to ask so what if people think that?

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Friend recently had a baby boy. Her DH goes on about how 'strong' he is, how big and tall, how much bigger than other baby boys he is. Fine. He is a big guy himself.

What irks is any suggestion that his son might, god forbid, appear 'girly' to others. For example, his son was gifted a t shirt that had a pink stripe in it. It's being given to charity as 'no son of mine wears pink. Don't want you being mistaken for a girl'. Friend's cousin allows her small ds to dress up in both cowboy and princess outfits and this is met with a sneer too.

Leaving aside the notion that pink is for girls, I want to shout so fucking what if people think he's a girl?? Like being a girl is weak and pathetic? I get that you might want people to assign the correct gender to your child but is there the same fear attached to people thinking your child might be a boy? As in , I can't dress her in blue, I don't want people to think she's a boy?

Ha my son just took a doll to the shops.He loves it,I couldnt care less if anyone thinks its weird because he is happy.We have clothes with bits of pink on.One friend well ex friend said she wont let her son wear pink and pulled her face.I just smiled and thought you sound really silly.

What if it were your daughters being told they couldn't wear things because they were 'for boys'?

As a mother of a both genders, it would tear me apart to have my dd think she couldn't do something because of her sex, and it is no different for my son.

Societal expectations can just fuck off. If your son wanted to be a nurse and got teased because society says 'it's a girly job' what would you telling him? Or are societal expectations only applicable to clothing? It's such a non sensical argument.

MrsD, do you honestly believe all I do all day every day is inform my daughter that she should wear a dress because she's a girl?

It probably goes without saying, but I will anyway: DD is being raised to know she is the centre of our world and all we want - the only thing actually that DH and I give two moments' thoughts to is her happiness. This applies to our as of yet unborn child too.

I could list all the things that would make DD happy but have a downside to them - but I won't bother. I see no harm in the fact that boys and girls have different clothing and will not dress my children in clothing only considered appropriate for the opposite sex.

I have a feeling that originally pink was for a boy, though.

A nurse is a professional job and one which saves lives. I don't think for a moment it is 'girly.'

Wearing a dress however does not fit that category!

Jeez just read a bit more of the thread.I thought we were just saying it is a bit daft to not let him wear a top have a bit of pink on.I wouldnt send my ds out in a dress,i wouldnt care if he did wear one in a fancy dress game.I wouldnt care if I saw a child in the street in a dress,we are what we are.

Btw Ive never told ds he CANT wear a dress,he just never has shown a desire to.

I didn't actually understand a word of that MrsD! Never mind.

Well, it's obvious we're not going to see eye to eye on this one! If your above post was explicitly suggesting I am stupid I will save you the trouble and cheerfully explain I am absolutely below average intelligence: I can't help it, I was just born this way.

But I do really, really care about my DCs. Shall we leave it at that?

Noone said people didnt care about their kids?

Well, I've evidently given the impression that I don't, because I only want them to look and behave how I want them to, when that isn't the case at all.

No wine for me as am 8 months pregnant!

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My little man dressed in his sisters fairy dresses occasionally. He also slept in all the pink grow bags. Who cares.

I can assure you he's very much a boy now.

I don't have a learning disability MrsD - I am just below average intelligence. I am more than capable of reading, writing and working but I wouldn't describe myself as clever.

As someone has said , you will do as you do with your DCs and I will do the same for mine.

Clothing is different for boys and girls - Why can't people just accept that? Would it be allowed for a male nurse to wear a nurses dress...NO because it's not socially acceptable. Would it be ok for your DC's male teacher to turn up in womens clothes....NO

Teaching and educating our children on social norms and cultures is a responsibility that I feel many of you are very lax about. If they grow up and WANT to wear something different THEN it is there choice. But not when they are little.