To be pissed of with the school re vaccination reaction

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When DD had her 2nd HPV vaccination last year she suffered a weird reaction to it (she is not a drama lama) she does have an allergy to something we have as yet been unable to identify - GP can't do an allergy test unless we know roughly what group of things it might be we thought it was coconut (gets a weird rash all over her face) but she has random reactions to random things and getting her to keep a food diary/diary of products she has used is very difficult she is also asthmatic.

School aware of all the above. With the HPV vaccination I was a bit pissed off that I wasn't informed about the reaction as it took her over an hour to feel ok and go back to class. I think I emailed but had no response then got caught up with life and didn't follow up.

Fast forward today she has had her yr 10 boosters. I filled out the form clearly stating about what happened last time and giving my mobile number asking to be contacted if there was any issue.

Yet again she comes home and tells me the nurse saw her go pale after the jab and she went faint and nauseous and was kept in the medical room for 1 hour.

AIBU to feel the school should have phoned me or emailed me to tell me about this? Getting info from DD was like getting blood from a stone and I would like some reassurance that all is ok? She does not have a needle phobia this is clearly a physical reaction to something in the vaccination.

OP you say you "have no-one to talk to about this".

This is actually all about you, not your DD, who sounds completely fine.
You do have someone you can talk to. Make an appointment with your GP to discuss your anxiety.

"She asked to be informed 'if there was any issue'. If they could not oblige they should have told her in advance, then OP could have chosen to go ahead or make alternative arrangements."

But surely the normal way of being informed of any issue at this age is through the said teenager? Given that she is NT and (as far as we know) has no MH issue or special behavioural problems which might inhibit communication? I don't get telephone calls home about things that my teenager has been told or learnt at school; if he doesn't tell me when he should have done, I lay into him.

OP, I would have thought it reasonable to expect your dd to know if you wanted her to tell you and then do so. She is 14. Quite old enough to be expected to relay a message back to you.

Surely you have discussed her allergies with her and helped her to come up with a strategy for if she gets a reaction? If not, that is where you need to start now. She is getting to an age where she will be moving out and about on her own, without adults constantly keeping an eye on her: she needs to have a plan.

And yes, I do know what it's like- I have a slightly older teen with a condition which means she can collapse suddenly because her legs give way. Very dangerous if she is crossing the street, but at the same time I cannot deny her the freedom other teens have, because she needs to develop coping skills. Openness, trust in her ability and a proven record of parental calm when she does tell me scary things- these have worked for us.

You could have arranged in advance with the school immunisation team that you wished to be present when she had the jab.

Knowing that she had a reaction to the last jab perhaps it would have been better to take her to the gp yourself.

None of my kids get their boosters in school. I always take them to the doctor myself.

OP - you mentioned that your daughter was not a Drama Llama but, from your posts here, it does sound like you are being a bit over-dramatic.

Of course you love and care for your daughter, and worry about her - and I agree with all the constructive suggestions to get any health concerns checked out with your GP. But in answer to your question, yep I do think YABU to be pissed off with the school about this.

at my dd's school on Monday 145 girls were vaccinated... they were called up to one of 9 tables (on a gym-matted floor) my DD was one of the last through... she says 4 people actually fainted.... one BEFORE the injection....

and when they had their injection they were told to go sit on the floor for 10 min - and if they felt faint to go to a different area - there were about 30 girls in that area by the end...

so 2% - ish actual fainters, 20% - ish felt faint... fairly normal reaction to me...

yesterday my DD and her 3 best mates were comparing the massive itchy red patch and bump on their arms.... 80% of the girls had this reaction....so don't worry too much if you get that one too....

I work in a school. I think our Year 10s have got injections tomorrow. What happens is we get TOLD by the NHS when this is going to happen. They then turn up with a load of nurses, expect us to organise it all, and then leave us to deal with all the problems.
I accept that children need their injections, and the most effective way of doing this is mass injecting at school, but please be clear: this is the NHS's responsibility, not the school's. We just happen to provide the location.
If any childrem feel faint, I send them back to the nurses. They should be the ones contacting parents, because last time I checked I am a teacher, not a nurse.

OP why did you actually start this thread asking if you were being unreasonable?

You are clearly not taking on board the responses or willing to accept that maybe you are being unreasonable.

absolutely right the Fraser Guidelines don't come into it.

Gillick Competencies do however.

Out of interest how do you feel about the Gillick and Fraser guidelines?