palms and let the grown ups get on with it

Op I would be livid definitely complain

Surely you wouldn't use more than 5 a day max? Ask for the record, as if he's been using 17 nappies a day, you need to take him to the Dr! Not that he will have been!!!

Of course you are not being unreasonable - they must have lost/used/had stolen a pack and a half!

...another terrible mother who sends her 3 year old to playgroup EVERY DAY for at least the morning.. what am I thinking sending him to a room full of toys/games and craft filled with children his own age - he must HATE it. All the time he asks to go during school holidays must be the stockholm syndrome talking.

Either your Ds needs hospitalizing or they are pulling a fast one.

Good grief.

Good luck op

I usually go through 3 nappies a day, sometimes 4 for my 19 month old. How long is he at nursery? 8-9 hours? Changed every half an hour then? Hmmm.

MUDs goes to nursery 3 days a week. Each child has their own named basket where their nappies/wipes are stored. When the basket is running low, replacements are taken out of the nappy bag I take in with her each day. We also are told at pick up how many wet/soiled nappies she's had that day.
17 is ridiculous!

I'm quite worried about Oscaractressvery rude lady 's children, they obviously spend all their time with a small minded, rude mother. Poor kids don't even get a break by going to nursery :(

17 nappies is bonkers, they must have lost them or got them muddled up.

YANBU, they have either misplaced them or they are putting them on other children and by the sounds of it charging their parents 50p per nappy.