To refuse to supply more nappies for DS until the nursery supply me with a breakdown of how the last lot were used?

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DS goes to nursery 3 days a week. (Tuesday, Thursday, Friday). Last Tuesday I took in two packets of 35 nappies so 70 in total. I assumed these would last at least a few weeks.

This evening they asked me for more nappies. I queried it and they insisted DS had used the lot. This means that in 4 days at nursery he'd used an average of 17.5 nappies a day. They tell me they keep a written record of all changes including the time and whether they were wet or soiled. AIBU to insist they provide it to me and to refuse to bring any nappies or pay their charge for 50p a nappy for each one they provide until they have shown me the original written evidence of all 70 nappies being used on DS?

I've suspected before that they may be using DS's nappies on other children but this is ridiculous surely!!

Our DCs' nursery provided nappies. I'm very surprised that it seems to be the norm for parents to have to send them in!

Wow if they are using that many on him I wonder why they didn't call you to get him to the doctors ASAP!
Get them to justify, they are taking the piss!

They are using your nappies for people who refuse to supply their own. It is just simply not on. They are taking the p.

Sending them in means they get brands that work for each child, not allergic to, etc. My kids baby room had a pigeonhole unit above the nappy table with nappies and wipes for each baby separately. The toddler room gets more mixed up as the nappies aren't stored next to the change table.

Do you not get a report at the end of the day saying how many times they've changed him? Because unless it says 17 then wtf are they doing with them all!

What an incredibly sad thread. Poo diaries? Nappy-thieving nurseries? Is it really worth it?

Is it really worth dealing with the nursery lying and pretending that they're using probably more than twice the real number of nappies they're using?? Obviously, yes. They're not free, you know.

That is ridiculous. I would suspect they have either misplaced the ones you have taken in or given them to someone else.

It is simply not possible for them to have gone through all those nappies in that time so I would not be taking in anymore until i think the 70 should have run out.

That is ridicolous. I think you are right to ask them what they have done with the nappies.

If you wanted to be really evil you could always send him in cloth nappies!

Yes Oscar, they are expensive and it would be crazy to expect the OP to just replace them without saying anything!

Oscar the OP entrusts these people with her child, I think she needs to be able to trust that they are honest people, so yes it is important

Definitely challenge them. Ask how he's meeting the EYFS developmental criteria if he's spending over an hour of every day having his nappy changed... Also ask what their SEN co-ordinator is doing and what his/her thoughts are... Then ask about safeguarding and ratios if this is procedural and they're changing all the kids as often; presumably they have a third of the members of staff tied up changing nappies at any one time...

Seriously, my DS gets through 3-4 nappies a day at nursery, depending on a) whether there's a dirty nappy before drop-off or after, and b) whether they give him baked beans. They looked at me askance when I handed over a pack of 48 nappies when he started, and said "well, we hope to have him potty-trained before he gets through that lot!".

Good grief. Ds had permanent diarrhoea and even he didn't usually get through that many (although his record was 35 in just under 24 hours. He was in hospital at that point though!!)

I used to send a couple in his bag each day rather than a whole lot in at once.

I'd be putting on a worried face, and asking why theu hadn't seen fit to call the doctor/me as clearly dc must be unwell to be going through 17+ nappies a day.

that's just ridiculous.

yuo could try swapping to cloth for nursery days - no chance of a mix up then.

Our nursery provided nappies. They were able to buy bulk and get trade discount so did not add much to the fees. With so many children in on all combinations of days I am amazed that nurseries even attempt to organise it all!
Our kids didnt even need to take a bag in each day unless sending bottles in for babies. They just gave us a drawstring bag for them to keep a change of clothes in.

I meant, is it worth it to leave your children in the care of people that are possibly trying to swindle your diaper-supply? Who cares about the cost of nappies...what else are they doing to cut costs? This thread is ludicrous.

I'd be livid.

How can you trust them to take care of your child's needs when they lie to you over this?

If it were me I'd be wondering what else goes on there that they lie about.

Um, EXACTLY, chippy.

Gosh, Oscar, pretty shocked that you don't think it's important for the OP to feel secure about what she's being told by her child's carers, quite apart from the practical issue of how flipping expensive nappies are. It's either a) sloppiness or b) deceit and neither is an ideal scenario.

And yes, I agree it's important. I'd want the staff caring for my DC to know basic info relating to his health and to be able to trust them. Knowing how many times in a day you've changed a child's nappy, particularly if they're non-verbal, is actually bloody important. It's one of the first things you get asked by a doctor in case of illness, for starters, and how you assess dehydration, etc.

Our nursery sticks a label on the pack and puts in a pigeonhole. They don't supply nappies due to fit/allergy issues - for which I'm grateful as DD was allergic to several brands and didn't fit others. The only disposables we could use were Pampers active fit, which no nursery would buy as they're expensive.

I would swan in there and ask them why it wasn't down on his daily notes that he had diarrhoea. When they say, er, he didn't have it, look them in the eye and say; so what's your explanation then?

That's a ridiculous number of nappies. DS (15 m) goes through 5 per day max and that includes 2 at home (first thing and before bed).

70 nappies is about £10 in supermarket own brand and more in pampers. Worth querying.

Very astute observation, Custard. Multiple babies, needing several nappy changes a day, being cared for in a nursery situation is far from an ideal scenario. I offer you option c) Stay at home and look after your babies YOURSELF. That way you are precisely aware of the nuances of their bowel movements and health and can personally monitor your nappy stocks. As for leaving your baby at daycare when he has diarrhea . Do you not see a problem with that?

Even if they lost one bag of the nappies, that would mean they were changing him 8 times a day, which is still far more than the average toddler gets changed. They've made a mistake, but I bet they won't want to own up to it. Do not pay them for nappies until they can give you an explanation as to where all your nappies have gone.