And yet more extremist nonsense against me.
Amber No, I am NOT "deluded". You're not going to help here by throwing Richard Dawkins rhetoric around.
Fide "dare you to point to ONE example"... "rather rude" I said in response to marf reprising her 'porn' obsession that the very reason I added a definition for chastity was to make it less likely someone would make a silly comment about the word. By "people like you and [her]" I refer to those with an extreme aversion to sexual restraint, as opposed to the majority who do not agree with marriage being the only acceptable context for sex for everybody but are more open to those with a traditional view rather than calling them names and being so disrespectful.
It was marf, tilly and another poster who I found to be wrong in referring to general descriptions of sexual or quasi-sexual behaviour in circumspect language, on a website for mums where grown-up talk is generally not censored and other people speak about 'fucking' and 'sucking cock', as somehow related to 'erotica'. You have at least had the decency to avoid this calumny.
As for it being 'rude' to define the term I have heard degree-educated people confuse the term with 'celibacy' in regular conversation, including Catholics who have most use for the two words- so it is hardly an insult to intelligence if I clarify before a mistake can be made.
Tilly though absolutely takes the fucking cake: Weirdly, however, not a single contributor went into detail on the costs of equipment or unguents, unless explicitly asked to give product recommendations. So I have no idea how blessed gets information in such detail.
Talking about an S&M forum then opening the sentence about me with the adjective 'WEIRDLY'? To suggest I am...what, more sexually abnormal than hardcore fetishists? That would be bad enough. Then we have 'costs of equipment or unguents'- I have never provided the 'cost' of any BDSM item, 'unguents' are not exactly limited to that scene. Then you see fit to end with a dark mutter about me being privy to samizdat sexual esoterica, "information in such detail"? The only costs I mentioned were for the body cream and perfume bought by my friend, which she. fucking. told. me. and could be obtained by a simple check online or in a large department store if she hadn't. Curiosity satisfied yet? I have reported your post.
Marfisa, I respect you for understanding that I had very good reason to believe it was relevant and that you were first between us two to search for evidence of motive from past threads. When I am being attacked for my Christian-based moral beliefs it is perfectly reasonable to bring up that one of the strongest opposing views comes from someone whose childhood traumas associated with the faith were so severe she can't even have Christmas mulled wine among the 'Religious Right' without it troubling her.
It's not personal against you: if someone was posting harshly against, say, a Muslim who advocated more faith schooling and their MN history showed they were an atheist who had left religion after running away from home at 14 to escape family sending her to Pakistan for a first-cousin arranged marriage it would be just as fair for others on that thread to point out that poster is going to be very strongly biased one way. It wouldn't be a simple matter of 'discounting' or 'psychoanalyzing' their views, but of acknowledging all human beings' beliefs and understandings of reality are conditioned by our lived experience of reality thus anyone who has had an exceptionally positive OR negative experience of a particular group of people, ideology, lifestyle, etc. is susceptible to extreme passion on the subject which if unchecked can lead to the suspension of reason and/or unfairly universalizing one's anecdotal evidence.
I apologize if I upset you by linking myself to your family. It was purely a reference to conservative moral beliefs, not fundamentalism or violence. As for the 'crazy messed up place' on what's more immoral... I certainly hope you don't believe I would take such a stance. In fact, the woman who I complained about being decadent could spend every single night expressing the lusts of her flesh- being massaged in bed with expensive creams and oils, listening to DP confide his fantasies and sexual past using all the 'dirty language' she liked to hear, talking filth herself, extramarital sex with younger men, porn, BDSM, vibrator use, cunnilingus, drinking too much, gluttony, and the rest- and she would still be morally far superior in my eyes to anyone who would use a belt on children for 'Biblical discipline.' The difference is I find both worthy of rebuke.