to think that if you don't conceive within about 3 months...

[DaftOne]

... It's likely that you're going to take a long time to conceive?

Posting here rather than conception as just want an open and honest conversation. Really don't want to upset anyone.

Totally anecdotal. It just seems to me that of the people I know, they either get pregnant immediately every time or they have long struggles on their hands. There don't seem to be many "in betweenies" who take between 4-10 months. I'm basically wondering if statistics are misleading, comprising of averaging out those who get pregnant immediately and those who take ages and ages.

(TTC 5 months now and a bit impatient... Can you tell?)

Not every egg a woman produces is euploid (viable). By the time a woman reaches her mid-thirties only 1-in-3 of her eggs is euploid. If one of these women is not having sex at the exact right time (her fertile window) each month then it stands to reason it will take her many months to get pregnant. A woman in her early forties produces only 1-in-6 euploid eggs and after 43 it is 1-in-10. You have to be having plenty of sex at the exact right times to have any chance of catching those golden eggs.
Im with my partner 21 years.Ive had more kids in my 30s and quite late 30s as well than 20s.Which is weird even for me to think about.

I have been pregnant 4 times all in first month of trying, and now am pregnant in the one sex sesh that I have ever had no protection. We are very fertile however had 2 miscarriages out of them which I think is a lot as I am younger.

1 month, 5 months, 1 month.

Good luck!

Pregnant first time about 10 days after stopping the pill, but I believe thats a very fertile time.

Second time was perhaps 7 weeks and I was stressing, which I kndw and know is ridiculous.

I do believe that stress plays a part as a good friend fell pregnant like me the first time, but then with many family bereavements, her second was 4 years of trying.

Interesting thread OP

Our DS was a total accident while I was still on the pill (we worked out there was a reason for it not working as I had a dodgy stomach around conception time) so we weren't even TTC.

We were discussing, in theory, TTC for no.2 at some point in the future. Can't hang about too long as I'm almost 36.
A part of me feels that it's not going to be as easy as DC1, no idea why.

Feel DS has been our little miracle...other friends of mine have been TTC for a long time, some falling PG easy but then having MC, others taking more than a year to 18 months.

Watching replies with interest

Ds pregnant first cycle. That was four years ago.

Dc2 as yet none existent. Been trying 18 months, one failed cycle of ivf with icsi and apparently dh has crap sperm and my eggs are also shit. I'm 30 btw. Trying to decide where to go from here. I cannot believe we have gone from first cycle to conception to being so Infertile that even ivf can't help us.

In my experience if often works that way. I fell pregnant with three after one time, number four was conceived on the pill and number five on the coil.

1 month then 5 months so another inbetweener here.
CBFM was fab. I thought we were going for it at the right times, turned out I ovulate on day 18rather than 14. one months after we figured that out!

I think you are wrong - I think it's just unremarkable if it takes 3-10 months, so you don't hear about it, but plenty of people fall into that category. People may remark if they fall pregnant very quickly, people may make it public if its taking a very long time to conceive and they need support, but very few people will let others know that they've been TTC for a few months.

Took me 8 month the first time (told very few people I was TTC), that pg ended in MMC, I then conceived on 2nd cycle.

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