AIBU to expect to be treated like a princess on my birthday??

[Stars66]

It's my birthday today and I'm feeling miserable. I had to go to work today although boss wasn't in so I mostly skived but I expected BF of 6 years to treat me like a princess when I got home, well he tried I guess, he got me some perfume (not my fave which is almost empty) and chocolates (although 2 days ago he told me I was fat), but the card says my full name, which I never use, and he got me flowers yesterday from sainsburys; lilies which I love and carnations which I hate. He just told me that he has ordered the bag which I had hinted that I wanted, but it hasn't arrived.
Anyway now I've written that down it seems like loads but I feel grumpy. There was no card from my daughter (age 18 months), even though I told nursery staff that it was my birthday in a massive hint for them to make me a card.

Anyway, I feel like my day has been rubbish. AIBU???

[SeaSickSal]

YABVU and ungrateful.

[OpalQuartz]

Happy Birthday OP

What is FWR mentioned earlier in the thread?

[Noideaatall]

Happy birthday Stars!
I know how you feel.

[AfroditeJones]

May I suggest you LTB and report the nursery to Ofsted.

[Stars66]

Thank you Noideaatall!!

Listen, I know it sounds like loads and is, it's just all so unoriginal. And I guess I feel old and boring and just wanted my birthday to be exciting like they were when I was younger!!! (And would be out on the piss or at least having fun!!)
Ok, ass well and truly kicked

[Gruntfuttock]

Good grief.

[hoboken]

You are not being completely unreasonable, just unrealistic, given the constraints of your life (work, an unimaginitive BF etc).

I think it would be an absolute pain to be a princess, even for a day as it smacks of being helpless. If no-one will do something nice for you then treat yourself to a caramel latte, an ice lolly, perfume or a large glass of whatever floats your boat.

If today has been "rubbish" tomorrow may be better, it may be worse but at least it will be different.

[Amy106]

Happy Birthday, OP!
It sounds like he did a pretty job on your birthday really.
Go out, get yourself a nice present and move on from there.

[TheWomanWithTheMysteriousLump]

Car stereo woman's lovely new boyfriend bought her an expensive car stereo for her car because she didn't have one and he thought it would brighten up her long car commute. She threw the most spectacular hissy fit because nothing counts unless it's jewelry apparently and she was ashamed to admit to her friends that her bf hadn't bought her a rock. The MN verdict was not sympathetic. CBA to use grim mobile site search to find it though.

[SallyMcgally]

Happy Birthday OP

[fluffyraggies]

How old are you OP?

Honestly you do sound late teens.

[Fairenuff]

If you wanted to do something fun for your birthday you should have organised it.

Why do you expect people like nursery staff to make you a birthday card, that's really odd and if you made big hints, that's just embarrassing.

How are you going to cope when you don't get anything for Mother's Day?

[Noregretsatall]

It's mine too tomorrow Fanjo, a big one, rather too big! Happy birthday to us!

[PoloMintCity]

YABU
For my birthday DH/DS (3) gave me a four pack of tea lights and a malteaster chocolate - hissy fit? No, because DH is on crap pay with very little disposable income and DS presented it to me with a cheery 'this is for your birthday mummy because we love you'. Pay attention to what you have instead of pining over material goods.

[RhondaJean]

YANBU, it all feels a little bit of a no effort effort doesn't it.

He could redeem himself with a nice meal out this weekend.

I would be peeved too, worst thing is you aren't supposed to show it, because on paper he did make an effort.

Oh and I'm 37. Age doesn't preclude you from wanting to have a nice birthday with some thought from others. Except on MN.

[trashcanjunkie]

Actually I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be treated like a princess on your birthday, and especially if there's no mammy to make a fuss of you

However, I think that you need to tactfully communicate your expectations well in advance of the day itself, and be prepared to reciprocate on your dps birthday.

If you want specific items you must let the other person know, or it's an unfair expectation.

[Stars66]

I'm in my 30's and in a relationship that is not great at the mo, so think I'm finding fault with any and everything that he does.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Noregrets..how big? Mine is v big

[WholeNutt]

I got a toblerone and a mug for my birthday and for christmas a card that said 'love and best wishes' some men have no imagination but it sounds like yours at least tried!

[Rabbitcar]

Happy birthday OP! It was also my birthday today, and I was annoyed because (as usual) I had to get up and do all the chores (dishwasher emptying, breakfast-making etc) as DH always stays in bed half an hour longer than me. It would be nice to have ONE day off.... He always says I don't need to get up, and he will do all the chores in his own time. But then we will be late for school/work etc. But he arranged a cake and bought me a nice present, so I am over it (for now!)! .

[TwittyMcTwitterson]

Nursery should have made u a card. DPs birthday is three days before mine and I asked them to make him a card. They were sweet enough to also look up my birthday and notice seems strange they didn't make you one.

Men are shit. Nuff said. Though he did get you good presents, a night of cuddles and romance would have been better I'm sure

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Mine is in fact the meaning of life

[80sMum]

The answer is yes!! You are being very unreasonable (and rather ridiculous).