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To be shocked at neighbour??

321 replies

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 12:53

I was having a very rare chat with my downstairs neighbour, I'm in a duplex and she's in a flat underneath with her front door under the stairs to my place. Two very separate buildings really and you can hear absolutely nothing from one to the other.
We were talking about ovens and I was saying I'm a pretty useless cook but really been trying this year, something was said about what shelf is best and she said "because heat rises", at this stage DD was getting impatient and I just made a stupid joke about how that'll come in handy for me next winter (given that she lives underneath), not even true because I had my heating on loads this winter and I only said it out of silliness.

Well I've just gotten a text from her saying "Domestic, I've been thinking after our discussion earlier and I'm feeling a little hard done by if I'm honest. Perhaps we could have a chat later on and come up with the fairest way of dealing with the issue regarding heating"

What the actual fuck, I don't know what to say back but I really can't afford to pay her for having her heat on just because heat rises??

OP posts:
steff13 · 25/03/2014 13:18

I'd be tempted to ask her what she thinks is fair, simply because I'm genuinely curious as to what she expects you to do.

softlysoftly · 25/03/2014 13:20

Ha brilliant

Logg1e · 25/03/2014 13:20

I did a double-take at the "sambos" there.

I like the early suggestion of "what issue?".

donnie · 25/03/2014 13:20

tell her to sleep on stilts.

TruffleOil · 25/03/2014 13:20

Oh my god she's bonkers! I do like "bitch, are you on glue" - good one.

softlysoftly · 25/03/2014 13:21

Dare you to go down carrying a cardi then mid chat put it on and say ""ooh bit nippy down here isn't it?"

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 25/03/2014 13:24

Did that really happen, in actual real life?Wink

pictish · 25/03/2014 13:25

Softly Grin

GiveTwoSheets · 25/03/2014 13:25

Text her back ask her to turn her heating down as its like a oven in yours.

Lol lady is batty

shoom · 25/03/2014 13:25

I don't think you should start off by explaining yourself. It's for her to convince you that an issue exists, not for you to disprove it. If you want to clear it up quickly then maybe try the whole "I'm confused, what can you possibly mean?" approach. Followed by a straightforward "that's not how it works / everyone benefits from being in a shared building" if you feel the need. Hopefully when she attempts to articulate the issue she'll get mixed up with her argument and realise it's nonsense.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 13:27

I'm keeping quiet. I'm mid-terrace and my house is nice and warm.

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 13:28

I can't face her it's too awkward, I've just sent...

Hiya X, it seems I need to work on my comedic timing! I was just joking about the heating, I probably have it on far too much. I assure you I'm not benefiting from yours. Sorry for the misunderstanding!

Nervous!!

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skinnyflatwhitetogo · 25/03/2014 13:28

How about...

"Great idea Heatingzilla! I've been thinking the fairest way might be to split our bills. Mine was £1,089.52 for last quarter (it's never off!). What was yours?"

DomesticDisgrace · 25/03/2014 13:29

Shoom I wish I'd read that before I'd texted. You're right!!

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skinnyflatwhitetogo · 25/03/2014 13:30

Great reply OP...gets msg across gently and friendly...

I'd be mortified if i was neighbour.

Aventurine · 25/03/2014 13:30

Grrr. I'm end of terrace. shoom Perhaps we could have a chat later on and come up with the fairest way of dealing with the issue regarding heating. Grin

shoom · 25/03/2014 13:31

By "everyone benefits" I meant that you're all better off than if in detached homes. Maybe that's not the way to go though. You don't get any heat from hers. And if you did, it's for her to control her heat loss.

minibmw2010 · 25/03/2014 13:31

I think it's definitely good that you responded by text, your response was quite clear. I'd expect her to drop it now.

Aventurine · 25/03/2014 13:31

Oh. sorry. I thought the first page was the last page.

BigPawsBrown · 25/03/2014 13:32
Grin
Ledare · 25/03/2014 13:32

Send her this.

To be shocked at neighbour??
ViviPru · 25/03/2014 13:32

Best answer yet, TwoSheets

Ledare · 25/03/2014 13:33

Dammit. X-posted while you were texting!

Aventurine · 25/03/2014 13:34

Gahh. It is limitedperiodonly who I would like to invite to share my heating bills as she is mid terrace and I am end of terrace. Wink

DontWannaBeObamasElf · 25/03/2014 13:34

I used to live in a flat and you can tell her that when our hearing broke the neighbours having theirs on didn't make a shite of a difference! We were freezing.