Am I unreasonable to be thinking of taking this further? (Teacher problem)

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My eldest son (15) has been in some trouble at school recently. Nothing that serious -something that would not be considered a problem outside of it, (I don't want to give too many details) but something that the school is not happy about.

I have spoken to a couple of the teachers about this, as they have called me to inform.

I've always been polite, and respectful. As, have they, or so I thought at the time.

Anyway...last week a couple of my son's friends were in detention. Talking right by them ( probably around a corner) they were heard to say: (about DS)

" Well *** gets his attitude from his Mother" "yeah, with a Mother like that ..." "yeah what can you expect..."

Then they noticed his friends...

The Teacher told him: " You didn't hear any of that right?"

Of course his friends have told him. I've no reason to doubt them.

I don't want to get his friends in to trouble, however I can't let this rest. I think it is beyond unprofessional.

Should I let it rest, or talk to someone at school higher up?

Of course we talk about pupils. Imo, it would be unprofessional not to. We don't work in a vacuum. It's useful to share information and opinions, especially when someone has a different point of view.

As for saying 'mean' things about them. I think parents have been misled by the relentlessly positive nature of school reports to think that anything negative is 'mean'. It may be critical, but that's a lot more useful than only giving one side of the picture. Part of our remit is to turn the negative into the positive, which we can't do if we deny there is a negative.

Maybe go see the teacher and try and understand their POV? I wouldn't kick off, though. It's a slip, they get that. But you have an opportunity to be the bigger person here.