Hi,
I was out yesterday and popped into mother care to use their feeding room which has two comfy chairs a bench and changing facilities. I settled my bb for a feed (breast-feeding) and a couple walked into the room. I actually don't mind men being around in the feeding room (nothing to see with a well placed muslin), plus I know a few single dads who feel they lack decent facilities for them to give a feed, but when my hubby has been in the reverse situation he has always asked the other lady if she would mind if he stays. This bloke didn't, sat opposite me and spent the entire time staring as though he had never seen someone breastfeed before. I expect that kind of behaviour in public places but not in feeding rooms, their are benches outside for people to wait. I didn't ask him to leave as his partner was struggling with a new baby and seemed to need his morel (he didn't actually help physically) support and I felt sorry for her.
AIBU to expect people to have a bit of courtesy?
AIBU?
to not be ogled in a feeding room
spinnergeologist · 20/03/2014 03:09
YANBU
for the record, not all women can breastfeed standing up etc, at a K cup I always had to hold my breast back from my babys nose otherwise they would struggle to breath, BF was mostly a big faff, lots of propping with cushions etc, very difficult to get comfortable.
Imo all feeding rooms should be b/f & women only 
. a man cannot help breastfeed and serve no purpose in them other than to make othe women feel uncomfortable.
I have to retract my earlier comment because it seems that ppl are saying that men shouldn't be in the rooms (well they hadn't said so earlier so I guess I was right at the time 
)
It's an interesting one. Yes, the rooms are not just for bf and a man might (obviously not very often) need to feed or change a baby, but if you want to feed in private it can clearly be off putting to have a man there in close proximity. Especially if the bugger's gawping' at you.
One should feel safe in such places. Maybe if men as a group didn't feel the need/ right to objectify women then we'd be more comfortable. Oops. A bit radical.
I'd have done the old popeye at him
O.o like that
Have done on many an occasion. have also asked if they'd like me to flop the other one out as that works too as well as asking if they want a closer look
But then I've also had a shouting match with someone who asked why I couldn't feed in the toilets "how about you eat your dinner in te bog dickhead then I may consider feeding my baby in the bog too"
Just doing my bit for the breastfeeding 'movement' 
things that go bump in the night
cariad it was I who said she should be grateful. Or that she was making it up. Directly after ppl had said she was wrong and he probably wasn't looking. I'm very surprised that the sarcasm was missed. I hope no one else thought it was a genuine comment, especially given the tone of all my other posts.
Personally, I'm not bothered by ppl looking at me. I have a very high threshold for self consciousness. But most ppl do mind. And it is considered rude to stare. I went to bf group with ds and there were a few man there as they were trying to encourage it for support for their bf partners. But even for me that was a bit much. None of them were staring. But I think that's different from a feeding/ changing room. Very very occasionally a man will need to change or feed a baby when out shopping. So I imagine it's discriminatory to exclude them from such a designated area. But in the group it was a bit awkward cause we were mainly very new and nervous blubbering wrecks mums struggling to get the feeding right. It's not just your boobs potentially on show, it raw emotions, lack of confidence and flabby baby tums.
My dh will look at a bf mum, and bottle feeding mum. Then he'll turn to me and tell me who's bf and who's AF.
if he starting staring or gazing or "zoning out" he'd get a swift reminder about his manners.
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Even I got the sarcasm Amanda and I'm usually the last one to work those things out
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