To be utterly sick of the fussy eaters are made brigade

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Title says it all.

I am so fed up of people assuming that my dd1 is fussy about food because I have made her that way, that I just feed her junk and sweets and if I only let her go hungry she would eat what is put in front of her.

She has come such a long way from being the 2 year old that would not eat anything but still has a long list of things she will not eat. Certain textures or something unexpected in her food makes her gag. Trying new foods is not something she enjoys although she is slowly getting braver.

And yes we sent her to bed many a time leaving an untouched dinner and it didn't make a difference. Her appetite is minuscule at the best of times and she'll happily skip a meal.

And why do people assume that because she has a small appetite and doesn't like a lot of foods that this means she must eat nothing but processed food? Her list of likes includes things like beef stew, porridge, eggs and many fruits and vegetables. Her dislikes are many but include pizza, chips and processed meats. So no, we don't feed her from a Findus freezer every night.

And then there is DD2. Loves nothing better than a home cooked meal and eats way more than her sister, yet has always been a tiny skinny thing. They are just different in their make up and eating habits.

I wish a 'fussy' eater upon those who are routinely smug about the fact they have been fortunate enough to have a child that does not have issues with food. AIBU?

Both my dd's as small children ate whatever was put in front of them. As they got older the list of foods they didn't like started to grow, foods they had always eaten and enjoyed suddenly were disliked.

Dd1 will not eat food which is red. No red apples, grapes, watermelon, tomatoes, cherries, raspberries, strawberries etc. But oddly will eat red peppers and tomato ketchup, tomato pasta sauce and tomato based sauces like bolognaise, chilli etc.
She also doesn't like Oranges, beans or bacon but she loves, mushrooms, cauliflower and green foods, broccoli, green beans, peas etc.

Dd2 doesn't like potatoes or beans or ham. She doesn't like bananas but again will wolf down green foods, broccoli, cucumber, peas etc

I just let them get on with it and try to remember who doesn't like what and make sure there are always veg on offer that they will eat. My brother grew up eating nothing but sausages, burgers and chips as he wouldn't eat anything else no matter how much my mum tried. He now eats lots of fruit and veg so I don't worry too much as I've seen first hand that people can change.

I was a very fussy child, I don't ever remember being hungry though.
As an adult I realise my mum is a really crap cook

I'm not suggesting there are any crap cooks on mumsnet

Fortyplus, dd is on the 91st for height and 9th for weight. She begs for her NG tube back so she doesn't have to eat!!

I begged the consultant not to do a gastronomy because I knew shed never eat again given the choice

YANBU. I was a fussy eater from the start. Definitely not made.

SouthernComforts if it's any consolation ds2 is a fairly normal eater now. He's 6'1" and 11 stone.

I was a fussy eater and a fat teen. My mum started getting anxious about me not eating/ being too thin (I was underweight at one point) and I went the other way.

Good eaters you need to be strict with the types of food they have and don't give food everytime they ask. We have this weird thing of people being frightened about a kid being hungry for an hour before dinner. Unsurprisingly also with obesity. Also sweets/ chocolate/ other sweet crap as a reward for eating meaning that good eaters also get more crap to eat .

Also my mum claims that I would rather go hungry. But with my dds if they don't eat something once she doesn't give it to them again because they don't like it erm yes even with my good eaters we could end up on a highly restricted diet.

I don't know if yabu or not op because I don't live in your house.....