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To be shocked at neighbour??

321 replies

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 12:53

I was having a very rare chat with my downstairs neighbour, I'm in a duplex and she's in a flat underneath with her front door under the stairs to my place. Two very separate buildings really and you can hear absolutely nothing from one to the other.
We were talking about ovens and I was saying I'm a pretty useless cook but really been trying this year, something was said about what shelf is best and she said "because heat rises", at this stage DD was getting impatient and I just made a stupid joke about how that'll come in handy for me next winter (given that she lives underneath), not even true because I had my heating on loads this winter and I only said it out of silliness.

Well I've just gotten a text from her saying "Domestic, I've been thinking after our discussion earlier and I'm feeling a little hard done by if I'm honest. Perhaps we could have a chat later on and come up with the fairest way of dealing with the issue regarding heating"

What the actual fuck, I don't know what to say back but I really can't afford to pay her for having her heat on just because heat rises??

OP posts:
Cerisier · 25/03/2014 13:52

Surely unless you have drilled big holes in the floor very little heat will be coming up to you. There will be a little insulation going on, with you insulating her just as much as she is insulating you.

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 13:54

Still waiting, ironically I have to go out to top up my heating/gas card but scared I'll run into her Shock

She's not a bit mouthy or anything, she seems really quiet and a little weird. When I first moved in she commented on DD being lovely and I said the usual "Ah sometimes she's a little demon" and she looked at me very seriously and said "is she?". You know what I mean? Everything seems to be taken literally.

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Blatherskite · 25/03/2014 13:55

at everythinghippie29 and "Although, if we are now allowed to get angry with people about the laws of physics, I'm going to have to find someone to blame for gravitys shameless attack on my boobs..."

I forsee a class action suit for that one Wink

JerseySpud · 25/03/2014 13:59

I so need to know how this ends :O

She does seem very literal...

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 13:59

"Ah sometimes she's a little demon" and she looked at me very seriously and said "is she?".

She's going to get an exorcist round and charge you for it.

shoom · 25/03/2014 14:02

In that case I don't think you'll hear any more about it. So she is overly literal, absolutely not bolshy? Maybe she genuinely didn't realise you made a joke.

Nennypops · 25/03/2014 14:02

I suspect she'll say that, irrespective of whether you were joking or not, and even if you think you aren't benefiting from her heating, the fact is that her heat will rise to your flat so you are.

To which the answer is: That's your choice, not mine. Put in proper insulation if you want to stop it happening.

DidoTheDodo · 25/03/2014 14:03

Ask her to come and collect her hot air?

mom2twoteens · 25/03/2014 14:05

Dido,

LOL

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 14:05

She wouldn't be bolshy in the slightest. Think, really timid, socially awkward, librarian! I hope I haven't embarrassed her now!

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 25/03/2014 14:06

Oh, come on!

She means she thinks you were complaining her flat made you too hot, you twit, she's not asking for money! Or at least, my first impression (and in fact my ninth) of what she said would not be to leap to that conclusion.

NurseyWursey · 25/03/2014 14:08

LRD the neighbour said she was feeling 'hard done by' so I think that suggests she wants something..

FoxesRevenge · 25/03/2014 14:08

If she wasn't asking for money then why did she complain about feeling hard done by?

Lovecat · 25/03/2014 14:08

If she hadn't said she "felt hard done by" in her text I'd have agreed with you, LRD. How can she feel hard done by that the OP is too hot?

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 25/03/2014 14:10

This is hilarious, and what with TheGirlFromIpanema dad's neighbours upthread, I cannot believe there are two people in the world like this!

Howevever, it does sound a bit like she takes things rather literally, rather than is being cheeky, so although part of me is hoping for a juicy update, am also hoping for your sake OP that she just comes back to your text with an "Oh, ok then!" (But yes, please do update us - are we being cheeky now? Smile)

BEEwitched · 25/03/2014 14:20

As a fellow librarian I'd suggest she goes and tidies up the 530 section and while she's at it she could read a bit about the topic.... Or 693 if she wants to get cracking and insulate her house.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 25/03/2014 14:20

nursey - erm .... sure, but why wouldn't you assume she means she feels hard done by because she thinks the OP was getting at her for having her heating up?

The one is mildly chippy neighbour behaviour and the other is off the wall.

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 14:23

"Domestic, if you think that's fair we'll leave it there. Not worth squabbling over as I have to get back to work. Good luck with the job hunt"

I was made redundant and I'm going back to college in September, I'm pretty sure that's a pop!!

OP posts:
ILoveWooly · 25/03/2014 14:25

That was a bit passive aggressive tbh. Definitely one to avoid!

FoxesRevenge · 25/03/2014 14:25

I would have to know what she means by fair, I couldn't let this one drop I'm afraid Grin

BEEwitched · 25/03/2014 14:25

Confused OK, seems like she was actually serious about it. Odd.

ViviPru · 25/03/2014 14:26

So she doesn't think its fair but seeing as she is frightfully busy she's not going to stoop to your level and 'squabble'??

Loon.

NurseyWursey · 25/03/2014 14:26

LRD you may be right but I just don't think so. As the next response also suggests to be honest

Domestic ignore her now and let it lie. Was you talking about your job hunt whilst you were discussing the heating? She genuinely might just have wanted to leave it on a nice note

JennyBendy · 25/03/2014 14:28

Loving the totally literal "demon"!

"Oh yes, at playgroup she dropped her biscuit and shouted your mother sucks cocks in hell!!! Mortifying! Kids eh?" Grin

TinyTear · 25/03/2014 14:29

oh... my... goodness... she was actually serious!