...to think 'partner' means a cohabiting partner, not just boyfriend.

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This has twice caused major confusion recently.

I realise most of the time it doesn't really matter much, but referring to someone you are 'just' dating as your partner is confusing wrong.

Isn't it?

So what should I call my partner then? considering we have lived together for 35 years?

Snogpot

My beau?

Bitoutofpractise, I agree with you.

As for my, I live with my boyfriend. We co-own a house, are 37 & 42 and are boyfriend & girlfriend. It's what we choose to use!

Ah usual when you've been together 35 years I think you can call them what you like really

OP - if you're confused about what someone means by DP, you could always.... ask them?

Why would you not call him your partner usual?

I'm liking ' snogpot', I might promote the OH to snogpot.

Coffee interviewing people is what I was trying to avoid. I am not an immigration officer.

Because I'm not gay, Fid.

It's a gay thing according to Super and her social circle.

Oh right yes, I see. Missed that particular bizarre assertion post.

Bit limiting isn't it?

Snogpot I love it!
I call my other half, my husband/hubby (even though I know that pees some women off). I don't judge other peoples couple status but it does annoy me when health professionals say "oh is this your partner..." and I say "husband...." and they continue with "partner" because I don't like the term personally. Maybe I'm one of them annoying/proud married women?

*Btw genuine question - My stepsister is marrying her girlfriend soon (exciting times ahead ) but once they are married do I call my stepsister's gf her "partner" or "wife"? I'm asking on here as I would feel a bit daft asking her in person

She is your stepsister's wife on marriage

I can see it in a non cohabbing way amoungst same sex couples. In opposite sex couples I generally think of em shacking up

I have a Wife and she has a Husband.

Maybe it's a little old fashioned but that's how we like it.

Yes it is old fashioned.

I'm not shacking up either. I'm in a committed relationship. So stick that up your smug married pipe.

I'm not judging you for shacking up.

But technically my Wife and I are Man and Wife.

And?

Is your relationship better than mine then?

Did I say that?

Because I have a Wife and my Wife has a husband we're in the wrong?

You can call your relationship what you want it doesn't and wont affect me one little bit.

That's ok then.

I will continue to call my partner my partner.

We can shack up for a few more years.

You seem defensive and overly bothered about how other people define their relationships.

Just enjoy yours and allow others to do likewise.

I will .Shacking up is a bit dismissive though

My Wife and I, may nowdays be two women.

sualsuspect33 Sat 01-Mar-14 01:13:16

Yes it is old fashioned.

I'm not shacking up either. I'm in a committed relationship. So stick that up your smug married pipe.

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I used the term you yourself used.

So you dismissed yourself didn't you?

What upsets you so much that someone identifies as married when they are?

I said nothing about your circumstances did I?

My Wife and I, may nowdays be two women

This is absolutely true and so it should be if they identify themselves as such.

If they got married since the 29th of March 2014, two women are legally Wife and Wife; just as if a man and woman get married, they are legally Husband and Wife. What people call themselves is of course, up to them.

I was using a term someone else used.