wibu to stop and give out to this woman

[spongebob13]

coming home last night from late night shopping on a dark windy country road and only for a car coming against me, with their headlights I spotted last second a woman walking in the dark in black. I swerved to avoid her and braked and the other car passed. I came to a stop. my heart was thumping and was shaking and i was so mad. I reversed and rolled down window. she stopped and looked in at me as if i was looking for directions not a bother on her. I said exactly "jesus Christ I nearly hit you. you are all in black! are you mad?" she said "what?" I said "I couldn't see you and it would be my fault if I hit you! " she said "fuck off" and walked on. I was in shock. haven't stopped thinking about it since. I swear if I knew who she was I'd report her but for what law she is breaking I don't know! selfish bint!

[Adeleh]

In Italy it's illegal not to carry high vis jackets in your car, so that if you do breakdown and have to walk you'll always have your sensible clothes with you. Rental cars have the jackets in them.

[NigellasDealer]

and a hi viz vest costs about two quid and rolls up to fit into bag or pocket.
I had one on the other evening and then forgot and went to the supermarket

[spongebob13]

Exit what does "Oh Ireland" mean?

I don't care if i don't know you i am not giving you a lift. that to me is being safe.

[spongebob13]

MrsDeVere while i would normally agree with you (have met lunatics driving this country road) i was extra slow as i had a boot full of shopping and was being slower than normal. (came home with broken eggs last week hence finally giving into professional valet).

[Pipbin]

I grew up in the middle of nowhere too, no pavements, no streetlights.
You walk into the traffic. I think it's in the highway code, or the country code at least.
I also learned to drive on these roads. Unless she was round a bend then you should have seen her assuming you were going slowly enough.

[spongebob13]

I guess people can't really understand that this woman was not visible, end of. i really think it should be made law that once its dusk hi vis vests have to be worn.

[spongebob13]

while walking/cycling obviously ... not in tescos doing a late night shop

[Logg1e]

To be fair Pipbin I don't think the OP has said the woman was walking on the wrong side, (or has she?). I think her problem is that the woman should have been wearing hi vis clothing and/or jumped in to a ditch when cars approached. OP hasn't really explained what she wanted from the pedestrian.

[Logg1e]

Ok, so you wanted her to jump in to a ditch, wear hi vis and for the law you threatened to use in the first post to exist?

[Adeleh]

To have made herself visible by not wearing all black on an unlit road is my understanding.

[spongebob13]

(facepalm)

if she wore a hi vis vest there would be no "jumping" into a ditch or law involved.

[ozymandiusking]

Do you remmber the government warning on the TV from years ago.
" wear somenthing white at night"
It's sensible!

[spongebob13]

i agree MrsDeVere most definitely. but i can assure you this wasn't the case. have driven this road faster to be honest during the day but i was genuinely going slower than normal. i was paying attention to the road. i admit to speeding and texting while driving (which will probably be thrown in my face right now but will risk it to show i was paying attention and vigilant).

[Logg1e]

Am I the only poster who has found herself walking along a country lane at night without hi vis against her wishes??

I totally agree she should have been more visible. My point is that it might not have been her choice.

[Logg1e]

OP i admit to speeding and texting while driving

Yet you're the one "face palming" me?? Why on earth do you think that would be thrown in your face?

[spongebob13]

Logg1e on the chance that she had no choice ... and i hit her. who's fault would it be?

[SauvignonBlanche]

Yours.

[Logg1e]

OP Logg1e on the chance that she had no choice ... and i hit her. who's fault would it be?

Are you texting or speeding when you hit her?

[spongebob13]

oh sweet jesus

[Logg1e]

Just checking.

[Pollyputthekettle]

Understandable but probably would have been received better without the shoutiness.

I bet she thinks twice about going out in black again though.

[Adeleh]

tallesttower I think I remember that documentary. The police said that it was not the fault of the driver, once had examined the road, the light conditions and taken into account the fact that there were no lights or high viz clothes. It's not automatically and always the fault of the driver in every single case. Driver on that occasion wasn't prosecuted.

[deakymom]

you got scared and you shouted at her im not surprised at all we nearly ran someone over for walking down the middle of a road in black yes there were paths and street lights but we have energy saving which switch off the street lights he was walking in the middle of our side of the road facing away i saw and shouted my husband didn't notice for a moment and then slammed on the brakes we fishtailed and nearly span the road was wet we weren't going that fast but it was 2am who the hell expects a moron at 2am? i had to stop my husband getting out the car and smacking him on principle YANBU i don't wear black and walk like a muppet at night i really dont want to die

[Susyb30]

I think the pedestrian was a fool..what idiot would walk on a dark country road in black?! If it was in circumstances where it couldn't be helped she was in black (ie car broke down or worse dumped in middle of nowhere by evil man) then all themmore reason to offer an explanation to you..the fact its a woman stopping (all be it a pissed off woman) she had no right to tell you to fuck off! Sounds a silly selfish cow to me..with a death wish.