To ask, if you could go back in time to your lowest point...

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and say one thing to yourself-- what would you say?

Empty the bank accounts sounds about right.

Oh expat.

There are no words really, but I am so sorry for your loss.

So sorry, expat.

the lottery numbers for this Saturday are ...

Leave him, he's not supporting you, he's slowly pushing you deeper down. He's the problem, not the solution.

expatinscotland, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry and I'm not even going to pretend that anything I say will be useful, so just know you're in my thoughts.

My lowest point, I'd tell myself what I told myself then - man up, this is not about you. But then I'd let myself cry, wallow for a bit before pretending to be strong. I think I might have coped better if I'd acknowledged how bad things were. My husband nearly died, I never addressed my shock and now life is a bit difficult to say the least.

Expat

Expat ny heart goes out to you,I'm so sorry for your loss xx

The pills might work, don't be so scared of trying them.

Don't marry him, go home to mum.

"She's a cow. You'll be happier without her."

Expat, I can't even imagine.

For me, I would say "it's awful, it's really awful, but there will come a point where you realise you are going to live and get better after all and you will normalise it and get on with life regardless"

Expat x x x

Don't fucking move!

Lost job via redundancy after mat leave. Moved from my home to mid England. Sent me mad living to close to in laws. Nearly lost everything over it. Inc marbles. Honestly never been so scared for sanity.

Expat, my mum would agree with you. Lost a brother. I sincerely hope to never feel such pain. He's always in her eyes.

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Expat x x x

Mine is minor but to my 18 yr old self 'you are beautiful. Inside and out.'

I would say to myself - "Don't do it"

From adversity and heartache I'll become stronger,I'll draw on this In future

he will pull through

Life can be really shit and unfair,you'll never be same again.you'll be different to many people you meet

expatinscotland I have heard you share so much about your loss over your precious daughter. I agree with you nothing can be worst than what you are continually dealing with. Nothing nobody can say or do will ever help, but hopefully with the knowledge that your daughter will never be forgotten gives you some sort of comfort.

I can't believe i am writing this, but I would tell myself nothing. I believe that going through what i have has made me stronger and those little things that used to be 'devastating' seem less important.

You will be happy again. You won't forget, but it will get better.

Tell someone. Tell your teachers, tell anyone. It will be fine. Care isn't as scary as it seems, your mother can get help and however impossible it may seem, he will be punished if you tell.

it's ok, your dd is badly injured but she will survive.

her life will be tough and it will dominate your next years. you will never get over it, you will all learn to live with what happened.

her school report today was amazing and you are a fighter. that's it.

we learn from her. that was our lowest point.