AIBU to be considering having the odd small glass of wine whilst pregnant?

[KitKat1985]

Hello all. :)

I found out I was pregnant in early January. It was planned and me and DH were very happy. I abstained from alcohol the minute I found out. However, I can't deny I do miss relaxing with a glass of wine. (To be clear I've never been a heavy drinker, usually having a glass, or maybe two, 3-4 times a week beforehand). I am nearly about to finish the first trimester (12+5 today) and am wondering if it would be terrible just to have a small glass of wine about once a week? For example am probably going to go out for dinner with DH this Saturday (I work a lot of weekends, and DH doesn't, so it's nice for us to do something as a couple when we both get the day off together). AIBU? If you saw a pregnant woman in a restaurant drinking a glass of wine would you think she was in the wrong? Am genuinely interested in what other women do about alcohol when pregnant.

Fatyellow: Your post is excellent. I know that wine is full of chemicals and toxins and you have given scientific reasons for avoiding it.

I genuinely find it strange that anyone finds it soooo necessary to have a glass of wine or beer when pregnant.

I wonder if the same women are horrified if they see a pregnant woman smoking.

I hate the way that q is posed "is one glass worth it"? frankly yes, because there is no "it" that is being risked...

this is spot-on, imo. continuing to smoke during pregnancy and having the occasional drink, there is no point comparing the two since the latter is not proven to be harmful. I drank maybe two or three times throughout pregnancy not including any excessive alcohol consumption that occurred before I found out, no more than the two units that is safe and afaik my dc turned out ok...

Drink the wine drink the wine. I got no judgey looks from wine, but the old mannish stouty ale stuff oh boy, if looks could kill.
Just tell folks to do whatever they want with their bump and you'll do the same with yours.
or 'yes the alcohol IS a problem but it's the only crutch I have since I stopped the crystal meth'
I got flamed in a pub for ordering scampi when pregnant. Scampi! Of all things

Some of you must have incredibly judgey 'friends' - I drank (moderately) when pregnant and breast feeding and not one person made a comment to me.

As others have said, if people around you do make those sort of comments then really are they the sort of 'friends' you want?

I remember being in USA with a pregnant friend and we were in a jacuzzi and an over zealous life guard told her to get out.

WHAT risk? (for a small drink every week or so after the first trimester. Check the amount of alcoholin the drink).

The hysteria over this is ridiculous. As far as I am aware, there is NO reliable study of a significant number of people which says that light drinking is significantly harmful. In fact, some studies say a bit of light drinking can be beneficial. The big one which people quote as saying that moderate drinking is harmful, 40% the people in that study in the moderate group turned out to be using cocaine. Not a very good quality study.

A shit load of foods and drinks are damaging if you take them in excess or without a sense of proportion.

Your baby is at more risk from a CVS or amniocentesis and probably more at risk from doing the garden (toxoplasmosis) than from one glass of wine.

I can understand people who've had close experience of FAS being twitchy about it. But most people who are anti-small-amounts-of-drink havent done any degree of research for themselves and are simply jumping on the interfering bandwagon.