AIBU to expect to be treated like a princess on my birthday??

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It's my birthday today and I'm feeling miserable. I had to go to work today although boss wasn't in so I mostly skived but I expected BF of 6 years to treat me like a princess when I got home, well he tried I guess, he got me some perfume (not my fave which is almost empty) and chocolates (although 2 days ago he told me I was fat), but the card says my full name, which I never use, and he got me flowers yesterday from sainsburys; lilies which I love and carnations which I hate. He just told me that he has ordered the bag which I had hinted that I wanted, but it hasn't arrived.
Anyway now I've written that down it seems like loads but I feel grumpy. There was no card from my daughter (age 18 months), even though I told nursery staff that it was my birthday in a massive hint for them to make me a card.

Anyway, I feel like my day has been rubbish. AIBU???

And on the other special days too! Fucking hell I do enough for every bugger every day of the year, and I love being treated on my birthday. Actually, part of the reason dp and I fell for each other, is we both enjoy spoiling our partner, so we regularly surprise each other with breakfast in bed, or a little card just to say I love you. He didn't do flowers before he met me, but I felt it was ok to say, "I really love getting flowers" and on a separate occasion, "Lilies are my favourite" and now they make their way into my house regularly, and I feel cherished and dp feels happy. Fortunately he is easy to buy for and gets little bits and bobs he's delighted with now and again.

Life throws enough shit at you, it's really important to feel cherished imo.

My birthday tomorrow too - it has a zero on the end! Happy birthday one and all :-)

Oh, and if I hadn't booked dinner out, we'd be doing nothing!!

11th March is a great day to be born on

Thanks RhondaJean - that's what I feel. They are easy gifts for anyone, but no thought has gone in - I hinted (via an email with links) over 2 weeks ago, so if that had arrived on time (it's Cath Kidston, hardly something difficult to get hold of, we live in London for heavens sake) then maybe id be more appreciative.

Oh well, tmrw is a new work day.

And the reason is expected a nursery card, is it's what other mums have shown me that their nurseries have done. I didn't think it was the most extreme wish!

"Men are shit."

Did you miss out a FourLetterWord there, EveesMUmmy?

I would be more upset that "2 days ago he told me I was fat"!

Men are shit. Nuff said.

That's not true. Some may be, yours may be, but 'men are shit'? No, they aren't.

But why would you want some random card made in a hurry by some nursery assistant who doesn't know you and has no interest in you?? Doesn't make sense to me. It w be more meaningful to make your own!

Fanjo - big!! 5.0.!!

It's my birthday tomorrow too!

I will wake up to a pile of cards made for me by my DDs. Do pretty much the same thing I do every Tuesday. Have a party tea with the girls and then take cakes to college. Lovely.

Though DD2(5) did very kindly add 30 years in my life earlier

Well, you are certainly acting like a princess!!
Poor guy, it sounds like he is making an effort, but not meeting your expections. You sound like hard work.

Anyway, happy birthday.

Haven't read the responses, OP, just your post. I never thought I'd ever post this on MN but I must...

GROW UP!

YABU to want a Cath Kidston bag TBH.

No, men are not shit. Some of them are. Lots of them aren't.

OP you said that you expected to be treated like a princess. Why did you expect that, is that what normally happens on your birthday?

EveesMummy "Men are shit. Nuff said."

No. They're not. That's a disgusting thing to say.

I agree that the OP needs to grow up.

There has to be more going on here. You say he called you fat, are you sad he doesn't make you feel special generally? Because on the face of it YABU to complain about a card because he wrote your full name on it or getting your favorite flowers because he also bought other flowers you don't like or getting perfume because it's not your favorite. But I would be upset about the fat comment. Pick your battles.

Do you treat him like a prince on his Birthday?

You had to go to WORK on your BIRTHDAY? Poor you. Your BF bought you perfume and ordered a bag and got you flowers and chocolates? LTB.

My birthday too...
No family, no presents..

GET OVER YOURSELF!

I'm finding this difficult to take remotely seriously and amazed that adults actually whine like this.

As for men are shits - how ridiculous and offensive.

You are missing your mum aren't you. Been there done that. What I've leaver is that if you've had a good mum nobody can replace how special your mum can make you feel. If you think about it it was something you both shared and is equally as special to her. I used to feel like this but I've got three kids and birthdays are a big deal in our house as it stops me missing my mum. Big hugs OP I completely understand how you feel. X

It can't be all that bad, OP. You have singlehandedly brought a whole new meaning to the term 'first world problems' for me. Congratulations! That's something else to celebrate.

Jesus, was just trying to save unnecessary words and make OP feel better.

Some men, not all, can be shit some of the time. Doesn't quite have the same flow does it?

I think some of the comments on here are rather nasty and unnecessary tbh

We all like to feel special and pampered on our birthdays! and your bf should have got a card from your dd.

However it could have been worse!! My last birthday was 2 weeks before I gave birth, dp bought me witch hazel spot stuff from boots cos he remembered the midwife muttering something about witch hazel being good for me after baby arrived. I did try VERY hard to be grateful and gracious but failed miserably. He dis better for our anniversary a week later though!

What's FWR?