My colleague called me rude. Aibu?

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My colleague made brownies, offered them to the woman next to me then put the plate down on her own desk and left.

I took one, she came back to her desk a couple of minutes later and my colleague who was offered one said in a jokey way that I'd already had one.

She just replied - well that's rude, you could have at least asked.

Was I rude?

Is that right about Michel and Monica not doing Masterchef anymore? No way can I watch it without them!

You can fight me me for Michel Limited, but you're gonna lose!

Rude.

op can uou let us know where you work so that none of us ever apply for a job there? You all seem ill mannered and absurdly highly strung.

On the other hand Compos, they have brownies...

Oh I'd have seen her pettiness a mile off. If she'd had offered one to a colleague, then put the plate down and left without saying anything, I would have made it my business to wait, to be asked.

My attitude, inside my own head, would have been, 'oh, it's Sunday School manners with you is it ? Don't worry, I'm used to humouring adults who even now, think they are the teacher/head girl/head prefect.

Yeah, don't worry I'll wait until you've offered them to -your favourites, people you want to impress- everyone else. If that's your level of pettiness with what was supposed to be a goodwill gesture, then you are a petty -borderline nasty/gossipy/mean spirited/obsessed with counting/what you've given, what you're owed- as I think you are.

She put the brownies back on her territory desk. You invaded her privacy desk to help yourself. She probably sees you as no better than a thief rude.

Just be grateful, though embarrassed perhaps, that you've learned where you are in her pecking order.

Frankly it makes me cringe the blooming 5 year olds that people turn into at work re: sweets, biscuits, fudge etc bought back from holiday.

You was rude for just taking one but so was she for not offering you one!

RTFT she was going to offer one to OP and rest of the team. The other person offered was on her way at the other end of the office (would have been rude to walk past holding cakes and not give her one).
She then popped out for a couple of minutes to take a brownie to a friend and was coming back to offer the rest to her team (including OP).

Not waiting 2 mns knowing you were going to get a cake is rather rude. Expecting to nab when everyone else got one is also rude.

This reminds me of a time when I was getting a coffee at a coffee morning, there were all different mugs and the lady serving asked me which I wanted. I picked one and she gave me it, then the woman behind me, who I knew, started going on about it being bad manners to ask for a certain mug and I should have just said any would be fine. Well it is almost always worse manners to point out someone's mistake. (I didnt tell her this) but if someone does that it is probably because they are a bit lacking in empathy or they don't like you.

Or they're fed up with you stealing all the cakes...

Rude. End of.

Next time you bring in cake I am sure you will offer her one with a sweet smile.

You were a bit.

You were a bit but not as U as her for making a big deal of it - worse in my book.