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To not want people to poo in my downstairs toilet?!

390 replies

Scornedwoman67 · 24/03/2014 17:14

I will start by saying I am a fairly relaxed person when it comes to the house. I like tidy, but am not obsessed about cleaning etc.
A few years ago, after my divorce, I bougt my current house & had a downstairs toilet installed. Because of space constraints, it is off the kitchen. I have a rule that basically it's only for No.1's. I sort of assumed that most people would realise that anyway, firstly because it is near the kitchen, and secondly because it isn't exactly soundproof Blush
Anyway, a friend & her DH visited yesterday. I will add that he has history - he has on at least one previous occasion taken himslef upstairs & sat in that loo for a 'session' ( apologies if you're eating Smile) but yesterday he excelled himself. We were sitting in the lounge chatting & he disappeared out of the room. I went in to the kitchen a few minutes later & he shouted through the door to announce where he was. His DW rather nervously reminded him about my rule ( knowing what he is like, I suspect) to which he replied 'oh dear'.

Whilst I can see the funny side of it, I do think it is rude....or AIBU?!

I'm thinking of putting a bloody great big sign on the door now!!!!

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EthelDorothySusan · 25/03/2014 15:12

I guess like myself some people have sat on what they left as a clean toilet in their own home, to find their arse soaked in trandesman piss in the past. Or had a look down the toilet to find trandesman skids and floating logs in the pan.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 15:15

you should not poo in someone else's house

Why? Obviously not on the carpet though.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 15:17

Ooh, x-post with sillybillybob about carpets. We must be psychic.

PuppyMonkey · 25/03/2014 15:24

Never poo in someone else's houseGrin what even if you're staying with them for a fortnight?

ChickenFromHell · 25/03/2014 15:25

< whispers > YANBU OP

We have a downstairs loo that's next to the front door, if I walk in and smell poo first thing I get very Angry especially as the window is boarded up ATM, and it affects the whole downstairs.

We do have a sign and tell everyone that the downstairs is for peeing in only. Couldn't care less who poos when or where, just not downstairs.

I can only poo at home, never anywhere else.

EthelDorothySusan · 25/03/2014 15:27

OP said the couple were visiting for a few hours, come on, unless you have a medical condition you don't take a dump in someone else's house when you are only visiting for a few hours. No wonder his wife went red.

My opinion was canvassed and I gave it.

OnlyLovers · 25/03/2014 15:32

some people have sat on what they left as a clean toilet in their own home, to find their arse soaked in trandesman piss in the past. Or had a look down the toilet to find trandesman skids and floating logs in the pan.

Ethel, is it particularly significant/distressing that it's 'tradesman' bodily waste? Is that worse than other people's in other lines of work?

Sillybillybob · 25/03/2014 15:35

Er, no, as far as I'm aware, medical condition or not, you poo in someone's house during a visit if you need to.

It's what toilets are for.

Why the fuck would you cause yourself discomfort by holding it in for HOURS when there's a perfectly good toilet a couple of metres away?

Even when my IBS isn't flaring up, I would still poo as and when I need to, in a toilet, regardless of where it is.

And again: do you grill your guests as to any bowel problems they may have? PLENTY of people I know have no clue I have IBS. Ah well, I guess they must just think I'm a rude and disgusting person for using their toilet

Pumpkinpositive · 25/03/2014 15:35

OP said the couple were visiting for a few hours, come on, unless you have a medical condition you don't take a dump in someone else's house when you are only visiting for a few hours. No wonder his wife went red.

You mean you don't use the human waste receptacle for one of the two purposes for which it was invented?

Gotcha.

squoosh · 25/03/2014 15:43

OP maybe install a sieve over the toilet bowl so none of those filthy creatures who poo out of their bottoms will succeed in their dastardly attempts at polluting your kitchet.

(a kitchet is a kitchen toilet for all you plebs who haven't encountered the noble pee receptacle).

squoosh · 25/03/2014 15:44

'unless you have a medical condition you don't take a dump in someone else's house when you are only visiting for a few hours. No wonder his wife went red.'

Better her face goes red than his trousers go brown.

EthelDorothySusan · 25/03/2014 15:44

I guess I am lucky that my friends and family don't piss all over the toilet seat and don't come to my house for a poo. The only people who entered my home otherwise as tradesmen who piss on the seat and leave logs and skids in the pan.

Even the poor poster who allows them to use her toilet has to be exposed to their genitals as they pull their trousers down before they even get into the toilet in her house.

That is not behaviour those I choose to invite into home display.

MrsCakesPremonition · 25/03/2014 15:45

I thought everyone knew that upstairs is private. As a guest, you do not wander off upstairs when there is a fully functioning toilet downstairs as it is rude and slightly suspicious behaviour.
I would be very ticked off with anyone who preferred to serenade me with pee waterfalls overhead (our bathroom is over the lounge) instead of using the downstairs toilet.

BadgersRetreat · 25/03/2014 15:45

Well, my DH is a Tradesman and i can assure you he is very well toilet trained and cleans up after himself not that he makes a mess

I agree with every single thing treaclesoda said on this thread.

My IBS has pretty much gone away now that I don't smoke any more but when i had it it could be quite distressing, and the thought my friends might have hated me for having to do the odd emergency poo in their loo is extraordinary.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 15:46

Good point OnlyLovers. I think the class issue ought to be explored.

Some earlier posters speculated on Princess Kate of Middleton's shit and even our dear Queen's.

Some people would pay good money for them to take a dump in their loo. And not just Monarchists.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2014 15:48

kitchet

You could go on Dragon's Den with that idea.

DownstairsMixUp · 25/03/2014 16:03

YABU! I live in a bungalow so what do I do? Tell guests they are forbidden from doing a poo?!

CoilRegret · 25/03/2014 16:04

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Scornedwoman67 · 25/03/2014 16:05

silly did you not read what I've said. ..he has used the upstairs loo many times! I don't have an issue with anything other than that he chose to go downstairs.

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Scornedwoman67 · 25/03/2014 16:08

mrscakes ...as per my reply previously! He normally uses the upstairs loo!!!!!

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Kudzugirl · 25/03/2014 16:09

Ethel

I have never seen their genitals my life is not that exciting. My comment was meant to illustrate that the poor sods are so bloody desperate for the loo after having to drive across town to ours because some uptight Little Miss Priss doesn't want working class turtles swimming in her bog. They run past unfastening their jeans but they have yet to flop it out in the hall.

It wasn't meant to be literal.

But I am barking with laughter at this thread.

EthelDorothySusan · 25/03/2014 16:15

Sorry Kudzugirl I thought the trouser removal had been more advanced than it was, still come on they are still partly undressing in your hall.

I had no problem with tradesmen using my toilet, I have a problem with them having used it in the way they have. I always dread them going in there now as I am scared of what I will find when they are finished.

I too find this thread amusing.

woodmouse2 · 25/03/2014 16:16

takeiteasybuttakeit "Regarding the regulations, you're wrong, it is always recommended ventilation be installed in a loo - UK government planning regs"

I said I remembered there used to be a building regulation...... I was making a point.

I am very old Grin

Roussette · 25/03/2014 16:20

And I'm falling about laughing and incredulous at this thread. It's been a real eye opener for me!

As for someone who said they would only ever do a poo at home, I presume they never go on holiday then - either that or they save it up for a couple of weeks!

A toilet is a toilet whether it's upstairs or downstairs and it is meant to take bodily waste and flush it away. I don't care if it's a workman, a friend, a neighbour or family doing it in my loo. Would actually prefer them to go to the loo downstairs and would find it odd if they wandered round my upstairs looking for the loo when there's a fully functioning one downstairs.

I do think it's awful to expect people to only EVER poo at home. Without going into gory detail, for me sometimes it's once a day, sometimes I miss a day, sometimes it's twice. Do I have to revolve my life around whether I am at home and whether I've been or not? I don't even think about it. It just happens. And I still want to know how all these people know visitors have been for a poo. Unless it was something tremendous, surely you just wouldn't know. or am I being dim. probably.

Kudzugirl · 25/03/2014 16:20

Ethel no worries, that made me really laugh. Grin.

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