AIBU to expect to be treated like a princess on my birthday??

[Stars66]

It's my birthday today and I'm feeling miserable. I had to go to work today although boss wasn't in so I mostly skived but I expected BF of 6 years to treat me like a princess when I got home, well he tried I guess, he got me some perfume (not my fave which is almost empty) and chocolates (although 2 days ago he told me I was fat), but the card says my full name, which I never use, and he got me flowers yesterday from sainsburys; lilies which I love and carnations which I hate. He just told me that he has ordered the bag which I had hinted that I wanted, but it hasn't arrived.
Anyway now I've written that down it seems like loads but I feel grumpy. There was no card from my daughter (age 18 months), even though I told nursery staff that it was my birthday in a massive hint for them to make me a card.

Anyway, I feel like my day has been rubbish. AIBU???

[Thetallesttower]

I must have low standards, because if I got some flowers, choccies and some perfume (even not my fave) I would feel like a princess easy to please

I think you are upset and cross at your partner for some reason or have bigger issues in the relationship if this has made you feel unloved rather than cherished.

[HuntingforBunting]

Of course yabu. But! I do this too. Every year. Without fail. And it's all about really painful memories of birthdays as a child - psycho parents- really. Not about dh at all if I'm honest with myself.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

FWR - Feminism/ Women's Rights

[TTTatty]

I think it is lovely having one day a year which is special to you, I also enjoy making my partners birthday special. It is nice to be nice.

I also think he should have done something from your daughter, she is his I take it? It should be his role (not nursery) to sort a present and card for mummy.

[Standinginline]

People like this annoy me. Someone I know acts like their birthday is the only important day in the year and expects her kids to wait on her hand and foot. It's only a birthday !! On my birthday I still get on with my day like no other.

[ormirian]

It sounds as if he tried to do the right thing.

I suspect you needed to tell the nursery in words of one-syllable that you wanted a card. Possibly hints don't work.

BTW yes you are I'm afraid. If you have a firm vision of what you want your birthday to be like you need to make it very clear indeed. Partners tend not to be psychic

[ormirian]

BTW Happy Birthday!

PS Sorry those aren't lilies.

ppS I love lilies too

[justasmallone]

A princess? Its nice to be spoilt a bit which you were.

[ormirian]

And one more thing..... if at all possible take a day off work on your birthday. I have done this for the last 10 years or so and then I can spend the day pleasing myself. Last two years I have taken dog on a long walk and then treated myself to lunch somewhere lovely. No-one can spoil you as well as you can yourself because you know what you want.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

wish i had done that today.

not all colleagues said happy birthday and had the usual work hassles and grumpy patients which all seem worse on your birthday!

[KatieScarlett2833]

Happy Birthday Fanjo

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Thanks Katie :)

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I say not all..2 colleagues said it although they . Fortunately all my actual friends and family were in contact and really nice :)

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Although they all knew. .that should have said.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Although they all knew. .that should have said.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I give up . shouldn't post on phone on shoogly bus.

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

Happy birthday to the birthday celebrators! and for you all.

Stars -- I know what it's like to just want one day to be about you but unfortunately, it's not the reality of adult life. I always buy myself something or do something nice around my birthday just as a way of saying "hey, I appreciate me!"