To refuse to supply more nappies for DS until the nursery supply me with a breakdown of how the last lot were used?

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DS goes to nursery 3 days a week. (Tuesday, Thursday, Friday). Last Tuesday I took in two packets of 35 nappies so 70 in total. I assumed these would last at least a few weeks.

This evening they asked me for more nappies. I queried it and they insisted DS had used the lot. This means that in 4 days at nursery he'd used an average of 17.5 nappies a day. They tell me they keep a written record of all changes including the time and whether they were wet or soiled. AIBU to insist they provide it to me and to refuse to bring any nappies or pay their charge for 50p a nappy for each one they provide until they have shown me the original written evidence of all 70 nappies being used on DS?

I've suspected before that they may be using DS's nappies on other children but this is ridiculous surely!!

No way your ds has got through 70 nappies in 4 days. Obv Their mistake and sure all will be fine. Talk to the manager

Pmsl @ check the poo diary

But very true. Can you prove you took in nappies. Does someone sign thm in - maybe went under another child's with similar name

I we ork in daycare.

Whilst most parents brought in enough nappies for a daily session some brought in large packs to save the hassle, when they were brought in we labelled the pack and placed it on the childs peg so they weren't touched by anyone else.

We also had a changing log with name, time and wet/soiled details in the room which was accessible to parents along with the childs daily log book, most children are consistent in how often they needed changed as was apparent through the logs and if we'd noticed a jump to 17 (or generally if any child went through 17) in a day especially repeatedly, we would have had to contact the parents as it would clearly mean something was wrong.

If a child of that age was genuinely needing that many nappies per day he'd have been hospitalised by now I think .

I used cloth and had none of the nappy use angst experienced by friends, as it was very obvious which belonged to DS.. By law nurseries can't refuse cloth usage. If they really are truly stoooopid, or everyone at your nursery favours the same brand then, you could I suppose label them like parents of older kids do PE kits. With disposable paper liners for stools, they were easy enough for workers to use at change time. Saved a fortune over the years he was in em too.

My big tip for cloth and nursery is to ensure your take home dirty laundry bags are truly waterproof . A leaky dirty nappy bag on the bus home is not fun lol!

If cloth really isn't your bad then take the nappies in daily just enough for that day only in future.

Thing is, they've shot themselves in the foot by saying they've used so many. Presuming he's gone in a clean on in the morning, you'd only expect to get through 3 or 4, so if they wanted to use a few for other children then the intelligent thing to do would be to say he's used 5 or 6 - a bit extravagant, but feasible. By claiming he's used 17.5 each day, they've made themselves out to be ridiculous - no child could used a new nappy every 1/2 hr or so, let alone do that for 4 days.

Write his name across the front of every nappy you send in huge letters!!

Gosh. I don't even know where to start with your brilliant and carefully considered replies. I'll start with the 'paying the mortgage' nonsense. Why not wait to have children until you can afford to have the option to have a parent look after them, rather than over-mortgaging yourself and then being left without any options at all and complaining about the people you've entrusted your CHILDREN to, STEALING your belongings. Seriously?

If I've have waited until we could afford it I would be looong past the menopause and possibly dead tbh.

Anyway I'm worse, I put my baby in daycare yo look after other abandoned children.

Because, Oscar, that would mean that many people in the UK never have a child. House prices in many areas mean that BOTH adults will need to work until retirement in order to pay the mortgage on even a modest home.

*Typo correction.

I'd and to.

Ooh am I an exception to the rule Oscar?

I haven't over-mortgaged myself so I can leave my child we just pay the housing association :o

It appears that Katie Hopkins has sneaked onto this thread, cunningly but thinly disguised as Oscarsomeonesomething. Life is just always so black and white....

OWA - are you for real?

Troll alert.

I waited until I was almost 30, in a well paying job with good benefits and was emotionally ready to look after a child.

If I was waiting until I could have paid off the mortgage I'd have been 55 and looking at some fairly large fertility treatment bills.

Not to mention DP fucked off last week so my job is an absolute lifeline now and I thank Christ I went back and have some money coming in.

As someone upthread said, it is either sloppiness or deceit. My money is on sloppiness.

I would ask for the nursery to explain where they keep spare nappies and how they are labelled. Also ask them to account for the missing nappies.

However if nobody remembers you taking them in then you have no proof of how many you left. Next time have a marker pen and label the bag and nappies. It would only take a few seconds to write initials on each one.

One thought- if they are sloppy about this, what else are they sloppy about?

Poo diary... When mine were at nursery we got a note at the end of the day- food eaten and nappy changes... There was always a big S in a ring for those nappies that were shitty soiled...

Poor old Oscar in her/his/its funny little bubble land. Never mind, back to the real world...

... OP, I would definitely ask for a breakdown and only send in 4 nappies per day until this is resolved (ie missing nappies found). Dying to hear what nursery say.

OWM's non-essential witterings aside...

your DS can't possibly be getting through 17 nappies a day. Speak to the manager, demand replacements.

Of all the crap I've read on MN over the last nine years, OWMs responses have got to be the cream of the crop

PS, did you get your Oscar for being such a perfect matronly specimen, or for pulling the wool over people's eyes, like the standard Oscar winners do?

Also, write in the daily diary how many you have sent in and on what date.

I would also suspect sloppiness, can't be bothered to check who's brought in and who hasnt, can't be bothered to use specifuc nappies on specific children. Count on parents not to notice. Except get so sloppy theyve brought it to your attention.

I would be asking the manager and also asking what other practises this class may be not adhering to. Make it clear that it's not about the nappies per se, but about what other sloppy things they are doing. Ask the manager to investigate and reassure you that there are no bigger issues...

Yes, they surely are using them on other children. Demand to see their nappie changing log. Just bring in the amount you think he will use. My MIL is in a dementia ward and my FIL found the same thing happening. He stopped bringing in the entire pack and instead he brings in a few pull ups as needed, since he visits her every single day. Miraculously, MIL never runs out now!

Similar happened to me with my dc1. So now as Dc2 only meant to have a nappy once a day at nap time i just bring enough for week plus a spare. When they claim to have run out io challenge as that means they are using on other children or putting him in nappoies when they shdn't be.

At my DD's nursery, we just took in what they needed for the day. Get large ziplock bag, write your child's name on it and put in 6 nappies - that's enough for changes every other hour + spare. Hand to the room leader on arrival.

Talk to the manager and explain that there is no way your child is using 17 nappies in an average 8 hour day. That's one every 30 minutes and one to spare. Really?

If they are changing the children's nappies every 30 minutes, then they are doing something wrong.

Better yet. Switch to cloth. There'd be no sharing of those.

Piss Orf Oscar. Some of us don't have the luxury of staying at home.

Food. Costs. Money. So unless we resort to thieving (nappies or otherwise), work is the only viable option to feed our children.