AIBU to expect to be treated like a princess on my birthday??

[Stars66]

It's my birthday today and I'm feeling miserable. I had to go to work today although boss wasn't in so I mostly skived but I expected BF of 6 years to treat me like a princess when I got home, well he tried I guess, he got me some perfume (not my fave which is almost empty) and chocolates (although 2 days ago he told me I was fat), but the card says my full name, which I never use, and he got me flowers yesterday from sainsburys; lilies which I love and carnations which I hate. He just told me that he has ordered the bag which I had hinted that I wanted, but it hasn't arrived.
Anyway now I've written that down it seems like loads but I feel grumpy. There was no card from my daughter (age 18 months), even though I told nursery staff that it was my birthday in a massive hint for them to make me a card.

Anyway, I feel like my day has been rubbish. AIBU???

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

Happy birthday to the birthday celebrators! and for you all.

Stars -- I know what it's like to just want one day to be about you but unfortunately, it's not the reality of adult life. I always buy myself something or do something nice around my birthday just as a way of saying "hey, I appreciate me!"

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I give up . shouldn't post on phone on shoogly bus.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Although they all knew. .that should have said.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Although they all knew. .that should have said.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I say not all..2 colleagues said it although they . Fortunately all my actual friends and family were in contact and really nice :)

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Thanks Katie :)

[KatieScarlett2833]

Happy Birthday Fanjo

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

wish i had done that today.

not all colleagues said happy birthday and had the usual work hassles and grumpy patients which all seem worse on your birthday!

[ormirian]

And one more thing..... if at all possible take a day off work on your birthday. I have done this for the last 10 years or so and then I can spend the day pleasing myself. Last two years I have taken dog on a long walk and then treated myself to lunch somewhere lovely. No-one can spoil you as well as you can yourself because you know what you want.

[justasmallone]

A princess? Its nice to be spoilt a bit which you were.

[ormirian]

BTW Happy Birthday!

PS Sorry those aren't lilies.

ppS I love lilies too

[ormirian]

It sounds as if he tried to do the right thing.

I suspect you needed to tell the nursery in words of one-syllable that you wanted a card. Possibly hints don't work.

BTW yes you are I'm afraid. If you have a firm vision of what you want your birthday to be like you need to make it very clear indeed. Partners tend not to be psychic

[Standinginline]

People like this annoy me. Someone I know acts like their birthday is the only important day in the year and expects her kids to wait on her hand and foot. It's only a birthday !! On my birthday I still get on with my day like no other.

[TTTatty]

I think it is lovely having one day a year which is special to you, I also enjoy making my partners birthday special. It is nice to be nice.

I also think he should have done something from your daughter, she is his I take it? It should be his role (not nursery) to sort a present and card for mummy.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

FWR - Feminism/ Women's Rights

[HuntingforBunting]

Of course yabu. But! I do this too. Every year. Without fail. And it's all about really painful memories of birthdays as a child - psycho parents- really. Not about dh at all if I'm honest with myself.

[Thetallesttower]

I must have low standards, because if I got some flowers, choccies and some perfume (even not my fave) I would feel like a princess easy to please

I think you are upset and cross at your partner for some reason or have bigger issues in the relationship if this has made you feel unloved rather than cherished.

[KatieScarlett2833]

There is more to it than that.

[Theas18]

If you ar e older than about 8 then YABU

[NigellasDealer]

me too!
she had perfume, chocolate, card and flowers!
and she comes on here to whinge that she is not being treated like a 'pwincess'

[TheArticFunky]

I really don't understand people who want the world to stop on their birthday.

On Facebook an old school friend had her status as "Today is all about me, me, me!". Other friends have birthdays that last for weeks on end. I don't get it.

The OP received gifts so should just be grateful. The whole "princess" thing makes me want to vomit.

[KatieScarlett2833]

Something nice to make her feel better. A night out? A new book? insert feel good treat of choice

OP is not feeling valued. Valuing yourself often helps

[LiberalLibertine]

Something nice? Are chocolates flowers and new designer hand bags not nice them?

I'm honestly at this, what happened to 'it's the thought that counts'?

[ISeeYouShiverWithAntici]

Happy birthday for yesterday. I'm not going to join the queue for kicking you because it's far too long and I want to at least try to get some work done today.

So instead I will give you and and more on the grounds that nobody can ever have enough

It reads to me that this 'princess' thing is possibly a symptom. It reads like you don't feel very important to your partner and how you feel about your birthday is a symptom of that, rather than you being totally precious. Of course if you feel that something is missing from the relationship, or he's not that bothered, or he just did token stuff rather than putting any genuine thought into it, then it's going to hurt.

Maybe also with a bit of wistfulness about lost youth and all that on top too

So. Happy birthday for yesterday and YANBU really, not if at the core of it is simply not feeling important. Everyone should feel like their partner thinks they're amazing and wants to spoil them.