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To not get the problem with skin whitening?

259 replies

CogitoErgoSometimes · 22/03/2014 10:59

Just seen a video with a singer Dencia 'defending' her decision to lighten her skin and the interviewer suggesting that it means she's uncomfortable being a black woman. Provided the product is safe to use, I don't see why someone lightening dark skin is any different ethically to a pale person using fake tan, or someone putting a dye on grey hair.

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OpalQuartz · 22/03/2014 11:01

Is there a safe way of lightening skin?

specialsubject · 22/03/2014 11:04

no, there is no safe way. Most of the lightening creams don't work (like anti-wrinkle creams) but there are some that do and they are dangerous.

fake tan and hair dye are not dangerous.

so this woman is very, very dumb.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 22/03/2014 11:05

I've no idea about safety, but let's assume the product is the some kind of all-over 'concealer'.... It didn't appear to be the safety of the product that the singer was being harangued about. It was the idea that she was encouraging others to be ashamed of being black. Heavy users of tanning product might get a few sideways looks but I've never heard them accused of being ashamed of being white. Hmm

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 22/03/2014 11:09

link to video No mention at all of product safety.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/03/2014 11:11

I have no problem with anybody, of their own volition, doing anything at all to their own body.

FamiliesShareGerms · 22/03/2014 11:13

Because historically people with dark skins have been persecuted / enslaved / banned from using public facilities / banned from holding certain jobs or entering professions / banned from marrying people with lighter skins than them.... I could go on.

So by a dark skinned person choosing to make herself appear lighter, she is supporting the narrative that light skin is better / more attractive / morally or intellectually superior...

Does that help?

FamiliesShareGerms · 22/03/2014 11:14

This article about India might help explain it better as well

Thetallesttower · 22/03/2014 11:15

The phrase 'skin bleach' should tell you all you need to know about product safety.

Hair dye, used constantly, has been associated with health issues, but it's difficult to know what these are long-term or what the risks are- but for sure it's more risky than letting your hair go grey.

tethersend · 22/03/2014 11:16

It's the idea that dark skin is less desirable than light skin.

SauceForTheGander · 22/03/2014 11:19

It's damaging because of the pernicious message telling women of colour they are unattractive, lesser, inferior. It's racist.

Changing hair colour and skin colour are not the same.

FreudiansSlipper · 22/03/2014 11:20

because white people for generations have not been told they are inferior because of their skin colour

in many countries being fair is a sign of good genes, wealth and the ideal beauty will often be of fairer skin

I have family who are very dark but insist their grandparents are European (have European names) because they were and for some still considered to be more intelligent and of better class

it is sad that anyone wants to lighten their skin it is not the same as wanting a tan which for many gives them a healthy glow

LadyMaryLikesCake · 22/03/2014 11:22

I agree with FamiliesShareGerms. The irony is that a lot of pale skin women will sit in the sun and burn their skin to make it brown when ladies with darker skin will use products to make their skin pale. Confused I think we have a fucked up idea of what beauty is.

NewtRipley · 22/03/2014 11:25

I think you are being disingenuous

There is and has been, a massive store set on lighter skins within African-Caribean and African-American people, based on the relative privilege of not having dark skin.

diddl · 22/03/2014 11:25

"The irony is that a lot of pale skin women will sit in the sun"

But that also shows that you have got the money/time to do it.

Years ago pale was valued as it showed that you didn't do manual work outside.

NewtRipley · 22/03/2014 11:26

That's true diddl

And now, being able to afford costly beauty treatments is a sign of greater wealth and free time.

LadyMaryLikesCake · 22/03/2014 11:26

True, diddl. I'm not sure that applies today though.

EmpressOfJurisfiction · 22/03/2014 11:27

I agree too. DW gets stopped and searched and DD gets followed in shops because they're black. It doesn't happen to me because I'm white. They're already getting a negative response to their colour and crap like skin whitening just makes it worse.

NewtRipley · 22/03/2014 11:30

Link to documentary about this issue

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Grennie · 22/03/2014 11:33

Skin lighteners are used because we live in a racist society. People are treated differently if their skin is darker. That is what is wrong with it.

thornrose · 22/03/2014 11:35

I think it's very naïve to compare skin bleaching with tanning. The reasons behind skin bleaching are way more complex.

Birdsgottafly · 22/03/2014 11:36

I sencond what has been said about Paler skin being more valued.

People's features were listed with White/Blond/blue eyes being the highest and descending to people who came from regions in Africa, suggesting that they were not Human but part of the animal kingdom and therefor it was ok to use them and have little regard for them. This justified slavery, breeding and Eugenics.

More modern day examples are, when deciding to award a higher status in SA, to Mixed Race people, their colour tone was used as a deciding factor.

When Nazi Germany was running out of workers, those allowed to survive and work outside of the camps, were chosen depending on their appearance.

It is a big criticism in Asia/India that the Media seems to want those in it, to follow beauty/attractiveness by Western standards.

It has taken a long time for all types of looks to be portrayed as valid, by our Media.

LadyMaryLikesCake · 22/03/2014 11:37

Of course they are, I was just highlighting the fact that people's ideas of what beauty is is wrong. I do know there's a lot more behind it.

SauceForTheGander · 22/03/2014 11:37

Racism = racial prejudice + the systematic institutional power (to implement that prejudice)

Comparing white women getting a tan is not the same as WOC lightening their skin.

White women are not compelled by racism or feelings of racial inequality to tan their skin or dye their hair.

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