To be put off by this?

[DomesticDisgrace]

Please tell me I'm being unreasonable! I met this really really lovely guy today and I was hoping he'd ask me out because we hit it off instantly! When I came home he did and I was absolutely delighted, we decided on the cinema and he texted saying "I'll book the tickets, can you look after the grub?"
I can't help but be really put off by him now, I'm disgusted with myself
I haven't been on a date in about six years as I was with my ex and he wasn't working for the majority of our relationship so I'm super scared of ending up with a stinge (this guy is working by the way)

Am I being horrible? It's really put me off him!

Impatient - when you LTB, I'll come to the cinema with you seeing as Caitlin won't. Now, do you want to decide now whether we each pay for ourselves or just split the bill 50:50 no matter who has what or should I pay as it was my idea? Or does that make seem like a tightarse? I'm not coming on to you, btw, just thought you might want cheering up after binning 16 years of happiness .

The text just sounds as though he was frightened of being landed with the bill for everything.

Did you ask him what he meant by grub, OP?

I see Caitlin has relented - we can all go together Impatient.

But, SometimesLonely, maybe he should have just waited to see whether she offered to pay for the popcorn? That's surely the best test, rather than to just tell her to pay.

wowfudge only if you've come straight from work and missed a meal.You may buy something non crunchy and non - rustly and eat it during the trailers and ads.

I'm super scared of ending up with a stinge - Sounds like he is too. And it seems like he's found somebody who expects him to pay for tickets AND grub.

RUN DATEMAN! RUN!

What about a hotdog, or would that be too smelly?

What are you on about Tiggy?? I'm not expecting him to pay for anything I'm expecting him to go with the flow and not already be issuing me with bills two seconds after asking me out!!

Sorry, hotdog too smelly.

I do think OP should go on the date just to clarify all the unanswered questions.

Yes Tiggy's post missed the point. Have you tried texting him back and asking what he meant ?

Caitlin - are you going to choose the film as well as the permitted snackage?

Domestic - please just go on the date.

He asked you out so he should pay.

He sounds like he might be stingey or careful with money which would put me right off.

Seems a reasonable text to me - things're tight for a lot of working folks right now, and cinema plus dinner (cinema about £20? Decent but cheap'n'cheerful meal about the same?) could be a big chunk out of someone's disposable income. E.G. at the moment I could afford to date someone that cost £50 a week, but not someone that cost £100 a week, not without getting into debt (that probably sounds a bit mercenary, but no relationship is worth getting in hock to Mr Wonga for!)

Plus it's a good way of weeding out people that genuinely want to get to know you, from those that're just looking for a free lunch or subsidized liefstyle - plenty of the latter do exist, unfortunately (especially on online dating) - we know the OP isn't one, but he can't be sure yet!

On the phone to him now, Ah he's lovely!

It's a bit cheeky. Or did he mean for you to choose where to go and book somewhere but not pay for it. This approach would put me off. Because do you just buy him a packet of sweets or go for a meal. But giving him the benefit of the doubt maybe he just hasn't thought it through..

Cinema tickets are expensive. Why fo you expect him to pay for everything?

I've just gotten three picture messages off him. One of him with his head through some thing at a wax museum, one of him in a pair of sunglasses and one in his work uniform Why?

Hmm...that is quite dickish. Lololol...sorry.

Maybe he's just not very clued up socially. Poor sod.

Will people please stop asking why I expect him to pay for everything, JESUS!!! Read my replies, please!

It wouldn't bother me & I'd expect to pay for my own cinema ticket. Surely he's telling you he's getting the tickets?

YUMMIES?! Sorry, but That is infinitely MUCH worse than grub, who in their right mind calls it that?!
You'd get laughed out of the cinema in this part of the country if you uttered the words "would you get the yummies, dear?! Unless you're Hyacinth Bucket talking to her long suffering husband Richard, that is.
On the other hand, grub is a perfectly normal word. Maybe it all depends on where you live, what circles you move in, etc, as to what words you deem acceptable to use.
Anyway, Christ. If you're put off by what words he is or isn't using, then do the poor sod a favour and don't bother with him anymore.
He'll find someone nice who doesn't care how he speaks and likes him for him.
(Also, I really don't see what's wrong with paying for popcorn if he's buying the tickets. This is the 21st century, no?!)

Domestic - we know you don't, but he doesn't yet - that's surely what he's trying to discreetly find out?