to think that giving an under 3 anything other than milk or water to drink is terrible parenting?

[Dukketeater]

I even saw an 18 month old drinking coke from a can...

I once saw a dad filling his toddler's bottle with blue Powerade. I judged that.

But juice/squash are a bit whatevs.

As a mum of a grown up, these threads always make me go

Ds is 19 and was brought up on daily ribena ( the done thing then) and had plenty of sweets, chocolate, cakes and crisps. There were no lunchbox inspections and no Mn to make me neurotic about what anyone else thought.

He has zero fillings and is super fit, as in, has competed in rowing and American football at national level. Interestingly he rarely eats sweet things any more, decided when he was about 13 that he'd gone off them.

KatandKit YTBU unless you give him a mars bar for his pudding .

mumblechum we was given warm ribena when poorly. .

mine is 14 months he has had formula milk apple juice coconut milk almond milk hazelnut milk soya milk and hemp milk he also eats jelly when he is frequently ill and refuses liquid totally and i need to stop him being dehydrated i wouldnt give him fizzys but anything else is fair game in a crisis

Really? Im coming in here with the possible diabetic and needed the sugar, or maybe like my nephew needs the fat and sugar because of a growth issue.
granted I have hoiked up the judgey pants when I saw a 6 month old being given lucozade in a baby bottle, but there you go

YABVU - kids being beaten black and blue; kids starving to death; emotional neglect these are bad parenting.

Oh and bringing up kids who judge others - that's pretty crap too.

I just gave mine water and milk most of the time. Once in a while they had juices, shock horror milkshakes or whatever.
I think its a bad idea to give little kids drinks other than milk and water on a regular basis. Kids might prefer other drinks but I wouldn't give them a choice. My kids were fussy buggers so I can sympathise with parents who's kids prefer other drinks but I think its worth any hassle involved in making them drink water or milk.

*As a mum of a grown up, these threads always make me go blush

Ds is 19 and was brought up on daily ribena ( the done thing then) and had plenty of sweets, chocolate, cakes and crisps. There were no lunchbox inspections and no Mn to make me neurotic about what anyone else thought.

He has zero fillings and is super fit, as in, has competed in rowing and American football at national level. Interestingly he rarely eats sweet things any more, decided when he was about 13 that he'd gone off them.*

Mumble, I could have written the same thing. Dd and ds are 19. I didn't restrict them particularly and they learned to self regulate. Dd has one minute filling and ds has none. Neither eat much sweet stuff through choice. Nor do they stuff themselves with junk.

Must be nowt ont telly. Friday night MN bun fight!

OP YABU.

Gimme - whole milk is not "sooo fatty", for gods sake educate yourself! It's less than 4% fat which is less than is in avocado, or hummus, or in one single slice of Warburtons Seeded wholemeal bread, for example.

As to the coke debate, terrible parenting is beating ones children or starving them, not giving them a once in a blue moon sip of coke or an occasional glass of squash.

To give some perspective on 'terrible' parenting...

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-26684637

Jesus. Really OP? The odd squash and or juice diluted terrible parenting?

Maybe just remember to brush their teeth?

The only food "made for" humans is breast milk. Everything else has its own agenda!

When I was about 5 my dad cured my chronic constipation with half a pint or less of bitter. I don't care if you all judge him, it was the only thing he could think of (we'd tried fresh fruit juice etc., didn't work! Had been going on for days!) and I can still remember the relief of that poo to this day.

The down side is I can't drink bitter. It will always be medicine to me, and a laxative at that

Giving a five year old two red bulls and sending them into the garden at 9pm of a night (summer) is bad parenting

Occasional juice. Flavoured water. Water down fruit juice is fine

I hope there was vodka in the coke.

At that age mine were starting on the G & Ts in their bottles.

GimmeDaBoobehz - full fat milk is only 3% fat (as opposed to semi-skimmed, which is 2% - not a lot of difference). You're right to be concerned that it comes from cows instead of human breasts, but the fat content is really very low.

I've just put my 5 and 8yo DC back on full-fat milk after reading about how semi-skimmed and skimmed milk is linked to obesity.

Wait till my pizza is cooked then i can read this.

Actually my daughter likes milk and water. But she needs to drink more - according to the doctor.

I take every opportunity to get more fluids into her, and if she fancies juice, or tea, or pretty much anything else, she can have it. The important thing is, she is having a drink.

I think what I do is the opposite of terrible parenting.

yes it's the WORST thing a parent could do ever ever ever - nothing worse - have a shiny star for being both right and goady as fuck

I have wine