To ask, if you could go back in time to your lowest point...

[newsecretidentity]

and say one thing to yourself-- what would you say?

I would say 'get some self esteem girl' and then a bit later, please don't do it, you will always live with the regret

Expat and I agree with chickyegg above about what the body was trying to say. Also I think everything's dozy was not trying to say your loss was the same as hers but her nans, as her nan lost her DH and 2 DC's. I think she was try

sorry -
trying to comfort you and say that her nan managed to smile again.
My DH lost his DS. I know that he will carry it forever, but he has started to slowly smile again.

Mine- leave him. You deserve so much better than this scumbag. Down the line you will find a a wonderful man who would rather die than hurt you.

That was so clumsily written, sorry expat I should have just said

You should agree to take Lithium, its going to transform your life and set you free

Cut all contact and move on. It will be easier than the years of tears and emotional pain you will suffer.

And for expat cant even begin to imagine how you must feel :(

Expat I dreadfully sorry for the typos of my second post.

how on earth the word coward came up I have no idea and I did t realise till 5 mins ago.

anyone who knows my posting record will know I admire you and mrsD and am in awe if your strength.

huge apologies.

You really will be very pretty when you are a fully grown woman. Don't listen to them!

Go home, stop running & hiding. Your parents do miss you, they just haven't expressed it very well.

That big hole in your soul will go, it really will! You will be genuinely content and a mother sooner than you think.

hugs to everyone who has suffered and is suffering. I'd say to me, believe in God and hang on to that. it will get you through this and so much else.
when you're fairly old and you want to break your promises to God, hang on, still believe, give it to God.

lollerskates big hugs and hope things get better for you

I wouldn't go back and tell myself anything at my lowest point as I would not of believed/listened and I'd probably of gone somewhere else remote for if that stranger hadn't found me in a place that usual has nobody about I wouldn't be alive today.

For fuck's sake, Grow Up

I would tell myself to track down my son and pick him up from town that Saturday instead of sticking to my tough love policy so that maybe him and his best friend would not have taken the legal high drug thinking they were clever getting high without breaking the law. I didn't know. I found out the next day my son got high and went for a walk. He went back and found his best friend dead. I found out via facebook and I couldn't find my son for twelve hours.
I thank God every day my child survived and changed his life around. I have a tear every day that his friend's mother cannot feel that. The twelve hours where I knew his friend was dead and I couldn't find him and thought that he might be lying dead somewhere too was the worst of my life.
If only I had gone looking for him a day earlier.

I don't know. It's now, and it's just going on and on. I've just kind of switched off.

But I can't imagine my child dying.

xxxxxxx to you all.

You will get pregnant again.

not my low point, but reading posts on this thread reminds me of my great-grandmother, Elizabeth Alice. she lost her husband, five of her six young adult sons, one of her three daughters and a great-granddaughter to tb. i 'called on her' on wednesday to take my mum into the next world, as my mum wouldn't have wanted her own parents to come for her. i don't know if you cried or not, my grandma's mum, but i've cried a few times for the things that happened to you.

If you are going through hell, keep going. God already has the victory.

Dont let the drs try to save your foot. It will be 18 months of agony including the bones in ur foot shattering and having to inject urself with antibiotics three times a day. Ask them to amputate.

Oh frownyface :(