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AIBU to expect to be treated like a princess on my birthday??

118 replies

Stars66 · 10/03/2014 21:41

It's my birthday today and I'm feeling miserable. I had to go to work today although boss wasn't in so I mostly skived but I expected BF of 6 years to treat me like a princess when I got home, well he tried I guess, he got me some perfume (not my fave which is almost empty) and chocolates (although 2 days ago he told me I was fat), but the card says my full name, which I never use, and he got me flowers yesterday from sainsburys; lilies which I love and carnations which I hate. He just told me that he has ordered the bag which I had hinted that I wanted, but it hasn't arrived.
Anyway now I've written that down it seems like loads but I feel grumpy. There was no card from my daughter (age 18 months), even though I told nursery staff that it was my birthday in a massive hint for them to make me a card.

Anyway, I feel like my day has been rubbish. AIBU???

OP posts:
NoArmaniNoPunani · 11/03/2014 05:52

It's steak and a blow job day on Friday so you can get your own back by buying the wrong steak and giving a crap BJ.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 11/03/2014 06:11

Happy birthday to all the birthday peeps on this thread Thanks

daisychain01 · 11/03/2014 06:53

Morning fanjo, no regrets, amelia

Have a brilliant birthday!

Stars, happy belated birthday!

Cake Flowers

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 11/03/2014 07:05

Yes, happy belated birthday stars.

And thanks daisy, am off to work now. Exciting stuff Grin

Stars66 · 11/03/2014 07:08

Happy birthday to the others on here, hope works not terrible and you get pampered. Smile

Here's to a great new year with little ones that make it worth while Grin

OP posts:
NigellasDealer · 11/03/2014 07:17

god grow up willya

FrancesNiadova · 11/03/2014 07:20

Happy Birthday Fanjoforthemammaries & Playftesforme! Cake

It was my birthday yesterday. DH & the kids made a massive chocolate cake & we had a nice walk in the sunshine (i'm on crutches so I really appreciated it). Wonderful, not expensive, but full of love!

BeverleyMoss · 11/03/2014 07:23

What a lovely heartfelt post from slutbucket

Flowers
MinesAPintOfTea · 11/03/2014 07:39

We try to arrange to be off work for birthdays, but that's a decision we make as to when to take our leave. And it does sound as though your bf tried.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 11/03/2014 07:54

Thanks :)

sunshinemmum · 11/03/2014 08:13

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ilovesooty · 11/03/2014 08:20

Well Evees if saving "unnecessary" words is more important to you than any kind of accuracy it does explain your lazy and offensive stereotyping.

Only1scoop · 11/03/2014 08:20

I can see where you are coming from Op....my last 2 birthdays have been even worse than yours....

Happy birthday anyway Thanks

NobodyLivesHere · 11/03/2014 08:33

On my birthday the year before last my kids gave me chickenpox, my partner gave me metaphorical divorce papers and my stairs gave me a broken toe.

It could be worse OP

Trills · 11/03/2014 08:35

I agree with LRD.

CuttedUpPear · 11/03/2014 08:35

If you want support in your wish to be treated like a princess, the twinklybubba site will give you a better reception.

MN is all wise old vipers

introvertygerty · 11/03/2014 08:45

The dropping hints at nursery thing made me laugh, I used to teach in a private school and a mum called the office once to say it was her birthday and she expects a card to be made by her son! At least she knew her son, he was far too dozy to ever think of it himself! He was 6 though.

KatieScarlett2833 · 11/03/2014 08:47

It's not really about your birthday is it? You wanted to have a special day, probably looked forward to it and feel let down. You miss your mum. Does your DH make a habit of being a pig?
Promise yourself something nice Wink

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici · 11/03/2014 09:02

Happy birthday for yesterday. I'm not going to join the queue for kicking you because it's far too long and I want to at least try to get some work done today. Grin

So instead I will give you Cake and Thanks and more Cake on the grounds that nobody can ever have enough Cake Grin

It reads to me that this 'princess' thing is possibly a symptom. It reads like you don't feel very important to your partner and how you feel about your birthday is a symptom of that, rather than you being totally precious. Of course if you feel that something is missing from the relationship, or he's not that bothered, or he just did token stuff rather than putting any genuine thought into it, then it's going to hurt.

Maybe also with a bit of wistfulness about lost youth and all that on top too Grin

So. Happy birthday for yesterday and YANBU really, not if at the core of it is simply not feeling important. Everyone should feel like their partner thinks they're amazing and wants to spoil them.

LiberalLibertine · 11/03/2014 09:08

Something nice? Are chocolates flowers and new designer hand bags not nice them?

I'm honestly Confused at this, what happened to 'it's the thought that counts'?

KatieScarlett2833 · 11/03/2014 09:10

Something nice to make her feel better. A night out? A new book? insert feel good treat of choice

OP is not feeling valued. Valuing yourself often helps Wink

TheArticFunky · 11/03/2014 09:20

I really don't understand people who want the world to stop on their birthday.

On Facebook an old school friend had her status as "Today is all about me, me, me!". Other friends have birthdays that last for weeks on end. I don't get it.

The OP received gifts so should just be grateful. The whole "princess" thing makes me want to vomit.

NigellasDealer · 11/03/2014 09:22

me too!
she had perfume, chocolate, card and flowers!
and she comes on here to whinge that she is not being treated like a 'pwincess'

Theas18 · 11/03/2014 09:25

If you ar e older than about 8 then YABU

KatieScarlett2833 · 11/03/2014 09:40

There is more to it than that.