to think that dh has a secret facebook and that must mean the worst?

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I deleted my FB account a few months (permanently deleted it) and today I decided to create a new one, out of boredom/interest etc.

I started adding people I know when a mutual friend came up - dh. The mutual friends I had in common are his two close friends and his brother. DH already has an account, one which I was friends with before and re-added. This is an entirely separate one - he is using a shortened version of his name and the profile photo is a very recent one. I can't see anything else as it's private.

I can see his main one with all friends and family etc. I asked my friend to have a look on her account and I sent her the link and it just comes up with page missing.

aibu to think the worst? dh is currently working away and ... I don't want to ask him because it would be all too easy to delete.

My DP has a second Facebook he uses for posting photographs on photography pages. I discovered it by accident but it is innocent enough. He is friends with some real photographers so felt a bit self conscious putting up his amateur pics. Could it be something like that?

Caitlin17 I'm not on it at all, thus I am judging by the incredulous reactions of almost everyone I ever meet that it's fairly unusual! I have been asked often to 'look me up' on Facebook when meeting people in a work context and have had to say I won't be able to. No one has ever not looked surprised.

I would be suspicious too.

I would suggest looking at other internet devices you have in the home to see if he is still logged in anywhere and to check the history.

To have a FB account you need an email address. Do you have a joint email or know is usual everyday email address and password. Usually to set up an email account you need to link it to another for verification purposes. If you can get into his usual email addess check the history or any files (under any random title) to see if there are any links or verification emails in the inbox or deleted box.

He would have to have another email address to open a FB page. So even if the FB page has gone his email wont have and if you are lucky and you find it, it may be full of FB notifications.

Am the voice of bitter experience. People dont have FB accounts to have an affair usually. They use them for sex chat, hook ups and similar - worse case (sorry OP).

Certainly do not mention it again whilst he is away. Play down any concern you have to him in the hope to lull him into a false sense of security. Once he is home facre to face and a computer infront of you get him to reinstate.

Does he play games on fb? I once had 3 accounts to 'gift' myself stuff on a game I was unemployed and very depressed at the time - I now spend my time more productively... sort of.
Sometimes links to facebook pages break, I've even had it with group pages. Maybe try having your friend search for him instead of sending her a link?

The problem with all of these 'innocent' explanations like gifting yourself game items is that if your other half found the account and friend-requested it, you'd accept. And you definitely wouldn't lie about it existing, or pretend that it was old when you've changed your profile picture within the last two weeks.

If it was innocent, he'd have behaved innocently. He hasn't. He's hiding something, which means that there has to be something to hide.

What that is, we can't tell you. It might not be an affair, it could be anything. There is something, though, and that's not good.

I read the OP, went away, then came back and posted - so didn't see the other bits about him lying and deleting it etc. Would def agree that this is now very suspicious

could be that it was just for banter, and he'd been possibly led into making disparaging remarks about you, or sleazy comments about other women and didn't want you to see.
Which in itself would be enough to pee me right off.

Agreed, Falulah. I did wonder whether to mention that it could just be that he follows those pervy accounts or that they've been discussing things that he doesn't want you to see, but I'd still be pretty annoyed at that.