To be pissed of with the school re vaccination reaction

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When DD had her 2nd HPV vaccination last year she suffered a weird reaction to it (she is not a drama lama) she does have an allergy to something we have as yet been unable to identify - GP can't do an allergy test unless we know roughly what group of things it might be we thought it was coconut (gets a weird rash all over her face) but she has random reactions to random things and getting her to keep a food diary/diary of products she has used is very difficult she is also asthmatic.

School aware of all the above. With the HPV vaccination I was a bit pissed off that I wasn't informed about the reaction as it took her over an hour to feel ok and go back to class. I think I emailed but had no response then got caught up with life and didn't follow up.

Fast forward today she has had her yr 10 boosters. I filled out the form clearly stating about what happened last time and giving my mobile number asking to be contacted if there was any issue.

Yet again she comes home and tells me the nurse saw her go pale after the jab and she went faint and nauseous and was kept in the medical room for 1 hour.

AIBU to feel the school should have phoned me or emailed me to tell me about this? Getting info from DD was like getting blood from a stone and I would like some reassurance that all is ok? She does not have a needle phobia this is clearly a physical reaction to something in the vaccination.

Even if they had requested to be informed?

Could depend on what she's eaten, how hot it was in the room, all sorts. I've helped supervise those injection days, it's manic trying to get through all the kids. Why not take her to the docs yourself if you're convinced it is a reaction to the jab?

she only told me as an aside - she then behaved as if I was interrogating her under duress

What is the actual problem OP?

Your dd is obviously fine, she recovered at school and is over it. What's the problem?

Your doctor needs to refer her to a specialist to get her tested for allergies. They can test for dozens of allergens at once. The downside is you may get some false positives.

It would depend what the parent had asked to be informed about.

"Could you call me if my daughter has a reaction to her jab" - I wouldn't have called in this instance because AFAIAC that isn't a reaction. Of course I would call a parent if the child had a reaction and was unwell.

Teenagers are bloody absent minded
They are not absent minded if something is really bothering them. Maybe your DD wasn't overly concerned.

Pretty sure that at 14 her health is still my responsibility and concern.

But school dealt with it, like they would any first aid situation, and she recovered well. Why would that be a problem for you?

If she had not recovered, they would have called you to come and collect her.

YABU. I remember injection day at school - the medical room was filled with kids; most felt faint and sick, some just wanted to miss the next lesson or two, the nurse was rushed off her feet. If your DD had a rash or swollen face - a proper allergic sign - then, yes I'd expect them to call you but sick and faint? Nah. She's old enough.

I asked to be informed.

I canceled going to a parents eve as I was held up at work - I sent an email informing them I would be unable to attend and apologising and asking if there were any concerns - I had no response.

I then got a shitty letter through the post reminding me of the importance of parents eve and letting them know if I was unable to attend and stressing the importance of effective communication between parents and school.

I don't think it would have hurt for someone from the school to call you.

Well print off your email and take that in to show they you did tell them and do take P EVENING seriously.

I think that you asked to be informed if there was a problem and flagged up to them that she has had an allergic reaction? if so they did that surely. they kept an eye on her by keeping her there until she felt OK. your dd is old enough to tell you that she had felt unwell. The nurses would not have had time to ring you to say your dd felt a bit unwell. If she had not recovered, someone would then have called you to collect her. You are making a real drama out of nothing tbh.

Your work is no more important than theirs.

On the evening of the parents' evening I doubt any of them will have had a chance to check emails as they will have been getting ready, setting out working and collecting data.

She didn't have an allergic reaction, so they followed your instructions.

The problem with the forms for the HPV vaccinations are that they are usually NHS documents. They are collected in by form tutors and sent to the office to be passed on to the HCPs admin

Dd reacted just the same after her HPV vaccinations, she said there were three or four more just like her. They stayed in the medical room for a while and then went back to class so I'd say the response of the school was entirely appropriate tbh. Dd told me when she came home, no big deal.
Conversely when she fainted out of the blue school phoned me straight away and looked after her for the twenty minutes it took me to pick her up and phoned the following day to see if the GP had any concerns.
Being the parent of two children who have anaphylactic reactions I wouldn't have expected the school to have reacted in any way differently to how they did tbh.

How exactly am I making a drama?

As of yet I have done nothing about today - I have real concerns about DDS unexplained allergies (which have included her lips swelling up - but not in relation to her being vaccinated) - which I have shared with the school.

It is hard to find out what she is allergic too as its quite random - I ave shared this with the school.

I do worry more probably as she is asthmatic.

I do question HCP as DS1 had appendicitis and I had to practically force them to examine/admit him as my guts told me something was seriously wrong and by the time they decided to operate it had burst.

So maybe I seem over protective but it is not without reason.

Would you think it reasonable to expect the school to phone every parent whose DD went a bit pale/cried/felt sick/felt a bit woozy if all their parents had asked? Would you consider it reasonable if all the parents asked if they could just be informed about how their child had got on?

And what is the point of asking if you are being unreasonable if you are just going to ignore the answers?

I asked to be informed is she had a reaction at all not just allergic.

They would have received my email the next day before they posted the letter.

Where did I say my work was more important than anyone else's?! .

Despite all the posts above, I don't think you understand what an allergic reaction to a vaccination is.
It means possibly going in to anaphylactic shock, problems breathing, serious stuff.
SHE DIDNT HAVE AN ALLERGIC REACTION.
She had a common reaction which they monitored.
They followed your instructions.
Yabu.

OP, sorry to bang on about it but what was the actual problem with how it all went.

Your dd was fine wasn't she? Am I missing something, why did you expect the school to contact you to say that she was fine?

Surely they would only contact you if she was not fine?

oops! HCPs administering the vaccines. They're not usually read by school staff so they may not have known that you had requested information under a specific circumstance. The HCPs would be unlikely to call you either unless the reaction was serious.

Other contact issues with the school aside, this might explain what happened today.

Fainting is not a reaction, it's a common response to injections.

OP: AIBU?
Everyone else: Yes.
OP: No I'm not, let me repeat it all again and try and make you develop the same level of outrage as me.
Everyone else: You are still BU.
OP: No I'm not!